Intro to Family Studies Exam 3

Professor Stech

Sternberg’s Love Triangle

Commitment, Intimacy, Passion

Commitment

A cognitive attachment to another person

Intimacy

Sharing feelings and providing emotional support

Passion

Expressed by touching, kissing, and being affectionate, which are linked to physiological arousal

Jealousy

An emotional response to a real or perceived threat to a valued relationship

Destructive Intimacy Games

Concealing what they really want and attempting instead to manipulate the partner into doing or giving them what they want.

Secure attachment

 Being comfortable with closeness and interdependence with one’s partner and not being fearful of being abandoned by that partner

Sternberg’s 8 loves

Non-love, liking, infatuation, empty love, romantic love, fatuous love, companionate love, consummate love

Non-love

No commitment, intimacy, or passion

Liking

Only intimacy

Infatuation

Only passion

Empty love

Only commitment

Romantic love

Passion and intimacy

Fatuous love

Commitment and passion

Companionate love

Commitment and intimacy

Consummate love

Commitment, intimacy, and passion

Parent-arranged marriage

A practice, common in nonindustrialized societies, in which the parents of the bride and groom select the future spouse and arrange the marriage ceremony

Couple- arranged marriage

A courtship pattern in which couples have freedom of choice in selecting their marriage partner

Dating

A form of courtship involving a series of appointed meetings for social interaction and activities during which an exclusive relationship may evolve between two people

Endogamy

The practice of choosing a mate from within one’s own ethnic, religious, socioeconomic, or general age group

Cohabitation

The state of living together and having a sexual relationship without being married

Common reasons for living together

enables us to spend more time together.

allows us to share sexual and emotional intimacy without the commitment of marriage.

Economic advantage—“We can save money by sharing living expenses.”

We can better learn the habits and character of each other, and if the relationship does not work out, there is no messy divorce.

We can test our compatibility for a potential future marriage–see how we operate on a day-to-day basis.

Engagement—“We are planning to marry.”

Vitalized Couples

Possess strengths in communication, conflict resolution, their sexual relationship, and finances

Harmonious couples

Possess fewer strengths than vitalized couples. They are particularly satisfied with their ability to resolve conflicts and their role relationship

Conventional couples

Generally happy, but do not do as well as vitalized and harmonious couples with personality compatibility, communication, and conflict resolution. They possess strengths in spiritual beliefs, traditional roles, and a network of supportive family and friends

Conflicted couples

Generally unhappy couples. Possess few strengths and multiple areas where they needed growth

Devitalized couples

Very unhappy couples. Almost all had considered divorce. Many of these couples seek out marital therapy or marriage enrichment

Components of a successful marriage

1. Both individuals are independent and mature.
2. Both individuals love not only each other but also themselves


3. Both individuals enjoy being alone as well as together
4. Both individuals are established in their work or occupation.
5. Both individuals know themselves.


6. Both individuals can express themselves assertively
7. Both individuals are friends as well as lovers

Democratic Parenting Style

Parents establish clear rules and expectations and discuss them with the child. Although they acknowledge the child’s perspective, they use both reason and power to enforce their standards.

Children's typical behavior- Self-reliant, cheerful, achievement oriented

Authoritarian Parenting Style

Parents establish rigid rules and expectations and strictly enforce them. These parents expect and demand obedience from a child.

Children's typical behavior- Conflicted, irritable, unhappy, unstable

Permissive Parenting Style

Parents let the child’s preferences take priority over their ideals and rarely force the child to conform to their standards.

Children's typical behavior- Impulsive, rebellious, underachieving

Rejecting Parenting Style

Parents do not pay much attention to the child’s needs and seldom have expectations regarding how the child should behave.

Children's typical behavior- Immature, psychologically challenged

Uninvolved Parenting Style

Parents often ignore the child, letting the child’s preferences prevail as long as those preferences do not interfere with the parents’ activities.

Children's typical behavior- Solitary, withdrawn, underachieving

Myths and Realities of Parenthood

•Children will turn out well if they have “good” parents.



•Children are sweet and cute.



•Good parents can manage any child, no matter what the child’s nature.

•Today’s parents are not as good as yesterday’s parents.

•One child is too few.

•All parents are adults.

•Parenthood receives top priority in our society.

•Love is enough to guarantee good parental performance.

•Single-parent families are problematic.

•Parenting gets easier as children get older.

•Parenting ends when the children leave home.

•The empty-nest syndrome leaves many parents lonely and depressed.