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Sternberg’s Love Triangle
Commitment, Intimacy, Passion
Commitment
A cognitive attachment to another person
Intimacy
Sharing feelings and providing emotional support
Passion
Expressed by touching, kissing, and being affectionate, which are linked to physiological arousal
Jealousy
An emotional response to a real or perceived threat to a valued relationship
Destructive Intimacy Games
Concealing what they really want and attempting instead to manipulate the partner into doing or giving them what they want.
Secure attachment
Being comfortable with closeness and interdependence with one’s partner and not being fearful of being abandoned by that partner
Sternberg’s 8 loves
Non-love, liking, infatuation, empty love, romantic love, fatuous love, companionate love, consummate love
Non-love
No commitment, intimacy, or passion
Liking
Only intimacy
Infatuation
Only passion
Empty love
Only commitment
Romantic love
Passion and intimacy
Fatuous love
Commitment and passion
Companionate love
Commitment and intimacy
Consummate love
Commitment, intimacy, and passion
Parent-arranged marriage
A practice, common in nonindustrialized societies, in which the parents of the bride and groom select the future spouse and arrange the marriage ceremony
Couple- arranged marriage
A courtship pattern in which couples have freedom of choice in selecting their marriage partner
Dating
A form of courtship involving a series of appointed meetings for social interaction and activities during which an exclusive relationship may evolve between two people
Endogamy
The practice of choosing a mate from within one’s own ethnic, religious, socioeconomic, or general age group
Cohabitation
The state of living together and having a sexual relationship without being married
Common reasons for living together
enables us to spend more time together.
allows us to share sexual and emotional intimacy without the commitment of marriage.
Economic advantage—“We can save money by sharing living expenses.”
We can better learn the habits and character of each other, and if the relationship does not work out, there is no messy divorce.
We can test our compatibility for a potential future marriage–see how we operate on a day-to-day basis.
Engagement—“We are planning to marry.”
Vitalized Couples
Possess strengths in communication, conflict resolution, their sexual relationship, and finances
Harmonious couples
Possess fewer strengths than vitalized couples. They are particularly satisfied with their ability to resolve conflicts and their role relationship
Conventional couples
Generally happy, but do not do as well as vitalized and harmonious couples with personality compatibility, communication, and conflict resolution. They possess strengths in spiritual beliefs, traditional roles, and a network of supportive family and friends
Conflicted couples
Generally unhappy couples. Possess few strengths and multiple areas where they needed growth
Devitalized couples
Very unhappy couples. Almost all had considered divorce. Many of these couples seek out marital therapy or marriage enrichment
Components of a successful marriage
Both individuals are independent and mature.
Both individuals love not only each other but also themselves
Both individuals enjoy being alone as well as together
Both individuals are established in their work or occupation.
Both individuals know themselves.
Both individuals can express themselves assertively
Both individuals are friends as well as lovers
Democratic Parenting Style
Parents establish clear rules and expectations and discuss them with the child. Although they acknowledge the child’s perspective, they use both reason and power to enforce their standards.
Children's typical behavior- Self-reliant, cheerful, achievement oriented
Authoritarian Parenting Style
Parents establish rigid rules and expectations and strictly enforce them. These parents expect and demand obedience from a child.
Children's typical behavior- Conflicted, irritable, unhappy, unstable
Permissive Parenting Style
Parents let the child’s preferences take priority over their ideals and rarely force the child to conform to their standards.
Children's typical behavior- Impulsive, rebellious, underachieving
Rejecting Parenting Style
Parents do not pay much attention to the child’s needs and seldom have expectations regarding how the child should behave.
Children's typical behavior- Immature, psychologically challenged
Uninvolved Parenting Style
Parents often ignore the child, letting the child’s preferences prevail as long as those preferences do not interfere with the parents’ activities.
Children's typical behavior- Solitary, withdrawn, underachieving
Myths and Realities of Parenthood
•Children will turn out well if they have “good” parents.
•Children are sweet and cute.
•Good parents can manage any child, no matter what the child’s nature.
•Today’s parents are not as good as yesterday’s parents.
•One child is too few.
•All parents are adults.
•Parenthood receives top priority in our society.
•Love is enough to guarantee good parental performance.
•Single-parent families are problematic.
•Parenting gets easier as children get older.
•Parenting ends when the children leave home.
•The empty-nest syndrome leaves many parents lonely and depressed.
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