Chapter 10

conformity orientation

Refers to how strongly a family enforces the uniformity of attitudes, values, and beliefs.

conversation orientation

Relates to how open families are to discussing a range of topics.

family communication pattern

The four ways conversation and conformity can combine, being consensual, pluralistic, protective, or laissez-faire.

family system

A group of interdependent individuals that interact and adapt together as a whole.

friends with benefits (FWB)

A popular term for nonromantic heterosexual friendships that include sexual activity.

intimacy

A state of close union, contact, association, or acquaintance.

love languages

Gary Chapman argues that each of us has our own notion of what counts as love.

1. Words of Affirmation

2. Quality Time

3. Gifts

4. Acts of Service

5. Physical Touch

relational commitment

A promise—sometimes implied and sometimes explicit—to remain in a relationship and to make that relationship successful.

relational turning point

Transformative events that alter the relationship in a fundamental way.

role

A set of expectations about how to communicate.

triangular theory of love

Robert Sternbergs theory of love having three components.

1. Intimacy: The closeness and connectedness one feels

2. Passion: the physical attraction and emotional arousal

3. Commitment: the rational side of love, involving decisions to maintain the relationship.

Consensual families

Communication is open and comfortable, the ultimate decision making power lies in the father and mother.

Pluralistic Families

Communication is open and unrestrained with all contributions evaluated on their own merits. A consensus emerges from these discussions.

Protective Families

These families emphasizes obedience to authority and the reluctance to share thoughts and feelings. The parents word is final.

Laissez-faire Families

Communication is hands off and decision making is individual.