Youth Ministry Final (Dockery)

According to Doug Fields, what programs do is provide opportunities for students to connect with ___, ___ _______, and with ____ _________ _______.

God, one another, adult volunteers

Simply choosing to be relational isn't enough because you'll quickly realize that students ________________.

Need more time than you alone can give.

What does Fields mean by "You Can't Minister to Everyone?"

All of these are true

How does Fields suggest youth ministers should allot time between adult volunteer leaders and students?

50% with volunteer leaders and 50% with students

What does Fields mean by "5-3-1 Relationships"?

All of these are true

When you show up at a student's game, which of Fields' steps for developing relational style of youth ministry are you following?

Understand the power of prescence.

Which of Fields' steps for developing a relational style of youth ministry involves balancing transparency with not turning you students into your therapists?

Be real.

Which of Fields' steps for developing a relational style of youth ministry involves sharing God's truth with a student, even if it might be something they don't want to hear?

Know when to nudge

Which of Fields' steps for developing a relational style of youth ministry involves learning the art of saying no?

Establish Boundaries.

Which of Fields' steps for developing a relational style of youth ministry involves bringing in qualified professionals to help your students deal with significant issues?

Learn to refer.

From the preface of the book, how did Clark go about researching?

By serving as a substitute teacher and interacting directly with students.

From "The Changing Adolescent World", which of these statements is true?

Both of these are true.

From "The Changing Face of Adolescence", adolescence as we know it was a cultural invention of Western society that was first noticed around what year?

1900

Adolescence is the journey from __________ adulthood to _______ adulthood.

biological; societal

What is true about the age of onset puberty in girls over the last 100 years?

The age of puberty for girls has been slowly dropping.

What is the general consensus today about when adolescence ends?

Adolescence ends somewhere in the middle to late twenties.

In 1940, divorce affected __ of the married population; by 2002, ___ of the first-time marriages end in separation or divorce within the first 15 years of marriage.

2%;43%

Mid-adolescence generally corresponds to:

Grades 9-12 and ages 15-18

Why is midadolescence so important to study?

All of these are true

From Hurt chapter 2, "as young people attempt to navigate the increasing complexity of life, they are both ______________, and _________________."

incredibly resilient; deeply wounded

Which of the following are examples of the "hurrying" of children?

all of these are true

What is true of many of the adult-led organizations and activities that provide opportunities for children to be involved in sports, dance, drama, music, and other activities?

all of these are true

Clark highlights the problem of the ignored middle student. what does this refer to?

all of these are true

Organizations and structures that were originally concerned with children's care, welfare, and development have come less interested in __________________ or the ________________ of the adult in charge.

Institutional perpetuation; competitive needs

The postmodern family is often so concerned about the needs, struggles, and issues of _______________ that the emotional and developmental needs of the ________________ go largely unmet.

parents; children

The loss of __________________ has been the most devastating of developing adolescents.

Meaningful relationships with adults

"Research has consistently shown that ________________ forces children that sacrifice their own developmental needs to meet the needs of their parents - needs that they are, needless to say, ill equipped to meet."

parental conflict

"In all societies since the beginning of time, adolescents have learned to ____________ by observing, imitating and interacting with ______________ around them."

become adults; grown-ups

"Systemic _____________ by institutions and adults who are in positions originally designed to care for adolescents has created a culture of ________________."

abandonment; isolation

What does Clark mean by "the world beneath"?

A separate and highly structured social system created by mid adolescents in response to systemic abandonment

Which of the following is true of Clark's idea of "multiple selves"?

All of these are true

Midadolescents have become adept at making adults believe that the selves they see in reality ___________.

The entire package.

Clark suggests that the apparent callousness and indifference that is frequently shown by midadolescents is what?

A test of the genuineness of any adult who tried to come too close.

As adolescence has lengthened and its members are more isolated, what have young people begun to wonder, according to Clark?

if anyone truly cares about them.

According to Clark, what are the most vital things that those close to individual midadolescents can do?

understand their word and provide boundaries that will keep them from making seriously negative choices.

Which of the following is not true of clusters?

Clusters are groups of "friends", a word that means the virtually the same that it did in the late 1970s.

What is the relationship between clusters and adolescence?

All of these are true.

The transition from junior high to high school is a traditional shift from ________.

one stage of adolescence to another

From Clark's chapter on school, what is true about teachers who are passionate about their subjects and genuinely like their students?

They are more effective teachers and more likely to encourage students to be better students.

What does Clark say about getting good grades?

both of these are true.

What does Clark say about cheating?

All of these are true.

Which of the follow does Clark not say about schools?

Schools show a great deal of consideration for what all of the expectations and pressures do to the development and health of midadolescents.

What does Clark conclude about schools and adolescents?

Both of these are true

From the chapter on family: "Overwhelming data regarding the influence of parents on child and adolescent development reveal that the most important place of safety for a young person is _______________________."

a supportive dual-parent setting

What does Clark say about the practice cohabitation?

All of these are true.

Which of the following does Clark not say about conflict between parents and their children during midadolescence?

all of these are true

Clark's recommendations for parenting midadolescents well could be summarized by what two words?

understanding and boundaries.

From his chapter on sports, what does Clark say that youth sports build in children today?

arrogance, self-centeredness, and a destructive performance ethic.

Clark says that based on his research, he became convinced of what about youth sports?

these activities are no longer for or about students; they are for and about the adults in charge.

According to Clark, what is the best thing we can do to help adolescents overcome the negative aspects of sports and other competitive activities?

help them to see that what matters truly is not whether or not they win, but "how they play the game"

In the chapter on sex, what does Clark report about teens and STDs?

All of these are true

"Social science research is beginning to recognize that __________________________ can have measurable negative consequences."

nonmarital sexual activity and intimacy

Clark concludes that adolescent sexuality is mainly about what?

The desire for relational connection driven by loneliness

What does Clark say about sex and sexual play for teenagers?

All of these are true

From the chapter on busyness and stress, how much sleep do midadolescents average per night?

5-6 hours

Which of the following does Clark not say about teens and busyness?

Midadolescents really aren't that busy; they are just unaware of what real busyness looks like.

What does research show about jobs for midadolescents?

All of these are true

Which of the following does Clark not say about teens and performance?

When teens do well on something, they are able to enjoy it and feel great satisfaction.

What is true of the ethics and morals of adolescents?

They see it as acceptable to dispose of ethics and morals if it serves a need.

"Pervasive and unchecked _______ has become a central reality to almost every midadolescent in our culture."

lying

Which of the following is true about adolescents and cheating?

All of these are true

How do midadolescents view cheating?

All of these are true

Which is true about midadolescents who drink and smoke?

Both of these are true

"Parents and other adults who desire to protect and nurture midadolescents would do well to approach the issue of parties with respect for _________"

The communal experience

In his discussion of kids at the margins, what are the two broad groups of kids that Clark discusses?

privileged (those who they believe have an external standard they are destined to attain) and vulnerable (those who believe they have no chance in life because they are not perceived as gifted or talented)

What does Clark suggest is the most significant help we can offer our young?

A bottom up approach where we care for individual young people and address their needs.

Which of the following does Clark not identify as one of three specific needs of adolescents?

Youth need to be constantly affirmed in whatever they are doing.

Which of the following is not true?

young people need freedom to learn who they are away from the interference of adults.

"Every child needs authentic, intimate relationships with __________ until he or she has completed much of the adolescent process."

adults

The only way we can stem the tide of the consequences of abandonment is what?

Encourage a wide variety of adults to take part in the lives of the young.

Which of the following does Clark say should be especially were of the culture and needs of post-modern midadolescents?

All of these are true

"The nurture and care of the young in society is the responsibility of _______."

Every adult in society

What should parents be aware of in light of the cultural systemic abandonment of the young?

all of these are true

What does a single individual not have the ability to serve as the only role model a student needs?

All of these are true

Moral Therapeutic Deism

1 A god exists who created and ordered the world and watches over human life on earth

2. God wants people to be good, nice, and fair to each other, as taught in the Bible and by most world religions.

3. The central goal of life is to be happy and feel good about oneself.

4. God does not need to be particularly involved in one's life except when God is needed to resolve a problem.

5. Good people go to heaven when they die

Cultural Christianity

It's Christianity as our culture views it and describes it, but not as the Bible views it and describes it

Biblical Christianity

1. God care so much about creating that Jesus came to redeem it and fix what is broken

2. God wants us to be more than nice; he wants hospitality and compassion

3. God cares more about our holiness than our happiness

4. God wants to be an intimate part of your life - every thought and every action

5. God graciously wants to save us from sin - even though we aren't good.

COTAM 3 untruths

Greg Lukianoff and Johnathan Haidt 2015

1. Fragility: What doesn't kill you makes you weaker. Children are anti fragile and must be exposed to new situations to mature and grow. Expanded conceptions of trauma and safety that re no longer based in research.

- Safetyism: Obsession with eliminating threats to the point at which people become unwilling to make reasonable tradeoffs demanded by other concerns.

2. Emotional reasoning: always trust your feelings. What really frightens us are not external events, but the way we think about them.

- Cognitive behavior therapy: identify cognitive distortions and then change unhealthy thought patterns. Feeling a negative emotional response because you disagree with someone is not the same as being harmed by them

3. Us vs. Them: life is a battle between good people and evil people. The human mind naturally divides the world into us/them

-Common humanity identify politics (MLK): humanized his opponents and appealed to common humanity. Common enemy identify politics demonizes opponents and produces call out culture where almost anything can result in public shaming; bad for mental health and incompatible with real education.

Hurt 2.0

1. Midadolescents see it as okay to cheat - stress and pressure to be successful, fact that everyone else cheats, blaming others and teachers for ending to cheat

2. Midadolescents feel the need to get a job but the stress of the job often outweighs the benefits - hard to balance job, sports, extra curricular activities, family life - so you must try and find a balance and parents should try and support this idea.

Concepts from class

1. Midadolescence - I have professional interest in the behavior of high school kids, and the way it changes through time. Hurt 2.0 covers the reasons behind behavior in a interesting way.

2. 4+1 - investing in students even after they leave the group. Something that should be done habitually anyway, so that students have a lifeline at college or whatever their next adventure may be.

3. Moral Therapeutic Deism - I had never really considered that before because I had thought that, most of those things were apart of God's expectations for us.