Respectful Relationships

guilt trip

When a person blames the actions of the person for their own feelings or actions.

e.g. if you knew how to cook properly, I wouldn’t get angry  

control

When a person tries to make another person to behave to take actions to please them.

e.g. I think it’s best that I sort out what you wear tonight so that I can be proud of you

criticism

When a person finds fault with another person or things that are important to them.

e.g. your parents are so stupid for their beliefs

emotional abuse

When a person acts in a way that may cause a person to lose their sense of identity, dignity or self-worth.

e.g. if you don’t come to the football with me, I’ll find a decent girlfriend who will

isolation

Actions that seek to remove a person from their support networks

e.g. being nasty to a partner’s friends or family so they stay away

respect

Considerations for other feelings, needs, thoughts and rights

trust

To feel safe emotionally and physically with a person

honesty

Choosing not to lie, cheat, steal or deceive in any way

loyalty

To be there for each other and work to resolve any differences in opinions

empathy

To understand or feel what the other person is experiencing

safety

 To feel physically and emotionally safe from harm and abuse

equality

When one person does not hold power over another

Each person is valued equally

love

An intense feeling of deep affection. The act of caring and giving to someone else. Having someone’s best interest and wellbeing as a priority in your life. To truly love is a very selfless act.

infatuation

A feeling of foolish or obsessively strong love for, admiration for, or interest in someone or something: strong and unreasoning attachment

These feelings are usually one sided, not reciprocated or the person is completely unaware.

e.g. Stockholm Syndrome