PSY2105- dimensions of parenting

what is warmth in parenting

reponsiveness and affection displayed by parent

• ability to respond to Childs wants and needs

• trying to understand what's going on for the child

• look from Childs perspective

• affectionate, empathy

what is unresponsive in parenting

• not trying to understand from Childs perspective

• own idea of what should be done and what's happening

• not caring about Childs perspective

hostile/unresponsive—————————warm

what is control in parenting

amount of regulation and supervision given

• positive

• you know where child is, what they are watching, who their friends are

• setting boundaries with child

• kids need clear rules, boundaries, and expectation and they do better IF its paired with warmth

low control———————- high control

signs of warm parents

responsive, smile at the children, praise, and encourage

signs of hostile parents

unresponsive, quick to criticize, punish, belittle

what are the positive consequences of warmth

• building trust

• social skills

• connection before direction: kids want a connection with parents

  • ex. let them come home from school and decompress, snack, ask about day

  • if a child feels heard and validated, they are more likely to do such tasks that aren't exactly fun

what are the negative consequences of warmth

• coddling

• narcissistic attitudes

signs of controlling parents

• limit children, place APPROPRIATE demands on them

• monitor children to ensure compliance

  • making sure child is following through

signs of uncontrolling parents

not restrictive, few demands

what are advantages of high levels of control in parenting

• routines in place

• disipline

what are disadvantages of controlling parents

• could become disconnected with parent

• could ask too much of the child

what are the 4 kinds of parenting styles

authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, uninvolved

authoritarian, control without warmth

• demanding, restrictive, obedience, use punitive means to assure compliance, little explanation, little give and take

  • ex. 13 year old wants to go to party with 17 year olds drinking. parent says they are not ready, authoritarian parents say “no your not going” “because I said so”

what are the drawbacks of authoritarian parenting

• kid becomes resentful

  • no connection with parent

• kid becomes oppositional

• kid doesn't even try to fight it, and just listens

  • “I don't really matter, what I say doesn't matter”

  • they are gonna say no anyways

authoritative, warmth and control

characteristics:

• discipline in warm, supportive environment, form control, expect mature behaviour, explain standards in rules, encourage children's input

  • ex. 13 year old at 17 year old party. answer is the same but the explanation is different

  • “my job as a parent is to make sure you are safe”

what are the advantages and outcomes of authoritative parenting

advantages

• helps child understand but maintaining control

• if answer is gonna be yes, allow kid to come up with reasoning skills

  • “convince me”

outcomes

• kid feels valued and what they said matters

  • confidence

• do better academically

  • teaching of problem solving skills

• learn to turn to someone else

permisive, warmth without control

characteristics:

• responsive, warm, undemanding , nurturing, accepting, avoid imposing control, allow children to regulate own behaviour, make own decisions

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what are the drawbacks and consequences of permissive parenting

drawbacks:

• they don't know how to hear the word no

• hard when things don't go their way

consequences:

• overly permissive- kid can't go to parent for advice because they know more then they do

• mature faster

• kids develop a lot of anxiety as they make decisions above what they should be doing at their age

• harder time fitting in

uninvolved: no warmth, no control

characteristics:

• uncontrolling and hostile, little commitment to parenting, little interest in children and their activities, avoid inconvenience

• preoccupied parents

  • 13 year old wanting to party, kid may not ask to go and just leave and parent might not notice

what are the consequences of uninvolved parenting

• fend for themselves

  • older kid starts taking care of younger. “parentified”

  • grow up way too quickly

• kids fall into wrong crowd

• kids have need to be heard and understood, so they look for it wherever they can

• sets tone for future relationships

what are some factors that contribute to parenting styles

• individual differences in child behaviour and personality

• gender

• mental health issues

• parenting styles change when a child is hospitalized