COM 112 Exam 3

Relationship maintenance involves behaviors that contribute to connection and behaviors that pull one away from connection. Successful maintenance behaviors ensure that the pull away is in in balance with the pull toward the relationship.

True

Working longer hours so you don't have to see your partner, engaging in conflict characterized by criticism and condescension, focusing on kids routine to avoid meaningful interaction.

relationship deterioration

Inclusion is met by seeking and finding each other, affection is met by acceptance of hand-holding and other positve regard behaviors, and control is met when your suggestions for new things to do is accepted.

relationship development

avoidance of topics that will upset partner to keep the peace, avoidance of topics to the extent it harms the relationship

circumscribing

Entering into a legally binding relationship with another person.

bonding stage of relationship

Confirmation messages outnumber disconfirmation messages in a relationship

relationship maintenance

Avoiding topics or issues that could be a catalyst for a fight.

Circumscribing

Going to new places and trying new activities with your partner

experimenting

including each other in your respective lives

integrating

The relationship become routine

stagnating

Making a point to not be around when your partner is present. 

avoiding

Making a legal commitment to each other

bonding

You stay with a person because when you express an opinion or preference, s/he acknowledges it. S/he demonstrates behavior s/he knows you prefer and avoids those s/he knows you don't like. You have influence in the relationshiup.

Control

You seek out a person because the positive feelings you have for each other are demonstrated verbally and nonverbally

affection

You seek out a person because when you are with them you feel part of something

Inclusion

Making decisions that assert your independence from the relationship.

differentiating

Introducing your partner to your family, friends, and your favorite places to go.

integrating

Introducing yourself to someone you are attracted to, with the goal of pursing a romantic relationship.

initiating

Trying new things with your relationship partner.

experimenting

Activities in the relationship that shift the connection to comfortably predictable to boring routine.

stagnating

The style of handling conflict that involves a high degree of concern for both parties and willingness to redine the conflict issue

collaboration

Conflict style in which parties "meet in the middle" (giving up some to get some of what was wanted)

compromise

Conflict style that involves giving in to the demands of the other.

accomadation

Occurs when people ignore or stay away from conflict situations.

avoidance

Conflict style characterized by a win/lose dynamic.

competition

Thank you for the invitation to speak at the wedding, but I prefer to remain in the background

Assertive communication

You hit the mark on the proposal. It was well done.

Evaluative confirmation

You are talking to your friend, but your friend is preoccupied and doesn't seem to be listening.  You can't get a response from your friend.

Imperviousness

I disagree with your advice to keep this a secret, and here's why.

Argumentative

That's the stupidest thing you've ever said.

Aggressiveness

Using concrete, visual terms as a way of offering your thoughts, feelings, and wants without judging the listener

Description

Communicating in a way that indicates that the other is valued as much as self is valued.

Equality

Using statements that provide support by accepting the other person's feelings.

Empathy

Communicating in a way the is in-the-moment genuine response during interaction, instead of planned strategy for communicating

Spontaneity

Using statements that indicate the possibility that other perspectives or other information is available

Provisionalism

Based on Attraction Theory, if you are a member of an online group that has to do with a hobby you enjoy, you are more likely to become attracted to a person also on that same online forum. Which basis/bases for attraction explains this outcome?

Similarity and Proximity

The dimension of a message that refers to objective reality or the subject of conversation is know as __________.

Content dimension of a message

The theory that explains relationship development using an economic model is __________.

Exchange Theory

Which element in Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love is characterized by high levels of self-disclosure, mutual respect, and liking?

Intimacy

Which of the following is not a strategy for relationship maintenance?

Commitment to total honesty in the relationship.

Self-disclosure is most related to which dialectical tension?

Expression-Privacy

Families low in conversation orientation and high in conformity orientation are ______________.

protective

What element in definition of conflict is present which you tell your partner what is bothering you and your partner eplains why s/he is reluctant to accommodate you?

Expressed Struggle

Nonverbal behaviors are a least credible source of relational messages.

False

*Conformity orientation* refers to the degree to which family communication stresses uniformity of attitudes, values, and beliefs.

True

Social scientists label families with too little cohesion as *enmeshed.* 

False

A *family* is defined as “a system with two or more interdependent people who have a common past history and a present reality and who expect to influence each other in the future."

true

A stronger indicator of relationship deterioration is not increased conflict but absence of “quiet appreciation of the other.”

True

Term used to describe the dynamic of across-sex friendship that develops outside of a marriage.

Work spouse

A type of friendship that facilitates satisfaction of sexual needs without emotional commitment.

Friends with benefits

Friendship behavior expectations based on characteristics of masculinity and femininity friends demonstrate.

Sex role

A large-scale national survey found almost no differences in the number of close friends reported by men and women, nor in how friendship is communicated.

characteristics of same-sex friendship

Women bond through mutual self-disclosure, while men bond over shared actitivites

gender influence on friendship