-"I am emotionally distant, I am skeptical, others are unreliable, I am uncomfortable being close"-unwilling to become close/share feelings w/ partner-"my desire to become close sometimes scares people away"-"I want to be emotionally intimate w/ others, but I find that they are reluctant to get as close as I would like"-fearful (recognize need for others but avoid them b/c untrustworthy)-dismissing (deny need for attachment)