Salesian Family , Genuine Friendships

Salesians of Don Bosco

Founded 1859 in Turin, ItalyFounder:Saint John Bosco

Salesian Sisters of Don Bosco

(Daughters of Mary, Help of ChristiansFounded Aug 5, 1872, Turin, ItalyFounders: St. Maria Domenica MazzarellaSt. John Bosco

Visitation of Holy Mary

Founded June 6, 1610 inAnnecy France(Cloistered)Founders: St. Francis de SalesSt. Jane Frances de Chantal

Missionaries of St. Francis de Sales

Founded October 24, 1838 in Annecy FranceFounder:Fr. Pierre-Marie Mermier

Oblates of St. Francis de Sales

Founded Dec 21, 1875 in Troyes, France Founders: Blessed Louis Brisson Marie de Sales Chappuis, VHM

Oblate Sisters of St. Francis DeSales

Founded April 11, 1866 in Troyes, FranceFounders: Blessed Louis Brisson, Saint Leonie Aviat

Where were the oblates of st. francis DeSales founded?

Founded in 19th Century France (the city of Troyes)

who founded the oblates of st. francis DeSales?

Fr. Louis Brisson

What did Fr. Louis Brisson co-found prior to the oblates?

The oblate sisters

who Encouraged Fr. Brisson to form a community of religious priests and brothers

Mother Marie deSales Chappuis ("The Good Mother")

The motto from the Oblate Shield isa line from the Song of Songs, meaning...

"I have taken hold and will not let go."

Troyes

An ancient medieval city - a center of textile manufacturing in the middle ages.

Who founded the visitation of Holy Mary (VHM)

Co-Founded by Francis de Sales and Saint Jane de Chantal

Where was the visitation of Holy Mary (VHM) founded?

in 1610 Annecy, France

The Visitation of Holy Mary (VHM)

Originally intended to be a simple community dedicated to apostolic service, but in its second foundation(1615) was established as a Cloistered religious order.

where is The Oblates' "Motherhouse" located

Childs, Maryland

The Oblate sisters motto

Nec plus, nec minus" means Nothing more, nothing less.

The Salesians of Don Bosco (SDB) share a charism with the Oblates

the education of youth.

Saint John Bosco

Livedmost of his life and ministry in Turin,Italy. The honorific "Don" in Italian isthe equivalent of our use of "Father"as a title for priests. ("Don" was nothis first name.)

The shield of the Salesiansof Don Bosco.

The heart aflame should look familiar to what you saw on theOblate profession cross since it comes from St.Francis' own coat of arms.

The motto"Da mihi animas, caetera tolle" means

roughly Give me souls, take (forget)everything else.

The Salesian Sisters of Don Bosco

Largest women's religious community in theworld - over 11,000 sisters.

Another name for The Salesian Sisters of Don Bosco

(The Daughters of Mary, Help of Christians)

who founded The Salesian Sisters of Don Bosco

St. Don Bosco and Mary Mazzarello

The Missionaries of St. Francis de Sales are known as...

"Fransalians"

who founded The Missionaries of St. Francis de Sales

Founded in 1838 by Fr. Pierre Marie Mermier, aFrench diocesan cleric (like Louis Brisson.)

Evangelical Counsels

Taken as vows by the most religious women and men. They are vows of
-Poverty
-Chastity
-Obedience
Also indicated at Baptism

Yes

Are all Christians to live out these aspects of our lives (chastity, poverty, obedience)

It can be shared with a pet

According to St. Francis de Sales (and Aristotle) which of the following is NOT true of genuine friendship?

Desires the good of the other person

Which of the following characterizes benevolent love?

Can share virtuous things with you

According to St. Francis de Sales, we should: "Love everyone with a deep love based on charity,...... but form friendships only with those who___________________."

Complementarity

Janet and John are deeply in love with each other and have become engaged to marry. Their genuine friendship has matured to the point that each of them feels like "not a full friendship is best described by the term:

Objectivization

Jack has decided he wants the manager's job in their district of his firm. He knows that one of hs co-workers is a favorite niece of the firm's CEO. So he begins taking her out to dinner and other favorite things she enjoys, even though he doesn't really like her and plans to "dump" her as soon as he can. But he hopes that she will describe him in positive terms to her uncle with the idea that he (Jack) will become the favored candidate for the manager's position. What is a proper term for Jack's interaction with this woman?

Exception of Wisdom

Friendship is the " sun of life...the best gift which the immortal gods have given us with the............. " ( Cicero )

That we live

" Friendship matters because it is only through love......." (Paul Waddell)

Aristotle's definition of natural friendship

-It must be between (among) human beings
-It must be reciprocal
-Friends seek what is good for each other (one another)
-It is rare and takes a long time to develop
-It results in a communal life that makes one "fully human"

Cicero's definition of natural friendship

-Based on instinct of sociability
-" An accord on all human things accompanied by benevolence and affection "
-Friendships are rare
-Nature's gift to help us live virtuous lives
-Virtue forms and preserves friendship

Cardinal virtues

Temperance Prudence Courage Justice

Theological virtues

Faith Hope Love

Heavenly virtues

Chastity Temperance Charity Diligence Patience Kindness Humility

Christian virtues

" Gifts of the Holy Spirit"
◦ Wisdom ◦ Understanding ◦ Counsel ◦ Fortitude ◦ Knowledge ◦ Piety ◦ Awe

Virtue

" To raise one's level of consciousness is the greatest gift that one can give the world."
" The Truth shall set us free . . ."

Salesian Character of Friendship

◦ Only between (among) among human beings
◦ Based on reason
◦ Mutual love of benevolence based on open communication
◦ Requires a certain degree of compatibility

Benevolent, generous

"Love can be unselfish, in the sense of being .............. and .............., without being selfless" (Mortimer J Adler)

Ancient naming of love

◦ Philia ◦ Storge ◦ Eros ◦ Agape ◦ Pragma

Love of cupidity

selfish love ("Need love")

Love of benevolence

seeks the good of the other ("Gift Love")

Love of complacence

takes pleasure in the good of another ("Appreciative Love")

Mutual

Love of friendship is ............ benevolence

Dilection

Preferential love of friendship. A love of special choice

Charity

Supreme and sovereign dilection. Friendship with God

Charity chapter

1 Corinthians 13 is the ................... not the love chapter.
◦ " Love is patient, love is kind . . ."

Charity

.................... has a more nuanced meaning in the Bible than does love . Paul is describing this unique attribute called charity. Charity may need to suffer or face things it does not prefer, but it does rejoice in the truth to the benefit of others

Love

.............. is commonly used to describe that inner affection for something with pleasing qualities, beauty, or worth. We love things that are valuable, beautiful to us or that we prefer. You might love pizza or texting. But you can't be charitable to them.

The Love of Skill or Ability

Some people love to improve themselves and show off their talents and abilities. While this may bring them success, fame, or a sense of achievement it is not charity

Communication

determines the nature of friendship

Calvin and Hobbes

"Friends pick us up when we fall down, and if they can't pick us up, they lie down and listen for a while"

Friendship

The most dangerous kind of love

Love (deSales)

............. causes us to be like the one we love

Frenemies

"Everyone has enough bad inclinations of his own without burdening himself with another's," wrote St. Francis. "A friend who would lead us into sin has become our enemy."

Highest level of friendship

The highest form are those in which charity, devotion and spiritual perfection are communicated

False / Imperfect Friendship Friendship

Essentially selfish or self-focused
◦ Characterized by a deeply unequal needs balance
◦ Tendency to objectivize the other
The other becomes an object to satisfy my needs
Loss of agency on the part of the other
Can even progress to verbal, emotional, even physical violence
Often based on an appeal to the senses ◦ Sexual gratification ("Lust" vs. "Love")
◦ Also Power, Control, "Revenge"
Not rooted in virtue

Think, act

How we use language (i.e. how we speak) reveals how we ........ And how we think determines how we............"

Spiritual friendship

Created, sustained and nurtured by the Holy Spirit. Sharing of devotion and spiritual affection to become one spirit. It is a preferential love (Dilection)

Heart Speaks to Heart

" Cor Ad Cor Loquitur"

Theological Foundation of Spiritual Friendship

In Christianity, it is grounded in the Trinity. ◦ Father, Son, Holy Spirit . Three "persons" in one divinity. God is a communicating God. Conversation in two-way. Prayer is of its essence, both listening as well as speaking. The Salesian concept of love makes us appreciate the reciprocity and communication needed for friendship.

Complementary

making whole ; as in "completion" of a partial entity or organization

Compliment

which is a polite expression of praise or admiration.
"Compliments" can often be fake or self-serving

Ourselves

We have first to be a friend to .............., before we can become a friend to another

Individuality and Intimacy

"Let us seek only to be who we are - and then be that passionately well."

Endure forever there

"Truly it is a blessed thing to love on earth as we hope to love in heaven, and to begin that friendship here which is to............." (deSales)

Then what's forever for

l " If love is not forever, ..........................?" --Michael Martin Murphey

Eternally in the next

" The friendships that were good in this life will continue.............." (De Sales)

Alone

" It is not wrong to be happy. But it is wrong to be happy all ..............." --Albert Camus

Out of fear

We must fear God out of love, not love him........