intimate relationships study guide 1

FSOS 1101

Traditional intimacy approach

old source and/or knowledge is authoritative (God and Faith)

Modern intimacy approach

source is new, and knowledge is “cutting edge” (data)

Postmodern intimacy approach

source is personal, and knowledge is individualized (put it all together, POV)

prefix intra:

within, self focused

prefix inter:

between, in regard to others

can intimacy be defined?

no, intimacy has many meanings and can depend on someones experience and opinions.

intimacy

open and warm connection between two people

love

affection and or attachment to another person

evolutionary theory of attraction

the theory that men and women look for specific, or the “best”, traits or resources in the other sec to advance procreation.

Filter theory of attraction

the theory that there is more than one “fish in the sea” and that there are levels to how attracted to or similar you are to others

Wheel of love

a model defined by four components that account for psychological, cultural, and social aspects when a couple is entering a relationship cycle

triangular theory

Intimacy, passion, and commitment are three key components to a relationship or love, and each component should also be focused on individually or in pairs.

Eros

romantic, erotic, aesthetic, “hopeless romantic”

Mania

Obsessive, insecure, consumed by partner, jealous

Ludus

non-committal, carefree, casual, “love game”, pleasure seeking

Storge

slow burn, friendship, solid, stable

Agape

deeply committed, self-sacrificing, co-dependent

Pragma

Practical, value status/prestige, security, logical

secure views on self and others

positive view of self and positive view of others

Anxious/preoccupied views on self and others

negative view of self and positive view of others

Dismissive/avoidant views on self and others

Positive view of self and negative view of others

fearful/avoidant views on self and others

negative view of self and negative view of others

true/false: race is a social construct

true

true/false: interracial couples may face difficulties like fetishization, stereotypes, and status assumptions.

true

true/false: interracial couples usually do not share religious, language, or culture.

false

ethnocentrism

assuming your culture is superior

assimilation

replacing old cultural values for the dominant culture

acculturation

Blending old and new cultures

moores

stated rules of society

taboos

moral wrongs of society

folkways

Informal rules of society

concrete

visible, tangible, surface levels aspects of a culture (food, clothing, music)

behavioral

social roles, nonverbal communication, politics, language, and more

Biopsychosocial/spiritual approach

examines how different parts of our being connect and influence one another. ex.) butterflies before a first date

what are the two pre-inteaction stages of the filter theory of attraction in order.

dating pool and attractive characteristic

what are the three interaction stages of this theory

social background, complementary, commitment

rapport

mutual understanding and comfort

self-revaluation

sharing intimate aspects (dreams, future plans, fears ). May involve sexual activity

mutual dependencies

Partners become dependent on one another to fulfill one’s own needs

needs fulfillment

basic personality needs that define and maintain a relationship

non-love with the triangular theory

absence of all three main components

romantic love with the triangular theory

combination of passion and intimacy

compassionate love with the triangular theory

combination of commitment and intimacy

fatuous love with the triangular theory

combination of passion and commitment. Develops quickly, with no time for a “true liking”

consummate love with the triangular theory

combination of all three main components

explain the “strange situation”

developed by Mary Ainsworth. A psychological experiment that tests the attachment of infants to their caregiver. tests babies’ anxiety levels and associated behaviors when separated from their mother and when interacting with a stranger.

secure attachment

comfortable with intimacy and autonomy. can rely on parents (childhood). Not worried about being alone. Views self and others as positive

dismissive/avoidant

comfortable without close emotional relationships. Importance of independence. Supress and hide feelings.

anxious/preoccupied

wants to be emotionally connected with others. Seeks approval and can be viewed as “clingy”

fearful/avoidant

“mixed feelings” about close relationships; they want an intimate relationship, but they are afraid of getting hurt

personality

an encompassment of character that we enact through our distict thoughts, feelings, and behaviors

What are the Big five?

oppeness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism