balanced living boundaries, 5 stages of grief, social media test review

physical, emotional, material, time, relationships, sexual

6 types of boundaries

physical boundary

represents your personal space, who can touch you, where, when, and how they may touch you
example- I don't want someone to greet me with a hug because it makes me uncomfortable

emotional boundary

respecting your feelings, what you are willing and not willing to share, how you allow people to talk to you
example- I don't feel comfortable talking about sad events in my life because I don't like crying in front of others

material boundary

refers to how much money or resources you give or loan to people, what you are comfortable with sharing
example- I can only lend my friend $20 for gas because that's what I'm comfortable sharing

time boundary

what you are willing to spend your time on. time you spend on someone, something, or time boundaries at work
example- I tell my boss that I cannot work on Sundays because I need to go to church

relationship boundary

what behavior are you willing and not willing to put up with. boundaries mutually agreed on with your partner or friend
example- i tell my roommate that i need the room to be pitchblack at nighttime so i can fall asleep

sexual boundary

this encompasses consent, respecting different desires, and preferences. also involves your comfort with sharing of details
example- a man at a bar does something inappropriate to me so i punch him in the face

6 ideas i relate to the most

- be honest and direct. be respectful and not accusatory
- remind myself my needs are important
- communicate requests
- keep my cool
- be willing to repeat boundaries
- negotiate

value

a reason that you do something/something important to you

trust, confidence, thankfulness, hard work, kindness

5 values

fortune telling: "my friends didn't comment on my post, so they think i'm ugly
self-defeating comparisons: she looks so happy in her post. i wish i was like her

2 though distortions I relate to the most

5 stages of grief

- denial: "are you sure?"
- anger: "it's not fair"
- bargaining: "if I do.. maybe they'll"
- depression: no hope
- acceptance: finding a new normal

why is it important to go through each stage of grief

it helps you process/experience all emotions in a healthy way. prevents you from bottling up emotions