pastoral counseling exam 2

What are the 3 points of culture is crises?

a culture of relativism

a culture of shallowness

a culture of selective or misinformation

what is the reality of our culture according to the SSA lecture?

a growing acceptance of SS unions and adoption

regular teaching in public school of the LGBTQIA+ agenda

negligible attention of the medical/psychiatric dangers of the lifestyle

despite no evidence of a gay gene, there is an agenda in America to promote this myth

media

education

corporate

judicial/legislative

what are the common characteristics found in both SS males and females

father conflicts

anger against Judeo-Christian values

issues surrounding authority

poor body image

peer rejection

SA

issues of trust

issues surrounding attachment

promiscuity

86% of all newly reported cases of HIV/AIDS came from men who had claimed to be in “committed, monogamous” relationships

hedonism

averaged 20 different sexual partners, a month.

domestic violence

high risk behaviors

unprotected sex, spontaneous sex, multiple sex partners

attraction

inherently flexible. women demonstrate greater initial receptivity in SS relationships than men

experimentation

SS experimentation is an established statistical reality among people regardless of ethnicity, classicism, or geographic region

orientation

sexual orientation has been found to be unstable over time in both males and females

established tendencies of persons with SSA orientation

unwilling to receive the truth about sexual morality

a given experience may experience strong physical and sexual attractions to persons of the SS

harbor excessive anger toward the Church’s teachings on sexual morality

refuse to accept scriptures toward Biblical lifestyle

results of successful therapy: the rule of 3rd’s

200 people study = sustained change of orientation for 5+ years

61% of males, 44% of females satisfied the criteria for healthy hetero functioning.

a spiritual component part was a part of the recovery process

1/3 find full healing and have families/marry

1/3 may not develop an attraction to the opposite sex, but diminish

1/3 may struggle w SSA; they learn not to act and live happy/chaste lives

what are the goals of counseling in an SSA environment

build trust

establish physical health concerns

discover history of sexual activity

be exceptionally aware of boundaries, transference, and counter - transference dynamics

identify and work to resolve the emotional pain which causes SSA

uncover sadness, anger, weakened confidence, mistrust, poor body image, narcissism

uncover/resolve anger

image of women’s lecture

image of God - is best understood as how one might imagine something. to be made ‘in the image of God’ is to understood our personhood by our way of ‘potentiality’

likeness of women’s lecture

likeness of God - is best understood as personhood in its ultimate state. to be made in the likeness of God is to view oneself by way of our actuality; that is, our completed or fully sanctified state, lacking nothing.

initial thoughts on the woman’s fall

a failure to include the reality of evil as part of everyday life

an inability to recognize or accept that she already was “like God”

distraction because of attraction

an inability to recognize evil when it presented itself

forgetfulness in regard to God’s OG command

willfulness

not caring how her decision will affect Adam

failure to account for the principle of sustainability

common issues for women as seen in SoS 1

a deep desire to be deeply loved

a definite awareness and arousal of all the sense

a combination of the above 2 ‘cautions’ possibly creates: her increasing desire to be chosen by a lover and an insatiable desire to be taken (away) by a lover

an awareness that other women tempt (come on to) the object of her affections; other women seek/play for his attention

a comparative thinking orientation leads to tendency to discount her physical appearance

the sum result of the above results in a confusion over her own self worth

the fierce reality that women talk about other women

unresolved family of origin issues

some of women’s (and Men’s) biggest lies

i am not as good as: comparative thinking

i can’t help it, this is the way i am: resignation

physical beauty matters more than anything: shallow mindedness

i must have a husband to be happy: relational enmeshment

i have to be a professional success: carnal ambition

if i feel something it must be true: emotional deception

if my circumstances were different, i would, too: wishful thinking

my circumstances will never charge: catastrophasizing

it’s all about me: self-centeredness

promises for Women (SoS 1:7)

security is found in part knowing ‘where’ her lover is taking her

there is a purpose in the relational journey

there is a promise of assurance for a safe relationship

a woman’s lover has a preoccupation in her beauty that uniquely belongs to her

jointly, the man and the woman share in telling 1 another how special the other is

6 biblical stages of womanhood

the creational woman

young woman

nurturing woman

industrious woman

wounded woman

renewed woman

the creational woman

self-aware, too much? an awareness makes women \[more\]

\-must learn to trust God with inadequacies

young woman

beauty and attention

\-insecurity, poor decision making, failure to follow spiritual authority

\-in spite of how it’s attained or used in relationship or even still…the consequence that could follow

nurturing woman

must recognize her own own beauty healthfully

be fruitful and multiply

at the end of this part of a woman’s journey there will be odd

industrious woman

celebrates giftings and abilities from God

* needs to discover areas where her abilites

the wounded woman

normative stage of life; it can happen anytime

* remember not abandoned by God
* widow = one bounded in pain
* seen heavily in Scripture
* young women = no resources
* good girl = ditzy and guilt = emotion of choice

renewed woman

self actualized, integrated, maturity with responsibility

proverbs 31 woman

important beginning biblical truths

the bible affirms the existence of demons

the bible is clear that JC has fully defeated Satan and his tactics

the demonic realm has been defeated by the blood of the Lamb, the bold witness of the saints, and a fearlessness in the face of death

engaging the demonic was difficult for the disciples, at least on one occasion and therefore Christians today need to be made most aware of this physical and spiritual reality

demon possession

demon having complete/direct control over the thoughts/actions of a person

demonic oppression

involves a demon/demons attacking a person spiritually, emotionally, and/or encouraging a person to engage in sinful behavior. luke’s account of ananias and saphira in acts 5 could be classified as this type of oppression

salvation

sozo

\-to save one as in from disease or ongoing or continuous malady. also, to preserve

10 common areas of demonic activity

emotions

beliefs

mouth

sex

lusts

occult

false religions, philosophies, teaching

and and all heresies

physical bodies

generational alliances

possible signs of demonic activity

involvement in the Occult

disobedience to God’s word

family occult background

prenatal influences

early childhood trauma

habitual sin

generational lines and influences

ongoing/repeated sin

trauma, accidents (unprocessed; yet to be free)

curses

addictions

“making friends” with fears or past pain

overt or regular tiredness or fatigue

unforgiveness

sexual sin

case study of matthew 12: 43-44

an individual was possessed by a demon

the man (house) was unattended

the exorcised demon tried to return

the demonic presence bring with it additional help

if after any deliverance ministry the “new” house or person does not receive proper discipleship; things will be much worse

3 contemporary portraits

Christians that are fruitfully inconsistent = more thorns than grapes

Christians that are spiritually proud = more talk than walk

Christians that are scripturally selective = more head than heart

chemistry: opportunity

enemy is an oppotunist

deception

enemy lies

culture of suspicion

enemy works in the shadows

law of attraction

enemy offers superficiality

activation

enemy promotes self-indulgence

enlistment

enemy leaves us “holding on empty bag full of guilt and shame”

men and counseling

men are less likely to seek out counseling than women

when men do go to counseling it is usually because it has come at the request of another

in the early stages of counseling men will promise the moon, however, promises are short lived

the tournament male: characteristics

competitive breeding rights: need to be right or ‘win’ at all costs

polygamous: need for ‘freedom’ that is interpreted as an inability to make and keep commitments

hierarchal communal system: need to be in control (control issues)

low investment in the young: a species marked by extreme selfishness and the corresponding realty of not willing to care for the young (Father issues)

adam’s fall: diagnosing men’s biblical roots for their problems with women

underestimation of a hard day’s work

passivity

lack of discernment

* exercise greater faith

an inability to follow God’s directions

a greater desire to please woman and a lesser desire to be obedient to God

an unwillingness to take personal responsibility for errant decision making

biblical concerns (daniel 1)

disdain or deep dislike over being controlled

fear of not being chosen

concern over physical appearance

concern over aging

intellectual insecurities

poor judgment

a tendency to be lazy

fear of not being able to complete or finish a task

loss of identity

biblical promises to men (daniel 1)

first, daniel determined in his mind to be different

received favor from people in authority

daniel became an “idea guy”

daniel was willing to be tested

daniel became successful

daniel developed proven natural talents

daniel developed spiritual abilities

BB’s 3 words

pastoral care

broken

childhood sexual abuse

childhood sexual abuse definitions

sexual talk: around a child even if not directed at them

exposure to violent media containing sexual assault

porn: introducing a child to it

physical sex acts forced on a child

1900s censorship (known as the Code) was so strong what 2 things couldn’t be shown that BB mentioned?

belly button

husband and wife in same bed

men don’t get raped or have chinks in their armor, so what do they do?

build emotional walls to cope and don’t let people in for years

what are the results of childhood SA in boys?

guilt

shame

humiliation

self-hate

anger

polarized reaction: internalized

anger turned on self

sense of perfectionism to correct your damaged goods/self

workaholic

polarized reaction: externalized

anger turned on others

alcohol

drugs

trouble holding jobs