Childhood/relationship and friendships

What is impulse control?

emotional regulation 

self regulation

gaining control over impulses 

children control themselves better as older 

How can adults teach self-control?

Set clear limits, model behavior, use routines, praise effort

Characteristics of healthy relationships?

trust, respect, communication

Mutual empathy (emotional responsivity)
2. Mutual authenticity (relational honesty; be real, genuine)

Why are friendships important?

Provide emotional support, social skills, identity development.

-continuum of attachment

-validate self concept and self esteem

-safeguard against feeling of rejection and loneliness

-skills for future relationships

-learns importance of emotional commitment

-facilitiate separation from family 

-ease transition into adulthood

What affects friendship success?

Communication, empathy, shared interests, emotional regulation

Popular vs. rejected kids?

• Popular: Friendly, cooperative, socially skilled.

• Rejected: Aggressive or withdrawn, poor social skills.

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How do relationships affect self-esteem?

Positive relationships boost confidence; rejection lowers self-worth.

popular kids-prosocial

60%

performing well in school

communicate with peers in friendly way

popular-antisocial

defying authority

-aggressive kids that enhance their popularity though manipulation and exclusion

rejected aggressive 

6%

disliked by peers 

-disruptive and lack of social skills 

rejected withdrawn

6%

socially anxious

expected to be treated poorly

often bullied

the other ones (neglected)

hard to classify

neglected- 5%- ignored by others, socially skilled by loners, considered shy by others, tend to have one friend

the other ones (mixed characteristics)

8%

display a blend of positive and negative social behaviors depending on who with