Marriage and Family Midterm

Crucial longing

Need for God

Critical Longing

longing for quality relationships

Casual Longing

pursuit of pleasure

What is the God given emphasis for Men after the fall

Work and provision

What is the God given emphasis for Women after the fall

connectedness and relationship

What is the negative impact of pornography use

decreased sex life satisfaction, increased desire for violent sex, increased chance of divorce.

What are the stages of dating

1. Attraction/Infatuation

2. Uncertainty/Evaluation

3. Exclusivity

4. Intimacy

5. Engagement

Why do men pursue pornography

they pursue it for power, pornography is an easy out to avoid intimacy

Why do women pursue pornography

pursue it for false connection based in a lost sense of worth

What happens to women's satisfaftion in marriage over time (chart)

It starts above men's but over time drops below men's

What should a person do if their partner does not want children

What do the notes say about birth control

What is the most popular treatment for infertility

What are the areas that cause probems in a marriage (4)

Why do men value sports

Men use impact

How are love languages effectively used

What are Baumarind's 3 types of children and their impacts

when did dating start

when america was breaking ties with england - courtship

when did public dating start

after industrial revolution. More rights for women and more free time.

what are the three must haves in a relationship

Common Interests, Common Goals, and Common Values

What is the context and meaning of 1 thessalonians 4:3-8

my conduct is in line with God's standards. dating is a process of seeking God's will and pleasing Him

What is the context and meaning of 1 Corinthians 10:31

Do everything for the glory of God

What is God's design for relationships

BECOME the right person, WALK in love, FIX your hope on God, if FAILURE occurs repeat steps

What is the Hollywood formula

FIND the right Person, FALL in love, FIX your hopes and dreams to this person, if FAILURE occurs repeat steps.

What is the connection between longings and unhealthy behavior

When we try to fill our crucial longing with anything but God we rely too much on our other longings to try and fulfill us

What is a sign that we are dating because we are lonely

What is a sign that we are dating because we fear being alone

Demand for compliance and emotional overreactions

What should we do when we make mistakes in relationships

say I'm sorry

What are the four horsemen of the apocalypse

Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling

What could lead to dating a controlling person

fear of being your own person

What could lead to dating a detatched person

fear of intimacy

What could lead to dating a passive person

fear of your own neediness

What could lead to dating a perfectioninst person

fear of being real

What could lead you to dating a troublesome person

fear of your own sinfulness

What could lead you to dating someone like your parents

unresolved parental issues

Why do men fight or flight

the sympathetic nervous system increases heartrate and blood pressure

What is the most important thing a woman can do in a relationship

soft startup

What is the most important thing a man can do in a relationship

accepting influence

What is the world's view on attraction.

Worldview says attraction is the ladder theory. Men want looks and sexual availability. Women want Money, Power, and attraction. Women have two ladders - friendzone and actual dating

what are the 4 keys to christian dating

1. Become a healthy person

2. See dating as an opportunity for encouragement

3. Develop a relationship rather than be in one

4. Protect the other in all areas

what is the ladder theory

men and women evaluate one another on different criteria then rank them

What does science say about attraction

symmetry

What percentage of problems are unsolveable according to Gottman?

69-70%

what is the three fold purpose of sex

procreation, oneness, pleasure

what are the keys to a healthy sexual marraige (Penner and Penner)

The husband loves, adores, and connects. This adoration allows her to open up. His affirmation ignites her passion. She invites and engages. He feels validated. Both are satisfied.