Interpersonal Relationships Quiz 11

appreicate

Solution for Interpersonal Problems

- ___________ God working in your life and in lives of others

understand

Solution for Interpersonal Problems

- ____________ the nature of your position in the relationship and respond biblically

Boundary

a recognition of God-designed parameters in which a healthy relationship is intended to function

objective

Boundaries are based on the __________ Truth of Scripture

define and protect

Boundaries ____________ and _____________ a relationship

consequences

Broken boundaries bring ____________

assertiveness

Communicate boundaries and enforce consequences with a___________ coupled with grace, kindness and love

mature

Spiritually and emotionally ____________ people will appreciate and respect proper boundaries

issue

Healthy people who desire healthy relationships don't have an ___________ with other people's healthy boundaries

1. Appreciate God working in your life and in the lives of others

2. Understand the nature of your position in the relationship and respond biblically

3. Accept what cannot be changed in your life and in the lives of others

4. Be proactive rather than reactive when dealing with sin

Solutions for Interpersonal Relationships

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Successful Relationships

- Give a little more than you think you should, demand a little less than you think you're ___________ to

Steps the Conflict Resolution

1. Is the issue at hand really that important?

2. Have you prayed about it?

3. Use the correct style of dealing with conflict

confrontation

what is always biblical?

avoiding

unassertive and uncooperative

accommodating

unassertive but cooperative

1. Avoiding

2. Accommodating

3. Manipulating

4. Dominating

5. Collaborating

Use the correct style of dealing with conflict

manipulating

assertive and cooperative-ish

manipulative

A _______________ tactic used to shift the power dynamic in a healthy relationship such that one person has complete control over the other

Gaslighters' Phrases

1. That's not what I meant

2. You're making such a big fuss

3. Was that even important?

4. I said/ you said/ by proper definition

5. How dare you accuse me of that

6. What YOU did was really bad because...

Dominating

assertive and uncooperative

Collaborating

assertive and cooperative

1. Righteous Indignation

2. Anger resulting from frustrated personal desires

Causes of Anger

1. Blowing Up

2. Clamming Up (soda)

3. Giving Up

4. Fessing Up

Four expressions of Anger

1. Evaluate

2. Locate

3. Anticipate

4. Communicate

5. Negotiate

Taming the Emotion of Anger

Controllable

ask God how you can change it

Uncontrollable

Ask God how you can accept it

Bitterness

a sinful response to the emotion of anger caused by harboring an injustice which results in broken fellowship with God

anger

Control _______ Before It Controls You

1. Comparison Christianity

2. Taking up another person's offense

3. When we are wronged

Causes Bitterness

1. Our response should be the major concern

2. Realize that bitterness is a right we do not have

3. Forgiveness is the key!

Cure for Bitterness

Forgiveness

Choosing to no longer hold someone accountable for the sin committed against you

1. Not based on whether or not a person deserves it

2. To forgive does not necessarily mean to forget

3. Forgiveness is granted, not earned]

4. Confess the sin

Five Principles Governing Forgiveness

regret

How to Rebuild a Relationship after Conflict

- "I'm sorry"

Repentance

How to Rebuild a Relationship after Conflict

- "I was wrong."

Reconciliation

How to Rebuild a Relationship after Conflict

- "Please forgive me."

Restitution

How to Rebuild a Relationship after Conflict

- "Let me make it right."

toxic relationship

the best way to know when something is wrong is to know what is right

abuse

a person pursues their own self-interests by seeking to manipulate and dominate the other a pattern of coercive, controlling, and punishing behaviors

1. This behavior is RARE!

2. Any hurtful action/word is technically abuse

3. Identifying abuse requires analyzing intent

4. Hurt feelings does not equate to abuse

Is it ABUSE?

- Cautions

- Is it intentional?

- Is it continual?

- Is it spiteful?

- Is it self-serving?

Recognizing Abuse