Assertiveness Training Test

Assertive Skills

Repeating
Hearing without agreeing
Basic Confronting
Acknowledgement
Admission
Problem Finding
Positive Assertion
Expressing Anger

Repeating

sticking to your point

Hearing without agreeing

a way of showing you understand what is being said while openly remaining your own judge of the situation

Basic Confronting

coping with aggressive behavior by emphasizing your own position and/or drawing attention to the aggressive behavior itself

acknowledgement

a way of showing that you understand and accept what the other person is saying to you while remaining free to express your own wishes

Admission

a way of accepting your own mistakes and weaknesses without devaluing yourself as a person

Problem Solving

simply asking another person when you believe there is a problem that has not been brought out into the open

Positive Assertion

a way of crediting yourself and accepting compliments without appearing conceited

Expressing Anger

the assertive approach to any emotion is to expression is to express it openly and honestly

Basic confronting examples

"I don't like what you're doing, this pressure, etc"
"I want you to stop judging me, twisting what I say, making rules for me, etc"

Admission examples

"I'm sorry I did that–I realize it was the wrong thing to do"

Problem Finding examples

"I get the feeling you're unhappy about something"
"I wonder if you're mad at me about something"

Positive Assertion

"Thanks, I really enjoyed doing that"
Thanks, I was really pleased with myself"
"I'm really happy with the way I handled etc"

Expressing Anger examples

"I'm getting angry about the way you take my things without asking"
"I'm really furious that you've come in and turned on the TV so loud. I want to sleep"

I statement examples

"I like the way you're doing your hair now"
"I suggest we take turns instead of trying to do it together"

You can forget about going to your mother's. I am not putting up with that phony old battle axe this weekend

Agressive

So you feel left out when we go to my mothers?

Acknowledgement

Don't give me that stuff. You just never are going to grow up and cut the apron strings

Agressive

I want you to stop putting me down

Basic Confronting

I should know, but I've been too tired to read much lately

Passive