Studied by 3 people
Felt Minus
Inferior feeling of ourselves, motivate striving.
Felt Plus
Overcoming inferior feeling of ourselves (Striving)
Organ Inferiority
Compensation for weakness leads to strength, physical inferiority.
Aggressive drive
movement itself from felt minus to felt plus- may be experienced as fighting or competition.
Masculine protest
men and women seek the privilege associated with the male gender role, challenges gender role norms.
superiority striving
People strive to achieve their personal best. Being a better person, overcoming personal challenges, perfection striving.
Inferiority complex
Stagnation of growth in which difficulties seems too immense to be overcome (person becomes stuck)
Superiority complex
Neurotic belief that one is better than others. Arrogance.
Fictional finalism
A person’s image of the goal of his/her striving, Can;t understand personality without this.
Style of life (SOL)
A person’s consistent way of striving and carrying out fictional finalism.
Pampered child
Set up a person for unrealistic expectations
The neglected child
Set a person up to expect everyone to neglect them
Family constellation
entire makeup of the family.
Firstborn child
experiences dethronement when the next child is born, Type A, problem child.
Second/middle child
try to match older child’s exploits, divided attention, highest achievers.
Youngest child
Risks being pampered, achieve in everything, spoiled child can never be independent.
Only child
Risks developing a mother complex, similar to firstborn.
Selective Inattention
Children ignore/avoid anxiety
Bad-me
Negative, things we don’t like about ourselves
Good-me
Parts we share with others
Not-me
Parts that are anxiety provoking, we can’t deal with them + pushed into deep unconscious
Ambivalence
Maturity, able to see that people aren’t all good or all bad, if none can affect relationships (immature)
Depressive position
someone in their lives falls off their pedestal, able to deal (people aren’t all or nothing)
Paranoid-Schizoid Position
Stuck in seeing people in 2D, all or nothing.
Subjective omnipotence
power to get needs met, children transition
Objective reality
I’m not as powerful, people help me but have their own lives.
Transitional objects
Mom stand in (blankets, stuffed animals, etc)
Strange Situation Test
Secure v.s. Insecure attachment test
Sex
Physical or biological characteristics
Gender
Characteristics culturally assigned to sex (masculine/feminine)
Womb envy
Envy bio males have due to the fact that women can give birth, power is used to mask insecurity.
Basic anxiety
Feeling lonely and helpless in a hostile world
Basic Hostility
anger over parental neglect
Moving toward
need affection + approval, manipulative demands, “poor me”, “if you love me you will not hurt me” But enables us to give and receive social support
Moving against
Needs control, dominance + power, self worth derived from success, “If i have power i shall not be hurt”, competition
Moving away from people
attitude of “if I don’t care about anything” don’t develop goals, stems from hurt. counterdependent, never ask for help.
Princess Marie Bonaparte
Former patient of Freud, very avid believer in Freud’s ideas
Acceptives (women)
Have substituted penis = children
Believed in only vaginal sex
Renouncers (women)
Give up competition with men
Claimers (women)
Deny reality and cling to masculine aspects of self, become lesbians
Central paradox of connection/disconnection
Repeated disconnection makes us afraid to form connections
Central Relational paradox
Holding back is the way to connect again
Mother & daughter
Daughter wants to recreate motherly relationship by becoming a mother herself.
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