10 || Chapter 5: Oh, Dear Life - Awareness of Different Life Demands

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Dr. Jose P. Rizal

• He believed in the Filipino youth. He believed that you are the hope of our nation.

Hold high the brow serene,
O youth, where now you stand;
Let the bright sheen
Of your grace be seen,
Fair hope of my fatherland!

Come now, thou genius grand,
And bring down inspirations;
With thy mighty band,
Swifter than the wind’s violation,
Raise the eager mind to higher station.

• One of Rizal’s poems echoes the sentiment with these moving, inspiring words:

fully develop their selves, acquiring full knowledge of the changes they go through as they grow (physical, psychological, emotional, social); building self-esteem and confidence, and maintaining healthy relationships with their parents and peers;

• Cabigon (1999) did a study on Filipino adolescents and identified explicitly the expectations from adolescents. She stated that adolescents are expected to (1):

undergo skill-building, particularly in critical and analytical thinking, firm decision-making, and leadership;

• Cabigon (1999) did a study on Filipino adolescents and identified explicitly the expectations from adolescents. She stated that adolescents are expected to (2):

be fully aware of social, political, economic, and cultural issues and have the corresponding concerns;

• Cabigon (1999) did a study on Filipino adolescents and identified explicitly the expectations from adolescents. She stated that adolescents are expected to (3):

be active in community and political affairs.

• Cabigon (1999) did a study on Filipino adolescents and identified explicitly the expectations from adolescents. She stated that adolescents are expected to (4):

The Challenges Of Middle And Late Adolescence

• The Life of a Teenager

Positive Approaches In Dealing With Life Demands

• There must be many occasions when you find yourself juggling things to accomplish certain tasks because there are so many things to do. It can be tough at times.

Batang Bata Ka Pa

• Is a classic song of Apo Hiking Society that speaks of the typical sentiments of parents about their growing child.

Quest for independence
High expectations
Making career choices
Relationship issues

• Components of Challenges in the Family (4)

Quest for independence.

• Often, the problem stems from the child wanting to establish identity and independence, and the desire of parents to continuously give guidance and protection to their children.

High expectations.

• There is also the issue of dealing with high expectations in terms of achievements, especially academically.

when the parents’ expectations are clear with the child/student

• High educational expectations tend to result in high educational attainments. It happens (1)

the child/student also sets certain expectations or academic goals to achieve

• High educational expectations tend to result in high educational attainments. It happens (2)

the child/student diligently spends time working on school tasks

• High educational expectations tend to result in high educational attainments. It happens (3)

Making career choices.

• Sometimes, choosing a college course or career can become an issue. It happens when the parents’ career plan for their child is different from what the child actually wants.

Relationship issues

• Many parents believe that getting into an exclusive relationship should be the least of their child’s priorities at this point. Hence, conflict arises at times when they find out that their child is in a relationship, fearing that it will negatively affect their child’s concentration in school.

Communicate openly.
Understand your parents.
Be Responsible.

• Components of Dealing with Family Expectations

Communicate openly.

• Dealing with Family Expectations (1)

Understand your parents.

• Dealing with Family Expectations (2)

Be responsible.

• Dealing with Family Expectations (3)

Communicate openly.

• Sometimes, parents may tend to overlook your plans and way of doing things, probably because they are unsure of what you want to do in life. Your communication skills will play an important role in expressing your thoughts and feelings.

Understand your parents.

• In some instances, you may find yourself in disagreement with your parents which leads to conflict.

invincible

• Parents often say adolescents generally feel ______, as though nothing bad could possibly happen to them.

Be responsible.

• Expectations do not only come from your parents. Your siblings and even close relatives may also have expectations from you. Do not forget that you need to do your part at home.

School Demands

• School life takes so much of your time and energy. You spend the greater part of the day in school, and still carry many requirements when you go home and even on weekends. Admittedly, there are times when the demands can really be a challenge.

making use of your time wisely

• A key to better manage of school work is

poor planning

• Major reasons why time management problems occur include (1):

poor organizational skills

• Major reasons why time management problems occur include (2):

delaying/procrastinating

• Major reasons why time management problems occur include (3):

low need for achievement

• Major reasons why time management problems occur include (4):

Low self-esteem and high level of anxiety

• These may also make it more difficult for you to accomplish tasks.

List down your activities.

• Here are some time management tips to help you (1):

Prioritize.

• Here are some time management tips to help you (2):

List down your activities.

• What are the things you need to do?

Prioritize.

• Ask yourself which ones are important and urgent. You may want to write your activities in a grid based on priorities.

Stephen Covey

• author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, developed a time management grid to organize priorities.

Make a plan.

• After looking at your activities and prioritizing them, develop a plan on how to do them and make sure you follow your plan.

Develop good study habits.

• This is an important skill you need to have. Your success in school depends so much on how much you devote time to study. Make studying a part of your system.

Avoid procrastination.

• Set a due date.

Peer Challenges

• Your tasks are not only individual in nature. Part of growing up is engaging in social interactions and developing meaningful relationships. Your social experiences help you to discover yourself through their feedback, through finding roles that fit you, and developing attitudes and behaviors as a result of your experiences.

Peer pressure.
Peer conflict.

• Components of Peer Challenges

Peer Pressure

• One prominent adolescent issue is the influence of a peer group. Peer group involvement and need for recognition are both part of the transition process towards adulthood.

Avoid groups that ask you to do things that are against your will.

• Here are some important tips to avoid/prevent peer pressure (1):

Learn to say no.

• Here are some important tips to avoid/prevent peer pressure (2):

Keep good company. Choose to be with people who know how to say no, too. Join groups whom you share common interests with and do activities you enjoy doing together.

• Here are some important tips to avoid/prevent peer pressure (3):

Do not be afraid to talk to people, like parents, teachers, or others in authority, when you are dealing with peer pressure.

• Here are some important tips to avoid/prevent peer pressure (4):

Peer conflict

• People are different in their background, values, experiences, needs, interests, and a lot more. It is understandable that you do not always agree with other people. Reasons for disagreement vary. Some disagreements may be easy to settle, like which movie to watch, which way to go, where to eat. But there are cases when the disagreement reaches the height of conflict resulting in frustration or anger.

Make a commitment to resolve the problem.

• Throop and Castellucci (2011) suggested some ways to resolve conflicts (1):

Be clear with your intention of resolving the conflict.

• Throop and Castellucci (2011) suggested some ways to resolve conflicts (2):

Stick with the facts.

• Throop and Castellucci (2011) suggested some ways to resolve conflicts (3):

Deal with your anger and control it.

• Throop and Castellucci (2011) suggested some ways to resolve conflicts (4):

Make a commitment to resolve the problem.

• Do not just make peace with the person. Understand the nature of your disagreement and find ways or solutions so it will not happen again.

Be clear with your intention of resolving the conflict.

• Are you trying to get your way eventually, or you find it important to settle the issue because the person means a lot with you? How you see it will influence how you settle your conflict.

Stick with the facts.

• As you discuss your disagreement, make sure it is clear what the facts and feelings are. Be objective. Sometimes, the feelings get in the way of resolving the conflict; being emotional fires up the issue.

Deal with your anger and control it.

• Avoid saying or doing anything in the heat of the moment. Cool off and find time to think.

• Reflect where your anger is coming from.

• Relieve tension caused by anger. Go away for a while. Walk to rethink.

• Calm yourself. Breathe. For others, counting 1 to 10 gives them relief.

• Find someone you can talk to, or someone who will listen to you and may give you some suggestions.