The Social Self

Social Self

Social support through connections with others in our friendships and intimate relationships, including family ties

Friendship

Social relationships that involve a connection with others individually or in community, but which do not have a marital, sexual, or familial commitment

Love

The ability to be intimate, trusting, and self-disclosing with another person; the ability to give as well as express affection with significant others

Self-Determination Theory

Where Autonomy, Competence, and Relatedness are essential for fostering Motivation

Autonomy

The feeling one has choice and willingly endorsing one’s behavior

Competence

The experience of mastery and being effective in one’s activity

Relatedness

The need to feel connected and belongingness with others

• Positive Emotions

• Engagement

• Positive Relationships

• Meaning

• Accomplishment

In Positive Psychology, what does the New Theory of Well-Being include?

Interpersonal Relationships

What relationships promote good social support?

1. Eating breakfast

2. Sleeping adequately

3. Exercising regularly

4. Maintaining proper weight

5. Never smoking cigarettes

6. Using alcohol moderately or not at all

7. Not eating between meals

According to Belloc, N. B., & Breslow, L., what are the 7 Habits that predict Longer Life?

Social Support

In a 1979 follow-up of the same study, _______ _________ was found to be more important than any one of the other seven factors in predicting longer life.

Better Health

Social support is not only related to better health, but good social support also actually causes?

Health and Longevity

Highly consistent evidence has accumulated over the past 60 years on the significant association of functional and structural measures of social support with _______ and __________.

• Greater happiness

• Self-esteem

• Sense of purpose

These bonds are even associated with physical outcomes, such as lower blood pressure and a longer lifespan

In Benefits of Friendship, research indicates that close friendships are associated with…?

1. Don’t be afraid to take social risks

2. Be a joiner

3. Communicate your needs

4. Be patient

5. Avoid negative relationships

6. Reach out

7. Take care of your relationships

How to Foster Good Friendships?

Higher reasoning

The cerebral cortex, gray, outer layer of the brain is associated with?

25

The cerebral cortex does not fully mature until as late as age…?

Planning ahead, controlling impulses, and regulating emotions are last to mature

What are the parts associated with cognitive control, includes?

Striatum

More reactive in teenagers than in adults, making adolescents more excited by novelty and feelings of reward

Learn to know themselves

According to EGW, the young have many lessons to learn, and the most important one is to…

Proverbs 4:23

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it

Dating

Consists of social activities done by two persons with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a partner.

Good social skills and low depression, and fared better or equal

Published online in The Journal of School Health, found that adolescents who were not in romantic relationships during middle and high school had….?

Courtship

A period in a couple’s relationship that happens before engagement and marriage.

Commitment

Dating leads to intimacy, but not necessarily _______________.

‘Friendship’

Dating tends to skip the ____________ stage of relationship.

Physical relationship

Dating often mistakes a __________ _____________ for love.

Infatuation

What is the poor ground for marriage?

Triangle

According to Sternberg’s Theory of Love, love is a?

Intimacy alone

Liking

Intimacy + Passion

Romantic Love

Passion

Infatuation

Passion + Commitment

Fatuous Love

Commitment

Empty Love

Intimacy + Commitment

Companionate Love

Intimacy + Passion + Commitment

Consummate Love

Calm and Deep

“True love is not strong, fiery, impetuous passion. On the contrary, it is ____ and ____ in its nature. It looks beyond mere externals and is attracted by qualities alone. It is wise and discriminating, and its devotion is real and abiding.”

SHUN SENTIMENTALISM LIKE LEPROSY

The young are bewitched with the mania for courtship and marriage. Lovesick sentimentalism prevails. Great vigilance and tact are needed to guard the youth from these wrong influences.

Simple

Pure love is ______ in its operation, and is distinct from any other principle of action.

• like-minded

• having the same love

• being one in spirit and of one mind.

Therefore, if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being?

Philippians 2:1-4

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

Pure, sanctified affection

The heart should have only ______, __________ _____________ worthy of the followers of Jesus Christ, exalted in its nature, and more heavenly than earthly. Anything different from this is debasing, degrading in courtship; and marriage cannot be holy and honorable in the sight of a pure and holy God, unless it is after the exalted Scriptural principle.

Eye single

Not one word should be spoken, not one action performed, that you would not be willing the holy angels should look upon and register in the books above. You should have an ____ _______ to the glory of God.