Week 11 - Personality and Relationships

personality

________ is central to relationships because it determines who you are

attachment

Link between a child and primary caregiver(s)

secure base

Caregiver’s provide security and protection called a ______ ______

physical comfort

_______ _______ is more important than feeding

primate attachment studies

These studies found that skin to skin is important and that premature babies need physical comfort to get better faster

attachment theory

Explores how early experiences shape personalities and adult relationships

consistent

________ responses from caregivers creates a better bond

internalized

children’s attachment experiences eventually become _______

warm and reliable

What kind of caregivers make children view relationships as stable and secure

cold and unresponsive

What kind of caregivers make children view relationships as negative

strange situation

used to test attachment in young children that involves separation from a parent

anxious-attachment

caregivers are inconsistent or chaotic

avoidance

caregivers rebuff attempts for contact and reassurance

secure

caregivers respond consistently

two

Classification of attachment is measured on a ___ dimensional model

anxiety and avoidance

People vary in the degree of which two things about their relationship?

unconsciously

Attachment styles are invoked ______ when people feel threatened, they think of the people whom they are emotionally attached

life events

Changes to attachment style are related to ___ ______

thinking of it in a positive way

What aspect of life events make attachment style more secure?

less anxious and avoidant

Overtime what happens to attachment styles regardless of life events

unresolved/disorganized

often related to trauma; cannot tolerate emotional closeness

seek physical contact

Avoidant men are less likely to ____ _______ _____

separated from partners

anxious men and women are morel likely to be upset when _______ ___ _______

anxious

Someone who is high in neuroticism and low in conscientiousness probably has what attachment style

Avoidant

Someone who is low in extraversion, agreeableness, and conscientiousness probably has what attachment style

secure

Which attachment style is best at coping?

secure

Positive view of others, positive view of self

dismissive

Negative view of others, positive view of self

preoccupied

Positive view of others, negative view of self

fearful

Negative view of others, negative view of self

extraversion and agreeableness

What are the two deal-maker traits in friendships?

communal

being liked by a friend is associated with being high on _______ traits

warm and extroverted

What are the two deal-maker traits in dating?

high agreeableness, high contentiousness, low neuroticism

What three traits make someone best in a relationship?

high extroversion

good at forming relationships, more satisfied in relationships, maintains many more shallow and less involved relationships

high agreeableness

Positive and satisfying relationships

high neuroticism

Troubled unstable relationships, cause problems for partners

high conscientious

experience less conflict, better at problem solving (both)

high openness

more likely to expand the self and explore new relationship experiences

attitudes and values

What is most important to be similar in a relationship

similar

couples with _____ personalties are less satisfied in marriages

empathy

ability to understand and feel experiences another person is having, related to forgiveness and prosocial behaviours

compassion

feeling empathy towards people who are suffering and wanting to remove that suffering

self-control

behavioural and emotional control, helps you do the right thing for your partner

introverts and disagreeable people

Two deal-breaking traits

dispositional contempt

People who are cold, arrogant, disagreeable, emotionally fragile, and insecure

rejection sensitivity

Gentle at the beginning of the relationship, then hurtful, uncaring, and abusive

psychopathy

lack of empathy mixed with impulsivity

machiavellianism

a lack of empathy and willingness to exploit others

Narcissism

a lack of empathy and a sense of grandiosity