Marriage and Family Gifford Final

What causes the heat (Tip of the iceberg)

friction areas

-no meaningful friendships

-relationship drama

-unbiblical relationships

-poor communication

-bitterness

-super-sensitive to others

Realtionship skills (actions)

communication skills

conflict resolution

understanding roles

worship

time together

honoring and serving one another

Character traits ( personality)

-heart of compassion

-kindness

-humlitiy

-gentleness

-patience

-bearing one another

- forgiveness

-love

Understand the basic teachings of the heart

- Root of the issues come from the heart

-Your heart is not basically good

-Your heart is active

-Inner man, not Outer man

-Seat of appetites and passion

-Totality of man’s inner or immaterial nature

-It reveals what I ultimately worship

-Your heart has thoughts, intentions, and emotions

understanding basic teaching of the heart biblical passages

- Prov. 4:23

- Mark 7:21

your heart is

active not empty or passive

Bible verses on we were made to be worshipers of the true God

1 cor. 10:31 , col 1:16

The biblical basis for Marraige

purpose

PRIORTY

purity

permanence

preeminence of God

perserverance

What are the purposes of marriage?

1. COMPANIONSHIP

2. COMPLETER

3. COVENANT

4. CHILDREN

5. COLLABORATION for Gods glory

What does the purpose of marriage result in?

a comprehensive partnership

What type of relationship is marriage?

Covenant Relationship

Verses that support that marriage is a "Covenantal Relationship"

Proverbs 5

Romans 12:15

1 Cor. 12:25

1 Peter 3:7

3 principles of Marriage

1. Children must leave their parents

2. Man must cleave to a wife

3. results in weave a new relationship

What makes a marriage bullet proof?

The marriage that is most satisfied in itself (involes commitment)

What biblical passages were discussed regarding homosexuality?

- Genesis 19

- Leviticus 18:19 & 20:10-13

- Romans 1:24-28

- 1 Corinthians 6:9

What was the passage used to address the desires of homosexuality, even if they weren't acted upon?

James 1:14-15

Complementarian

The view that men and women are equal in value before God but have different roles in marriage and the church; specifically, that there is a unique leadership role for the husband in marriage and that some governing and teaching roles in the church are reserved for men.

Egalitarian

men and women are equal in personhood, and there should be no gender-based distinction in their roles.

Three categories used to suggest how masculinity and femininity are defined?

Biblical, Biological, Cultural

How do we know to reject cultural expectations of masculinity / feminity?

When they contridict the Bible is when you do not accept the world definition

What is the biblical definition of love?

love is sacrificial; determination to do good to another person.

Masculinity Definition

At the heart of mature masculinity is a sense of benevolent responsibility to lead_, provide for, and protect women in ways appropriate to a mans differing relationship.

Femininity Definition

At the heart of mature femininity is a freeing disposition to affirm, receive, and nurture strength and leadership from worthy men in ways appropriate to a woman's differing relationships.

What does submission mean?

it is a divine calling of a wife to honor, affirm, and nurture her husbands leadership and to help carry it through according to her gifts

What does it mean for a husband to be a learner?

-he needs to understand his wife

-takes time & effort

= meaningful to both of you through different situations

What are the primary responsibilities of a wife?

A christ-like wife is a:

(1) HONOURER

(2) HELPER OF THE HUSBAND

(3) QUALIFIED HOMEMAKER

What are the primary responsibilities of a husband?

A christ-like husband is a:

(1) LOVER

(2) LEARNER

(3) SERVANT LEADER

What illustration was used to describe submission?

The Umbrella. Idea of willingly putting yourself under another umbrella of authority.

When should a wife not submit to her husband?

Forbids her to go to church (Heb. 10:25)

Forbids her from talking to the children about the Lord (Eph. 6:1-4; Prov. 1:8)

Asks her to commit immorality (1 Cor. 6:20)

Asks her to lie or cheat (Eph. 4:25; prov. 6:17)

Forbids her to reprove him (Christian) when he is sinning (Gal. 6:1)

Asks her to cover up for him (Eph. 5:11-12; Prov. 6:19)

Asks her to violate her conscience (Rom. 14)

What are the biblical reasons for divorce?

Sexual immorality

Desertion

what are the biblical passages for divorce

1 corinthians 7:15, matt 5:32, jer. 3:6-10

process of change as detailed in Ephesians 4:21-32?

1) Put off V.22 (falsehood, corrupting talk, etc.)

2) Be renewed V.23 (by the washing of the word)

3) Put on V.24 (loving God, loving others, etc.)

What are the four principles of communication?

1) Be honest

2) Keep current

3) Attack the problem, not the person

4) Act, don't react

What are the four G's of conflict resolution?

1) Glorify God

2) Get the log out of your own eye

3) Gently restore

4) Go and be reconciled

What are principles for confrontation?

P.A.U.S.E.

What is P.A.U.S.E.

Prepare

Affirm Relationship

Understand Interests

Search for Creative Solutions

Evaluate options objectively and reasonably

What Prinicples drive a biblical understanding of sexual intimacy?

A Sex in marriage pure and Holy

B sex is not the bases of marriage. Marriage is not a physical union

c THE PRIMARY goal of sexual relationships is giving -providing sexual satisfaction for one's spouse (Phil 2-Christian world view)