Independence and Responsibility as a Major Goal

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At the heart of the many things you need to do, establishing independence is a major goal during the period of adolescence which should go hand in hand with becoming more responsible.

Independence and Responsibility As a Major Goal

This is the time when you want to make your own choices.

Independence and Responsibility As a Major Goal

At times, you may resent being told what to do, believing you already know what to do and can handle things by yourself.

Independence and Responsibility As a Major Goal

What are three key areas in Independence and Responsibility As a Major Goal (1):

Self-adjustment and Development of Skills

What are three key areas in Independence and Responsibility As a Major Goal (2):

Establishing Positive and Healthy Relationships

What are three key areas in Independence and Responsibility As a Major Goal (3):

Career Planning

Give the 4 ushers/areas of Self-adjustment and Development of Skills:

Adjusting to a Maturing Body

Developing Cognitive Skills

Developing Communication Skills

Developing Self-control

So, you have changed. You certainly look different now. One important thing to do is see your physical self with acceptance and give it nurturance.

Adjusting to a Maturing Body

Cognition is a very important process in learning. It refers to thinking skills covering important aspects like acquiring knowledge, solving problems, and making decisions. It involves remembering, understanding, analyzing, and creating.

Developing Cognitive Skills

Cognition refers to thinking skills covering important aspects like (3)

acquiring knowledge, solving problems, and making decisions

Cognition involves (4)

remembering, understanding, analyzing, creating

Aside from being diligent in your studies, here are things you can do (1):

Be inquisitive.

Aside from being diligent in your studies, here are things you can do (2):

Brainstorm.

Aside from being diligent in your studies, here are things you can do (3):

Imagine and explore.

Aside from being diligent in your studies, here are things you can do (4):

Create or innovate.

Aside from being diligent in your studies, here are things you can do (5):

Engage in problem-solving.

Aside from being diligent in your studies, here are things you can do (6):

Read.

Be an active learner. Ask questions. Be curious about things. Adapt an attitude of wanting to learn more, especially related to your interests or the work you would like to do in the future.

Be inquisitive.

Come up with a lot of ideas. Think of many ways to look at certain things. See how this exercise will expand the way you look at the world.

Brainstorm.

As you entertain various ideas, you allow your self to visualize and explore different ways of thinking. You raise your level of awareness about things.

Imagine and explore.

Use your thoughts in creating some things. Turn your ideas into useful projects or find ways of doing things.

Create or innovate.

Keep your mind at work and further develop its capacity by challenging it. Aside from doing your assignments, taking tests, working on projects, you may also work on brain teasers or crossword puzzles during your free time.

Engage in problem-solving.

Reading enriches your knowledge. You get to learn more by reading. It also helps improve vocabulary, level up your comprehension skills, develop your verbal skills, and sharpen your other cognitive abilities, allowing you to successfully engage in more complex thinking tasks.

Read.

Your communication skills will be valuable for your independence. It will help you become more effective in dealing with people.

Developing Communication Skills

What does the latin word “Communicare” mean?

To share

What is communication?

communication is an act of sharing thoughts or information

Throop and Castellucci (2011) identified the elements and patterns of communication. (Give the three elements)

sender

receiver

message

Throop and Castellucci (2011) identified the elements and patterns of communication. (Give the two patterns)

one-way communication

two-way communication

(the sender gives the message, the receiver gets it, and the process is complete)

one-way communication

(the sender gives the message, the receiver gets it and responds with another message)

two-way communication

The means of exchanging messages may be

verbal or nonverbal

uses spoken words.

verbal

uses written words, symbols, gestures, or body language

nonverbal

is a crucial skill that you need to develop at this time to be an effective communicator.

Language

To help you develop your communication skills, it is important to be aware of your _____ in communicating.

style

In the book _______________________, authors Throop and Castellucci (2011) cited the communication of David Merrill and Roger Reid

Reaching Your Potential

These authors cited the communication of David Merril and Roger Reid

Throop and Castellucci (2011)

_______________ identifies two major behaviors that people manifest during communications

David Merrill and Roger Reid

In the book Reaching Your Potential, authors Throop and Castellucci (2011) cited the communication of David Merrill and Roger Reid which identifies two major behaviors that people manifest during communication:

Responsiveness and Assertiveness

shows your openness in dealing with others.

Responsiveness

What are the two types of Responsiveness?

High and Low

you tend to be friendly and open with your feelings

High Responsiveness

you are likely to be self-controlled and you tend to hide emotions

Low Responsiveness

Roger Reid defined and cited by Throop and Castellucci, means “behavior ranging from asking questions (low assertiveness) to telling others what’s expected (high assertiveness)”

Assertiveness

behavior ranging from asking questions

Low Assertiveness

telling others what’s expected

High Assertiveness

Following Merril and Reid’s model, there are four major communication styles that were identified: (4)

thinker, achiever, relater, and seller

Part of seeking independence is being responsible with your actions. Responsibility is one of the trademarks of maturity that manifest in your behavior. One way of showing it is by exercising self-control in managing your bahaviors and emotions.

Developing Self-Control

How can you do it? Here are some ways. (Give the three tips) (1)

Learn your own signs and triggers.

How can you do it? Here are some ways. (Give the three tips) (2)

Take a different or positive perspective.

How can you do it? Here are some ways. (Give the three tips) (3)

Breathe deeply.

Interaction with others is a significant experience that contributes to the development of an individual.

Establishing Positive and Healthy Relationships

This is a noted psychologist, was cited by Muus (1996)

Harry Stack Sullivan (1892-1949)

Harry Stack Sullivan (1892-1949), a noted psychologist, was cited by Muus (1996) in saying that

“Comfortable, successful interpersonal relationships are what life is all about”

It is said that there are two types of relationships.

Destructive and Constructive relationships

are the ones you should strive to have and keep

Constructive Relationships

is characterized by having good vibes with others. There is shared understanding, a feeling of warmth, and bond.

Rapport

Throop and Castellucci (2011) identified ____________ as essential in a relationship.

trust, respect, and empathy

has something to do with reliability. It means you can count on each other.

Trust

has something to do with valuing. You take someone important, and other holds you important.

Respect

has something to do with deep understanding of experience. You feel the other person, or understand his/her situation as if it’s your own. And the other person does the same with you.

Empathy

a prominent psychologist who recognized that personal growth is a basic human desire, proposed a model of hierarchy of human needs.

Abraham Maslow (1908-1970)

Abraham Maslow’s Model of Hierarchy of Human Needs:

Physiological Needs
Safety and Security
Love and Belonging
Self-Esteem
Self-Actualization

breathing, food, water, shelter, clothing, sleep

Physiological Needs

health, employment, property, family and social ability

Safety and Security

friendship, family, intimacy, sense of connection

Love and Belonging

confidence, achievement, respect of others, the need to be a unique individual

Self-Esteem

morality, creativity, spontaneity, acceptance, experience purpose, meaning and inner potential

Self-Actualization

is the process of determining what you want to become and the path to take to reach your goal.

Career Planning

Two ushers in Career planning

Identifying Skills and Interests

Developing Life Goals

One important task you need to accomplish now is to develop a career plan or vocational goals. Suffice it to say that at this point, you should start aligning your skills, interests, and desired career in such a way that whatever you know, and what you can do, are giving you good foundation to what you would like to become.

Identifying Skills and Interests

You do not just set your eyes on what course to take and what job to do in the future. Your life is bigger than that. Given your growing capacity to explore bigger ideas, expand your thinking to include what kind of life you would like to have. It is not like you have to make a plan for your life and set it in stone now. Take it easy. You can simply start considering some ideas, like things to do or goals you want to achieve in life. You are free to change or modify your plans in the future. The point is, start with something you can develop or serve as your personal compass.

Developing Life Goals

Life goals may be categorized as _____________ (Throop and Castellucci, 2011).

personal, educational, and professional

include family and personal life. It is aimed at improving yourself essentially, as well as your relationships with others.

Personal goals

refers to your study plan which includes pursuing higher studies (masteral and /or doctorate degree).

Educational goals

refer to career and work life. Do you want to be a CEO of a company? Do you plan to be an engineer and establish your own construction company? Do you want to become a lawyer and be the next Chief Justice or eventually join the International Court?

Professional goals

When developing life goals, it helps to set a timeline. It may be __________________. Throop and Castellucci (2011) cited a timetable like this.

short-term, intermediate, or long-term