2Q_Lesson 2 - Relationship | pt.1

Relationship 

The way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other

Relationship 

Extended to include “the way in which two or more people or things are connected”

1. Business Transactional Relationship 

2. Professional Relationship 

3. Family Relationship 

4. Friendly Relationship 

5. Romantic Relationship 

TYPES OF RELATIONSHIP 

Personal Relationship 

• More intimate 

• Close with 

• Bond regularly 

• Family, friends, best friends, and romantic partner  

Privacy and intimacy

two characteristics that define personal relationship 

Attachment 

our succeeding relationships in the future are all shaped to a large extent by our ____ to our parents  

Attachment

When the couple in love decides to continue with the relationship, they enter the _____ stage where long-lasting commitments are exchanged and may lead to rising family 

Attachment

Special hormones are also secreted during this stage (oxytocin and vasopressin

Oxytocin

released during childbirth to help in breastfeeding, is believed to promote intimacy

vasopressin

which promotes long-term relationships  

Secure attachment

when primary caregiver is most of the time present and available and when all the emotional needs of an infant are met, providing a sense of security to the infant  

Secure attachment

chances are that a child who is exposed to this style of attachment will grow up to have more secure and stable relationships

Avoidant Attachment

is when primary caregiver is cold and detached, and even unresponsive to a child’s need  

Avoidant Attachment

the child senses rejection and this often leads to premature detachment and self-reliance

Avoidant Attachment

a person who experienced this style of attachment in infancy and childhood will oftentimes experience unstable relationships in the future 

Avoidant Attachment

the person given this style of attachment will usually avoid getting into meaningful relationships when they reach adulthood and may even claim to be the “rigged individual” who can go through life with little established relationship where intimacy is present

Avoidant Attachment

the possibility of isolation is real for people who have this type of attachment 

Avoidant Attachment

echoes the Intimacy vs Isolation stage of Erik Erikson’s theory of human development  

Anxious-ambivalent attachment

when the primary caregiver is not consistent in terms of presence and in meeting a child’s emotional needs

Anxious-ambivalent attachment

often, a person experiences this style of attachment in childhood may develop separation anxieties with a loved one or may have mixed feelings between hesitancy and commitment when entering into meaningful relationships  

Attraction

often understood as based on physical appearance 

Attraction

Love-struck phase

Attraction

which involves neurotransmitters in the brain such as dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin 

Attraction

Stage when a person loses sleep and appetite over someone, and swoons while daydreaming of this special person 

Lust 

Driven by sex hormones, testosterone, and estrogen

SOCIAL RELATIONSHIP

• Less intimate 

• Casual 

• Meet rarely or occasionally 

• Neighbors, classmates, group members, and community  

Secure attachment, avoidant attachment, anxious ambivalent attachment

Kinds of Attachment

Attachment, attraction, lust

Elements of Personal Relationship

Transference Effect, Propinquity effect, similarity, reciprocity, physical attractiveness, personality characteristics and traits

Theories and research results related to attraction and liking 

Transference Effect

There are times we meet people who we immediately like or dislike 

Transference Effect

Usually, these people remind us of someone in the past who has affected our sense of self and our behavior  

Transference Effect

Our past relationships can therefore affect our current interactions with people 

Transference Effect

We may prefer some and avoid others because of a bad experience we had with someone we associated this new person with

Propinquity Effect 

Another possible factor why we like a person, we often develop a sense of familiarity with people who live close to us, work with us, or go to school with us, which lead us to liking them more

Propinquity Effect 

People we are familiar with make us feel safe and secure 

Propinquity Effect 

Because we can predict their behavior, we find people who we are familiar with more likeable than others 

Propinquity Effect 

While proximity promotes familiarity, and hence liking, there are expectations when we come to dislike the person living next door 

Similarity 

We often like people who we have similarities with, such as social class, background, religious beliefs, age, and education 

Similarity 

We are often attracted to like-minded persons and those who have similar beliefs and values as ours 

Similarity 

Is a validation of our innermost values and belief system, and who we are as a person 

Similarity 

Communicating with people we have similarities with also facilitates communication because we can easily empathize and understand where they are coming from and what they are trying to say, as these thoughts or feelings may reflect our own as well 

Similarity

Strong factor in friendship and in the selection of mate because it gives a common platform for understanding, which in turn promotes intimacy that is essential for trust, empathy, and long-lasting relationships  

Reciprocity 

We like people who like us back

Reciprocity 

Stronger basis for liking another than similarity

Reciprocity 

The more we are liked by someone we equally like, the more we behave in ways that promote mutual feelings of liking 

Reciprocity

When we express out liking for another, oftentimes, this would elicit a pleasant behavior and mutual liking from the other person 

Physical Attractiveness  

a major factor in liking someone, and usually, first impression counts a lot, too 

Physical Attractiveness  

Both male and female are equal in their preference for physical attractiveness

Physical Attractiveness  

As already mentioned, ____ connotes positive health and reproductive fitness, which are both essential to human survival

Personality Characteristics and Traits

People get attracted to two characteristics that lead to liking the other person 

Personality Characteristics and Traits

These are empathic persons, who exclude warmth and sympathy and who are also optimistic and maintain positive views; and socially competent persons, who are good communicators and enjoy good conversation  

Personality Characteristics and Traits

Other personality traits found desirable in almost all cultures are having happy and cheerful disposition, poised, and can present themselves well, outgoing, and sexually warm and responsive