Eternal Family Final - Professor Griffiths

According to D&C 68 what is the responsibility of parents?

Teach them to understand the doctrine of repentance, faith in Christ, and of baptism and the Holy Ghost

According to Elder Nelson do we own our children?

No. Our privilege is to teach and love them and let them go.

Next to you own salvation there is nothing more important than what?

The salvation of your wife and children

Where is the primary place that children learn the gospel?

The home

According to James E. Faust, what can parental hypocrisy do to children?

"make them cynical and unbelieving of what they are taught in the home."

According to Faust, what is one of th most difficult parental challenges?

Appropriately disciplining children

-"the discipline of children must be motivated more by love than by punishment."

According to Brigham Young, "never chasten beyond..."

The balm you have within you to bind up.

If parents do not discipline their children...?

The public will discipline them in a way the parents do not like

Sharpness does not mean harshness. What does it mean?

Exactness

According to Pres. Hinckley, what is the root of more trouble in marriage than all other causes combined?

Money

According to Elder Hales, what is provident living?

Living within your means, being content with what you have, avoiding debt, saving and preparing for rainy days.

According to Elder Hales, when is debt okay?

When it is for a modest home, automobile, and education.

According to Elder Hales what are the four principles of provident living?

1. Husband and wife should counsel together and use family counsels to make financial decisions.

2. The foundation of provident living is the law of the tithe.

3. Be an example with the payment of fast offerings. (The cost of two consecutive meals)

4. Establish a family budget and involve children.

What is more important, individual autonomy or societal obligation?

Both are important and work together. Not one more than the other.

According to Elder Nelson, can we still be "quiet and comfortable Christians?"

Nope!

According to sister Oscarson, what is our benchmark for judging the philosophies of judging the world?

The Family Proclamation

Though hardly anyone will actually have the life the proclamation describes, what did sister say we should do?

Strive for the best pattern of it in our lives

Three principles we need to defend by sister Oscarson

1. Marriage

-"neither woman without the man..."

-model righteous marriages

-seek for blessings in our lives

-have faith if it is slow in coming

2. Divine role of mothers and fathers

-No greater titles

3. Sanctity of the home

-Elevate term "homemaker," both men and women

Spencer W. Kimball said, "the bible celebrates sex and its proper use, presenting it as..." What are the three things the bible presents it as?

1. God-Created

2. God-Ordained

3. God-Blessed

Spencer W. Kimball said, "God himself implanted the physical magnetism between the sexes for two reasons." What are they?

1. For the propagation of the human race

2. For the expression of that kind of love between man and wife that makes for true oneness

Spencer W. Kimball said, "his commandment to the first man and women to be ___ _____ was as important as his commandment to __ ________ ___ ________."

"one flesh,"

"be fruitful and multiply."

"Gross ignorance on the part of newlyweds on the proper place and functioning of sex results in," What two things?

1. Much unhappiness

2. Many broken homes

In Moses 5:2 it says, "and Adam knew his wife." What does to know mean according to the dictionary passage Brother Griffiths showed us in class?

1. To know by observing, reflecting, and thinking

2. To know by experiencing

According to Hugh B. Brown, much heartbreak, sorrow and tragedy would be avoided if couples would do what?

"If they would frankly discuss the delicate and sanctifying aspects of harmonious sex life which are involved in marriage."

According to Hugh B. Brown how many people "come to the marriage alter almost illiterate insofar as this basic and fundamental function is concerned?"

Thousands

According to Spencer W. Kimball, when you study divorce there is always multiple reasons for it, but what is generally the first reason?

"Generally sex is the first. They did not get along sexually. They may not say that in court. They may not even tell that to their attorneys, but that is the reason."

According to researchers, the media image given that marriage is sexually repressive and that affairs outside of it are fulfilling, actually does what?

"Bears virtually no relationship to the truth."

What does the Family Proclamation say about intimacy in marriage?

"The sacred powers of procreation are to be employed on between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife."

Many research studies have proved this.

Compared to other sexually active people, how do faithfully married people report feeling with the physical intimacy in their relationships?

They report being "extremely satisfied."

"Married men and women are least likely to associate sex with feelings of fear, anxiety, or guilt."

What type of couple is less likely to separate or divorce after marriage?

Those who abstain from sex before marriage

Studies show that brides and grooms who have done what, "are less likely to have attitudes about marriage that contribute to adultery, divorce, and lower satisfaction with a married partner?"

Have practiced the law of chastity

The more a husband and wife experience these three things, "the greater their prospects for enjoying true marital intimacy." What are they?

1. Open communication

2. Trust

3. Emotional Closeness

According to Wendy Watson Nelson, "The more unified spouses are in all areas of their lives, the more intimate their relationship will be. Physical intimacy then become a symbol of," what?

Their unity

Wendy Watson Nelson said, "True marital intimacy becomes a time for them to draw closer to each other by uniting their," what?

Who souls - bodies and spirits

According to researchers, what is the number one topic discussed before marriage?

Family planning (87%)

What is the topic discussed least prior to marriage according to researchers?

Turning down sex (6%)

What is emotional intimacy?

Being on the same wavelength and feeling close

What is Intellectual intimacy?

Sharing thoughts and ideas

What is Aesthetic intimacy?

Sharing the beauties of the world

What is creative intimacy?

Sharing acts of creating together

What is recreational intimacy?

Playing together

What is Work intimacy?

Sharing common tasks in closeness

What is conflict intimacy?

Facing and struggling with conflicts and differences

What is Crisis intimacy?

Coping together with problems and pain

What is Spiritual intimacy?

Experiencing the uniting of spirits

"The priesthood line -- which operates principally to govern Heavenly communication on church matters -- some seek to have their priesthood leaders make personal decision for them, decisions they should make for themselves by inspiration through their personal line. Personal decisions and family governance are principally a matter for," what line?

The personal line

If personal religious practice relies too much on the personal line what happens?

Individuals erase the importance of divine authority

If personal religious practice relies too much on the Priesthood line what happens?

Individual growth suffers

The children of God need which of the lines to achieve their eternal destiny?

They need both. The restored Gospel teaches both and the restored church provides both.

What are the four principles of sexual decision making?

1. Marital Unity - Does this strengthen our relationship between each other and God?

2. Couple Consensus - Do we agree on this aspect of our marital sexuality?

3. Positive Attitudes - Does this reflect and positive and healthy attitude toward sexuality?

4. Sexual Potential - Does this foster the sexual needs of my spouse and myself?

What does 1 Corinthians 7: 3-4 say about the power husband and wife have over their own bodies?

"Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband."

"The wife hath not power over her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power over his own body, but the wife."

What two things did David A. Bednar say sexual relations in mortality are?

1. "One of the ultimate expressions of our divine nature and potential."

2. "A way of strengthening emotional and spiritual bonds between husband and wife."

What is interdependence?

Being equal partners

Eve was Adams "help meet" which means Eve was adequate for or equal to Adam.

What is the Hebrew term for help-meet and how does it apply to Eve?

"Ezer"

"Eve drew on Heavenly powers when she supplied their marriage with the spiritual instincts uniquely available to women as a gender gift"

Spouses need not perform the same functions to be equal. What spiritual gifts does the woman have and what gifts does the man have that should allow them to be successful in marriage when they work together?

The woman has a spiritual moral compass

The man has the presiding gift of the Priesthood which helps him to counsel wisely as long as he is living the principles of righteousness

Dallin H. Oaks has never met a man that looked back on his working life and said...?

"I just didn't spend enough time at my job."

What parenting practice, that is now more popular than ever, did Dallin H. Oaks warn against?

The over-scheduling of children

According to Dallin H. Oaks, how should parents teach gospel principles?

Through what they do with their children

Parents should have family prayer, family home evening, family scripture study, and other family activities

As of late, those who report their whole family eating dinner together has declined by how much?

33%

What is the strongest predictor of children's psychological adjustment and academic achievement?

Eating dinner together

Its also shown to be a strong bulwark against children's smoking, drinking, and drug use

"Parents, what your children really want for dinner is you."

Evidence shows that children who take part in family meals....

-Are less likely to be overweight

-Eat more healthy foods

-Have less delinquency

-Greater academic achievement

-Improved psychological well-being

-Positive family interactions

According President Thomas S. Monson, what are the four hallmarks of a happy home?

1. A pattern of prayer

2. A library of learning

-"Seek ye out of the best books words of wisdom"

-"A nation becomes what its young people read in their youth"

-"The standard works offer the library of learning in which I speak"

3. A legacy of love

-Make sure to set a good example for your children of sincere devotion to your spouse, your family, and hard work

4. A treasury of testimony

-"The first and foremost opportunity for teaching in the Church lies in the home" -David O. McKay

-Heber J. Grant said, "Children will not know the gospel is true unless they study it and gain a testimony of it for themselves."

What is "the greatest deterrent to sin, and hence the most beneficent provider of joy and happiness?"

Family prayer

"The family that prays together stays together"

President Monson shared a story to show that doing what is the best way to solve any conflicts or tension between spouses?

Praying together at night

What will provide a fertile seed bed for a testimony to grow?

A love for the Savior, a reverence for His name, and genuine respect for one another.

"For a man to operate independent of or without regard to the feelings and counsel of his wife in governing the family is to exercise," what?

Unrighteous dominion

When will the sins of the children be upon the heads of the parents?

If they don't teach them the doctrine of repentance, faith in Christ, baptism and the Holy Ghost.

According to Howard W. Hunter, when teaching your children, you should give special emphasis to what two things?

Preparation for missionary service and temple marriage

According to President Gordon B. Hinckley, "When all is said and done, the primary place in building a value system is," where?

In the homes of the people

James E. Faust emphasized what in parenting?

Not being hypocrits

According to James E. Faust, disciplining children is up to the individual, but the undergirding principle of all discipline should be what?

Love

"discipline of children should be motivated more by love than by punishment"

Without discipline children will...

Neither respect the rules of the home or society

The Lord counsels that if you must chastise someone, you must do what after?

Show an increase of love

D&C 121:41

Neal A. Maxwell warned that those who do too much for their children will soon what?

"Find they can do nothing with their children. So many have done so much for their children they are almost done in."

James E. Faust made what statement about material things?

"It seems human nature that we do not fully appreciate material things we do not earn ourselves."

According to David A. Bednar, parents should be attentive to what kinds of opportunities?

Spontaneous opportunities to teach and bare testimony

"For example, a naturally occurring family conversation at dinner may be the perfect setting for a parent to recount and testify of specific blessings he or she received during the course of relatively routine activities that day"

In summary what advice did Elder Holland give about teaching children?

They must see us faithfully studying scriptures, praying for them, fasting, going to the temple, sustaining local leaders, and they should know we believe in God.

According to Elder Christofferson, from where does the new church policy originate?

From compassion, a desire to protect children in their innocence, and in their minority years.

A desire for children to not have to encounter conflicts where parents expect one thing and the church expects another

What other church policy does the newest church policy parallel?

The policy that children of polygamist families cannot be baptized while living with the family and before they reach majority (legal age).

What is the church's policy on abortion?

"Thou shalt not kill... or do anything like unto it." The church opposes elective abortion for convenience or social purposes." Members must not support abortion in any way

In what cases does the church permit abortion with special consideration?

1. Rape or incest

2. The health or life of the mother is in serious danger

3. A physician determines that the fetus has problems that will not allow the baby to live past birth

*These reasons are given to spare the mental and physical health of the mother

Can a person repent of and be forgiven for abortion?

Yes

According to Russel M. Nelson, to legislate when a beginning life is considered meaningful is...

Presumptive and arbitrary

According to Elder Nelson when does meaningful life begin?

When two cells combine to become one

According to Elder Nelson, what is the first step to repentance when the Law of Chastity has been broken and a baby is going to be born? What is the best alternative if the mother does not want to keep the baby?

-Preserve the life of the child

-Give it up for adoption

What did President George Q. Cannon say in regards to suicide?

"Man did not create himself. He did not furnish his spirit with a human dwelling place. It is God who created man, both body and spirit. Man has no right, therefore, to destroy that which he had no agency in creating. They who do so are guilty of murder, self-murder it is true; but they are no more justified in killing themselves than they are in killing others. What difference of punishment there is for the two crimes, I do not know; but it is clear that no one can destroy so precious a gift as that of life without incurring a severe penalty."

Is a person that commits suicide ALWAYS held to the same standard as someone who commits murder?

No, it depends on the persons mental health and circumstances

"The Lord recognizes differences in circumstances and intent"

The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for what?

Parenthood as husband and wife

When and how many children a couple should have is up to the decision of who?

Up to them and the Lord and nobody else

According to one women who wrote a blog, Children are what?

What God gave you time for

According to the family proclamation, when is happiness in family life most likely to be achieved?

When it is founded on the gospel of Jesus Christ

According to Richard G. Scott, who is the source of true peace in this life?

the Lord Jesus Christ

What three suggestions did David A. Bednar give for a happier home?

1. Express love and show it

2. Bear testimony and live it

3. Be consistent

-"A key principle as we lay a foundation for a great work."

In the proclamation to what are the nine principles of happiness in family life?

Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.

What warnings did Elder Holland give concerning emotional abuse?

1. Don't be too critical

2. Don't gossip

3. Be careful in complementing your children that they do not compare themselves to one another

What did Orson F. Whitney say to comfort parents with children who wander?

While we may despair when, after all we can do, some of our children stray from the path of righteousness, the words of Orson F. Whitney can comfort us: "Though some of the sheep may wander, the eye of the Shepherd is upon them, and sooner or later they will feel the tentacles of Divine Providence reaching out after them and drawing them back to the fold. Either in this life or the life to come, they will return. They will have to pay their debt to justice; they will suffer for their sins; and may tread a thorny path; but if it leads them at last, like the penitent Prodigal, to a loving and forgiving [mother's and] father's heart and home, the painful experience will not have been in vain. Pray for [our] careless and disobedient children; hold on to them with [our] faith. Hope on, trust on, till you see the salvation of God"

At the heart of becoming disciples is doing what we promise to do every time we partake of the sacrament. What is that promise?

To always remember him

What should be our benchmark for judging the philosophies of the world?

The Family Proclamation

What are the three principles in the Family Proclamation that are in need of steadfast defenders?

1. Temple Marriage

-Marriage is between a man and a woman

-Have faith if it is slow in coming

-Continue to show love and compassion for those with differing views

2. Divine Roles of Mothers and Fathers

-There is no more elevated role in this life than that of a mother and father

3. Sanctity of the Home

-Elevate the term "homemaker"

-Everyone, even kids, can be a homemaker

What did Elder Oaks teach about tolerance and truth?

"For persons who believe in absolute truth, tolerance for behavior

is like a two-sided coin. Tolerance, or respect, is on one side of the

coin, but truth is always on the other. You cannot possess or use

the coin of tolerance without being conscious of both sides."