Abuse

What was the 1 wave of abuse?

How does the victim and abuser feel?

Abuse

Victim : Confused, denal, worried, scared, anger

Abuser: Confused, angry, righteous, blames.

What was the 2 wave of abuse?

How does the victim and abuser feel?

Remorse

Victim: Sympathy, empathy ,guilty and trust.

Abuser : Sadness, guilt, self hatred, and confused

What was the 3 wave of abuse?

How does the victim and abuser feel?

Heart and flowers

victim : want to believe this is what the “abuser” is really like. Gut feeling- not true

Abuser: everything is fine- “forgive and forget”

What was the 4 wave of abuse?

How does the victim and abuser feel?

same old stuff

Calmness or lull before the next “wave”

Both the victim and abuser are moving along smoothly

What was the 5 wave of abuse?

How does the victim and abuser feel?

carping

Victim : fear, helplessness and stressed (walking on eggshells)

Abuser: negative self-talk, frustrated, been good too long

What was the 6 wave of abuse?

How does the victim and abuser feel?

Abuse

Another incident occurs and is usually worse than the last time

What is the connection between the waves in the ocean and the “Waves of Abuse”?

They both crash and retreat back into the ocean to crash again and the waves of abuse do that to crash retreat and crash again.

How does Abuse Start? What needs to happen before abuse begins?

to earn truths, “love” , bond and it subtle

What are the different types of abuse and give an example for each

physical like the intent to physically hurt someone , sexual forcing some to do a sexual act without consent , emotion like if some says “ I did it because I love you “ or “ If you don’t do this you don’t love me.

What is a safety plan, and why is it so important? 

A safety plan is a plan set in place to get someone safe out for a abuse relationship. It’s important because getting out of a abuse relationship is hard and dangerous.

What are some ways you can protect yourself if you feel like you are unsafe from an unhealthy relationship?

Tell a trusted adult.

Define Statutory Rape?

When someone is involved in non-consensual sex with someone who is not able to verbally give consent in massachusetts is the legal age for consent is 16

Define Sexual Assault?

A sexual contact or behavior that occurs without explicit consent of the victim.

Define Harassment and stalking?

Someone not leaving you alone after multiple times or contacting you or following you.