CDFS Exam 2 Study Guide

CDFS 101 EXAM 2 STUDY GUIDE 20 multiple-choice questions (1 point each), 2 short answer questions (5 points each), and one essay question (20 points). In total, the exam is worth 50 points. You may use a 3x5 inch notecard with class notes and you must turn your notecard in with your exam. Important Concepts for Exam 2 Review the following concepts to prepare for the multiple-choice and to inform your responses to the short-response questions and essay questions.

JEALOUSY

Occurs when you feel an important relationship might be threatened

types of jealousy

Reactive jealousy, Suspicious jealousy,

Sexual jealousy

can lead to relationship dissolution, Extremes: stalking behavior, violence,
and homicide

SIGNS OF INFIDELITY

Talking about someone else, Spending a lot of time with someone else, Acting apathetic toward you, Acting private/secretive, Emotional-specific, Sexual-specific

How partners discover cheating

Find out from another person, Catch you with the other person, Confronts you and you admit it, You tell your partner on your own

Conflict

Conflict is inevitable in long-term relationships, Every relationship has a set of unresolvable problems, Patterns in conflict

Demand-withdraw pattern

Person 1 demands/pursues which makes person 2 withdraw, Person 1 pursues/demands more which makes person 2 withdraw even more, Becomes a vicious cycle

Criticism Antidotes

Complain without blame, “I” statements vs. “you” statements, I feel bad when... vs. You make me feel bad when... , How to make an “I” statement: State feeling/emotion, State their behavior, Say what you want instead, Be specific!

Defensiveness Antidotes

Take responsibility for your mistakes, Use active listening & stop repeating yourself, Listen to your partner’s complaint, Ask yourself: What can I learn from this? What can I do

Stonewalling Antidotes

Recognize when starting to detach or escalate, Agree on a time to readdress the issue, Take a break (time out) and return when calm

Contempt Antidotes

Lower tolerance for contemptuous statements and behaviors, Stop name calling and eye-rolling, Replace hurtful statements with feelings of admiration, Recognize what you like about the person, Build a culture of appreciation and fondness, Find ways to connect and enjoy time together