gender exam 3

friendship

platonic, nonromantic relationship

dispositional level of analysis

characteristics of the person as a determinant of frienship

more abt characteristics, doesnt always consider on whether not the friendship is with man or woman, the attributes matter

ex. women might have more intimate friendships bc women r most likely to self disclose

structural level

emphasizes different positions of ppl in society

ex. cishet may have greater variety in friends

boys style of play

play outside

rough and tumble

build

emphasizes dominance

girls style of play

creative (arts and crafts)

cooperative (dont rlly have games w winners

relationship focused

family play

house

school

girl influence

they make polite suggestions, not explicitly demand

they have a hard time influencing boys

can influence other girls but less likely to infl boys

institutional support

parents and teachers have differential treatment for boys and girls

less common for family w s3xual minority parents

they are placed in different opportunities

they r encouraged to spend time w same gender peers

qualities of frndship ppl look for

trustworthy

dependable

agreeable

support

fun and relaxation

similarities

men and women are equally likely to view themselves similar to friends

affective skills

• comforting, feel good abt self, building self esteem

  • women rate affective skills as more important than men do

instrumental skills

entertaining, casual convo, just conveying info

most important skill in friendship

men and women rate affective skill in fship, even though men see instrumental is more important than women would rate it

prosocial behavior

helping behavior

self disclosure

sharing int and vulnerable info w understanding the other person is accepting and trustworthy

empathy

feeling for someone elses experiencesad

advanced theory of mind

ability to infer mental state of another esp in an ambiguous sit

women can identify smth is going on or having a hard time even when there is not a clear sign

women are socialized to care for others

they help other ppl have close relationships

self-disclosure

most imp determinate of intimate relationship

wom self disclose more than men

co rumination

one women shares w another and npw they bpth ruminate

there can be negative effects - pressure, anciety, obsession

leads to good friendship quality but has some pychological costs

types of rumination

• contagion: someone shares someyhing and then makes u worry abt your own similarity

• co brooding

  • negative outcomes

  • spural

  • obsess and brood

• co reflection

  • oisitive

  • what can we do

  • how to adddress info

barriers to closeness in male friendhsips

comp

homophobia

emotional inexpressoveness