Marriage and family test 2

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*question 1: average length of an engagement

15 months

*question 20: prior marriage outcomes

all of the above

*question 35: All but which one of the following is noted as an important strategy for withdrawing from a toxic relationship?

B- practicing better communication skills

when should premarital counseling begin

6-12 months before the wedding

PREPARE % accuracy

90%

how long does it take to decide if you are attracted to someone

90 seconds

average cost of hometown wedding

33K

how are families better off according to Maryland stats

men achieving and women domestic

church

couples who go to church together are less likely to get divorced

what do men and women first look for in attraction

men- looks

women- money

filter theory

filter out people that dont meet our criteria biologically, socially, personality, or mentally

time and place theory

its fate, right person wrong time, etc

theory of propinquity

we marry people we know in proximity to us

exchange theory

we marry people with similar worth

social penetration

we marry people based off of how deeply we can know them

theory of reactance

our attraction increased if our family or friends are against them

norepinephrine

gives energy and high levels during attraction

testosterone

sex and aggression

estrogen

growth and reproduction

oxytocin

bonding relationship

vasopresin

bonding with oxytocin

serotonin

calming and lowers during attraction

dopamine

feel good chemical high during attraction

negatives of current dating

intimacy without commitment, skips friendship, focuses on attraction

topics couples avoid

state of relationship

extra-relationship activity,

prior relationships

conflict inducing topics

relationship norms

negative life experience

gender norm

behavior or attribute society assigns (mental)

gender roles

expectations of performance (action)

gender stereotype

boys will be boys or girls are divas

gender socialization

process of learning social expectations

raya

“friend” Song of Songs 4:7

ahava

“to give” Song of Songs 8:6-7, deut, and leviticus

dod

“ to fondle” Song of Songs 1:2

chesed

Isaiah and Ephesians 

marriage covonengt

PISME- permanent, intimate, sacred, mutual, exclusive

passion+ intimacy

romantic love

intimacy and commitment

companionate love

passion and commitment

fatuous love

all triangles

consumate love

root of all toxic behavior

self centeredness

why we date

goal oriented, to marry,

who we date

no soulmate or perfect person just the person you choose

how we date

active not passive, dont play games

how to protect yourself from toxic relationships

detachment, boundaries, self care, fast, sever

CROSS

controlled, responsible, obedient, serving, steady