Christian Familes Final Exam, Logan light

The healthy, holy opposite of the "deadly equation"?

Seeing others as fully human + realistic ideas about love and romance + christian values = healthy intimacy | SRCH

What does Debra Hirsch mean when she says that "sexuality needs a chaperone"?

Its hard to "navigate" on our own

What does Lauren Winner mean when she says that, "theologically speaking," sex is meant to be "unitive, procreative, and sacramental"?

Uniting 2 people that leads to children, and it reminds us of the promise we made to God to be faithful to one another

How is "casual sex" a contradiction in terms?

There is no such thing as casual sex

What are the three A's of the internet that have made internet pornography such potent poison?

Accessibility, affordability, and anonymity

Name any one thing we named in class from William Struthers book Wired for Intimacy about the effect of pornography on the human brain

18% more likely to not be interested in sex

Summarize in a few phrases the case about Kyle and Kristen and their family

They had a busy day. But, if everyday is like that, then they need to make more connections with each other whether that takes time out of what they want to do.

What is the difference between the "institutional family," the psychological family," and "the pluralistic" family as William Doherty distinguishes them in The Intentional Family?

Ins.: goal is stability

Psy.: goal is satisfaction of individual family members

Plural.: includes blended familes

What is an "entropic family"?

Drifts away from current goal or plan

What's the basic difference between "parenting" as carpentry as opposed to parenting as gardening as Alison Gopnik describes it?

Carp.: more control, more predictable outcome/creating the product you're producing

Gard.: less control, less predictable outcome/creating an environment where your kids can thrive

What two things do "Intentional Families" have to "tame"?

Time and technology

The 3 "C's of building Christian character in kids

Conscience, conviction, and commitment

Each letter of D.I.S.C. represents which temperament type?

D: Dominant, I: Influencing, S: Steadiness, C: Compliance

5 fundamentals of sexual intimacy from Debra Hirsch in Redeeming Sex

personal, pleasurable, passionate, pure, and pressure free

3 lies the church tells about sex from Lauren Winner in Real Sex

women are inferior to men, sex is wrong, and Christian marriages don't struggle with sexual issues

4 things Lauren Winner says we need to positively pursue purity,

positive view of sex, community, more than "Thou shalt not", and ask the right questions | PCMA

2 myths (versus the truths) about sex (from Andy Stanley and the Coxes/Lights)

When I get married, I will behave, men and women experience sex the same way

3 lessons "erotic imagery" teaches that we have to "unlearn"

One body, a real body, and future spouses body isn't enough | ORS

Patrick Carnes' 3 elements of a sex addict's faulty belief system

they don't perceive themselves as worthwhile, they don't believe others would care for them if they really knew them, and they believe sex is the most important need | PCS

William Struthers on the 4 parts of the recovery process

confession, enlightenment, find a mentor, and envision sanctification | CEMS

Doherty (in The Intentional Family) believes family rituals accomplish what 4 important things?

Predictability, connection, identity, and a way to enact values | PCIW

List some of our 8 suggestions for disciplining children

● List some of our 8 suggestions for disciplining children,

Discipline is not equal to punishment

Discipline is an act out of love

Children crave the right kind of discipline

Act instead of react

Be consistent

Be creative

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Considering Genesis 2, what were the five characteristics that we shared from Dr. Tim Ateek? These are the characteristics that are fully realized through Christ.

Relational intimacy: God calls us to live with him together with him

Value: Christ sacrifice himself for you

Commitment: Nothing can separate us from God's love

Oneness: he calls us his body, he is the head

Vulnerability: God has seen more of you than anyone else in history

When speaking about what culture gets wrong about sex, we listed four lies that culture tells. Share at least two of them and why they stood out to you

How you dress doesn't matter and you shouldn't marry for sex

Explain the difference between family rituals and family traditions

Rituals are activities of significance that are repeated and coordinated, they provide connection, love, and community.

Pick any four of Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families and briefly explain why the four you picked are important to you?

be proactive, begin with an end in mind, put first things first, seek first to understand then to be understood | PEFS

How would you describe your own personality as a child using the D.I.S.C. system as Charles Boyd applies it to children? How did your personality either click or collide with the personality type of one or both of your parents? Be sure to use the correct D.I.S.C. description(s) for your parent(s), too.

I see myself in each one but mostly in dominate