Terms: conflict
direct confrontation between individuals or groups over scarce resources; occurs when people use controversial means to obtain their goals, or have incompatible goals, or some combo of both
Terms: conflict theory
examines conflict that exists within families and other social relationships
terms: competition
one wins and other loses; members realize they can take turns winning and losing and make decisions where members jointly win or lose, depending on their willingness to negotiate, cooperate, and seek compromise
terms: conflict management
strategies to keep conflict form escalating; dealing with conflict while acknowledging the continued existence of the underlying competitive structure
terms: compromise
an accepted idea is eventually challenged by its opposite until a middle ground is reached
terms: negotiation and bargaining
exchange process
terms: conflict resoution
reach a stable resolution; parties no longer see the issue as competition for scarce resources
terms: consensus
all agree “see things the same way”; stable state in which society, groups, or families exist, sharing common awareness or knowledge of given issues, values, and norms; conflict management seeks the consensus
terms: power
ability to control the course of action of others; can be used positively (authority or privilege) or negatively (unduly control others); can also be a function of personality and temperament, because some people tend to be more persuasive
terms: Assertion
acting in a way that affirms one’s rights and positions but not necessarily at the expense of others
terms: aggression
use of power to get others to behave to one’s advantage even at expense of others
terms: threats
messages that imply punishment if demands are not met
terms: promises
messages that communicate the delivery of something positive/rewarding if demands are met
Assumptions: nature of individuals is that they are self-oriented
or focused on self-interests; individuals are symbol-producing, they are able to ascribe value to things → sets up the competition → resort to interpersonal aggression
Assumptions: societies (families) operate with a scarcity of resources
societies = organized systems for species survival; lead to perpetual scarcity of resources → perpetual confrontations
Assumptions: conflict is a confrontation over control of scarce resources
internal (between individuals, families or societies) or external conflict ( originated from outside system)
Assumptions: group dynamics are different in families than in other groups
family illness will stress its resources while in a group it will not; membership is involuntary in families, they can’t just leave the group
Assumptions: conflict has a positive aspect
people come to new understanding of each other and the compromise might be the best decision; allows growth to occur when they learn new things about each other
Assumptions: conflict can be classified
macro social perspective - issues of conflict between groups of people who have privilege and those who are disadvantaged (haves vs. have nots)
micro social perspective - elements within family that bring conflict (marital conflict, adolescent individuation)
Underlying sources of conflict in marriage
role expectations → household tasks
competing needs for connectedness and separateness → time spent with family v. other
fairness and equity → “that’s not fair”
power → ability to control actions of others; structures in families give authority to parents over children
work-family conflict (dual-career familes)
work-family conflict conception → work and family are incompatible; roles more difficult as a result of participation in both
increase in health risks
decreased parenting performance
decreased work performance
decreased life satisfaction
Conflict Items Examples
demands of my work interfere with my home and family
the amount of time my job takes up makes it difficult to fulfill family responsibilits
the demands of my family or partner interfere with work-related activities
I have to put off doing things at work because of demands on my time at home
things I want to do at work do not get done because of demands of my family or partner
my home life interferes with my responsibilities at work such as getting to work on time, accomplishing daily tasks, and working overtime
family-related strain interferes with my ability to perform job-related duties
Conflict Resolution: conflict constructive or destrictvie
vertical conflict - objectively is considered conflict; conflict b/t parties in hierarchical relationship
contingent - generated by reason that can be solved; arises due to a specific reason/issue
displaced - reason for conflict is from other situation
poorly attributed - comes from other source
latent - not addressed; exists beneath the surface
false - misinterpretation, misunderstanding
Styles of conflict resolution (Thomas and Kidman) conflict mode instrument (TKI): competing
goal is to win (uncooperative; assertive)
Styles of conflict resolution (Thomas and Kidman) conflict mode instrument (TKI): collaborating
goal is win-win (cooperative; assertive)
Styles of conflict resolution (Thomas and Kidman) conflict mode instrument (TKI): compromising
goal is middle ground (in between both cooperative-uncooperative and unassertive-assertive)
Styles of conflict resolution (Thomas and Kidman) conflict mode instrument (TKI): avoiding
goal is to delay (uncooperative; unassertive)
Styles of conflict resolution (Thomas and Kidman) conflict mode instrument (TKI): accommodating
goal is to yield (cooperative; unassertive)
Basic steps for conflict resolution
clarify issue
determine what each person wants
identify alternatives
decide on negotiation
solidify agreements
review and renegotiate
Fair fighting rules
avoid ultimatums
say what you really mean
avoid accusations and attack
state your requests clearly
repeat the message you think you received
resist giving the silent treatment
focus on the issue and on the present
call time-out and foul
always go for closure
Applying conflict theory to research: parents’ and children’s power effectiveness during polyandry family conflict: process and outcome
how does this research reflect the application of conflict theory?
by studying conflict in families and examining power dynamics between parents and children during conflict
discuss the assumption: conflict can be classified
the research focuses on the classification of conflict by studying the types of conflict that arise in polyandry families and how power is used during these conflicts
discuss the assumption: group dynamics are different in families than other groups
the research supports this assumption as it specifically examines conflict in families and the unique power dynamics that exist within them