love and relationships quiz

4 greek words for love

Eros: romantic love, probably fluctuates the most

Filial: friendly love that you choose

Storge: Familial, parental love, usually the strongest

Agape: Selfless, unconditional love.

3 hebrew words for love

rajah: friendly love, companionship

ahavah: longing, romance, the ‘aha’ moment

dod: physical, sexual

5 love languages

1. words of affirmation

   1. how you use your words

      1. “ I really like how you did xyz” or “hey I did this thing yesterday and it made me think of you”

2. quality time

   1. sitting in a room paying attention to each other

   2. focus on your partner

3. receiving gifts

   1. thinking about what they need/want

   2. “I saw this and thought you might like it, here”

4. acts of service

   1. doing something for your partner

5. physical touch

   1. holding hands, hugging, (idk its self explanatory rly)

2 attraction theories

1. complimentary need theory (opposites attract) (CNT)

   1. attracted to complementary personality and psychological traits

   2. greatest promise of meeting our needs

   3. things that we are lacking that we know will be met and accounted for with that partner

      1. common pairs

         1. dominant - deferent

         2. nurturer - nurtured

         3. achievement - vicarious

2. similarity theory

   1. attracted to someone who’s just like you are personality wise

      1. reason behind it is because there are too many differences in CNT so this one makes you more comfortable and lessens disagreements

c.s. lewis

* wrote *the four loves*
* probably written five ever ago
* but its fine bc it popularized the four greek words

gary chapman

* christian psychologist
* he realized that some couples just didnt know how to express love to their partner in the right way
* noticed couples tend to be attracted to people with different love languages
* BOOM the five love languages

ann voskamp

• love is small

  • mundane

  • what happens everyday

• its what you do when ur angry, bored, etc

• thought love was most shown thru actions and service

• the chick with the farmer husband

  • we had a reading assignment with one of her books

rob bell (thx pierce)

* Bell was like the evangelist dude who made the video about fire and the Hebrew words for love

3 reasons why ur def of love is the important