FS Counseling quiz 9/10

Mourning

outward expression of grief: the process of adjustment and adaptation to a loss. The Process that occurs after loss

Stages

9-12 of them. Not as noted because people took them too literal

Grief

personal experience of the loss

Phases

grief is in these according to Parkes, Bowlby, and Sanders

Parkes 4 phases

numbness, yearning, disorganization, dispair

Sanders 5 phases

Shock, awareness of loss, conservation withdrawal, healing, renewal

Worden's task 1

Accept reality

Worden task 2

experience the pain of the death.

Worden task 3

adjust to an environment in which the deceased is missing

Worden task 4

to find an enduring connection with the deceased in the midst of embarking on a new life.

Abnormal grief

active suicidal/homicidal ideation. Plan, intention, means.

Help with remembering

encourage story telling, memory boxes, scrapbooks.

Task 4

extremely prevalent to relationships where the deceased was highly valued and/or looked up to

Harvard child bereavement study

Showed that large numbers of children stay connected to their deceased parent by speaking to, thinking of, dreaming of, and feeling watched over.

Vamik D. Volkan

Mourning ends when the mourner no longer has a need to reactivate the representation of the dead with exaggerated intensity in the course of daily living

Things to avoid saying

I understand how you feel, death was a blessing, it's time to put it behind you,

Things to say

I'm sorry, I'm here for you, I can imagine how much this hurts, I want to listen, how are you doing.