Attraction, Love, & Commitment

Attraction

• It refers to the feeling of being drawn to another person physically, emotionally, intellectually, or spintually

• First step in forming romantic relationships

Types of Attraction

• Physical Attraction

• Emotional Attraction

• Intellectual Attraction

• Spiritual Attraction

Physical Attraction

It is based on appearance or physical traits.

Emotional Attraction

It arises from feeling understood, supported, or emotionally connected.

Intellectual Attraction

It is the admiration for someone's thoughts, opinions, or intelligence.

Spiritual Attraction

It is shared beliefs, values, or faith.

Characteristics of Attraction

• Interest or curiosity about the person.

• Desire to spend time together.

• Noticing physical features or personality traits.

• Initial excitement or "Kilig" feeling.

Love

• Deep emotional connection that goes beyond physical attraction.

• Involves care, trust, intimacy, and passion.

• Develops and grows overtime.

Types of Love (Based on Psychologist Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory)

• Passionate Love

• Companionate Love

• Consummate Love

Passionate Love

Intense emotions and physical attraction (Infatuation).

Companionate Love

Deep affection, trust, and shared experiences.

Consummate Love

Combination of intimacy, passion, and commitment.

Factors that affect love:

• Emotional intimacy

• Time Spent Together

• Shared Experiences

• Mutual respect

• Communication

Characteristics of Love

• Care and concern for the other person's well-being

• Trust and Loyalty

• Emotional Support and understanding

• Willingness to make sacrifices.

• Growing deeper overtime

Commitment

• It refers to the decision to remain with someone and work through challenges together.

• Long-term dedication to maintain the relationship.

Aspects of Commitment

• Short-Term Commitment

• Long-term Commitment

Short-term Commitment

Decision to love someone for a short period of time.

Long-term Commitment

Decision to stay and build a future together.

Factors that influence Commitment

• Trust

• Shared Goals

• Responsibility

• Emotional Maturity

• Satisfaction and Stability

Trust

It is essential for long-term relationships.

Shared Goals

It is having the same direction in life.

Responsibility

It is the willingness to take ownership of the responsibility.

Emotional Maturity

It is the ability to handle conflict and stress.

Satisfaction and Stability

It is the feeling of content and security in the relationship.

Characteristics of Commitment

• Loyalty and Faithfulness

• Long-term thinking (eg, marriage, family)

• Willingness to resolve conflicts

• Prioritizing the relationship

• Consistency and effort