Types of Love

Ludus (John Alan Lee)

• Thrill of the chase (games type love)

• Lots of hookups and not committing to someone is also considered Ludus

Eros (John Alan Lee)

• Passionate love

• Romantic, sexual, a lot of desire and physical attraction 

• Often fizzle out because it is hard to maintain long term

Storge (John Alan Lee)

• Love out of friendship

• Starting as friends and growing into love/relationship 

Mania (John Alan Lee)

• Manic love

• Not trusting, checking their phone to see who they are texting

Pragma (John Alan Lee)

• Practical love

• Looking for someone who would make a good parent, someone from their culture

• Arranged marriages

• “Shopping list”

Agape (John Alan Lee)

• Spiritual love 

• Selfless love

• Self-sacrificing, altruistic, putting your partner first always - not equal love

• Do whatever it takes to make your partner happy (their happiness is essential to your own)

Secure (Levine) (Attachment Theory of Love)

Trust your partner, good, clear communication

Avoidant (Levine) (Attachment Theory of Love)

• Don’t form relationships, not into relationships

• If they are kind of in a relationship, they don’t hold up their end

• Avoid communication

• Do not tend to have long-term relationships as they don’t last

Anxious-ambivalent (Levine) (Attachment Theory of Love)

• Clingy

• Don’t trust their partner

• The more they don’t trust, the more they cling

Disorganized (Levine) (Attachment Theory of Love)

• Develops from trauma in early childhood

• Incapable of truly connecting with another person because of their trauma