INTERSUBJECTIVITY: ACCEPTING ME, ACCEPTING YOU

INTERSUBJECTIVITY

• It is the condition of man, a subject, among other men, who are also subjects.
  

• Refers to the shared awareness and understanding among persons.
  

• It is made possible by the awareness of the self and the other.

MARTIN BUBER

• An Austrian-born Israeli Jewish philosopher best known for his philosophy of dialogue.

• His main interests are focused on philosophical anthropology, a discipline dealing with questions of metaphysics and phenomenology of the human person.

MARTIN BUBER

AUTHOR OF I AND THOU

MARTIN BUBER

"THE WORLD IS NOT COMPREHENSIBLE, BUT IT IS EMBRACEABLE: THROUGH THE EMBRACING OF ONE OF ITS BEINGS"

MARTIN BUBER

"MEN FEEL THEMSELVES TO BE CARRIED BY THE COLLECTIVITY, WHICH LIFTS THEM OUT OF LONELINESS AND FEAR OF THE WORLD AND LOSTNESS"

SOCIAL

The ________ refers to the life of a group bound together by common experiences and reactions.

INTERHUMAN

The ____________ refers to the life between and among persons; it refers to the interpersonal, that is, a life of dialogue.

DIALOGUE

• It is a deep and genuine relationship between persons.
  

• It happens when two persons truly acknowledge each other’s presence and treat each other as equals.

• I AND THOU RELATIONSHIP (ICH-DU)

• I AND IT RELATIONSHIP (ICH-ES)

2 TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS

I AND THOU RELATIONSHIP (ICH-DU)

• It refers to the world of encounters and relationships where there are persons.
  

• It is a concrete encounter without any qualification or objectification of one another.
  

• It is a dialogue.

I AND IT RELATIONSHIP (ICH-ES)

• An individual treats other things, people, etc., as objects to be used and experienced. Essentially, this form of objectivity relates to the world in terms of the self, on how an object can serve individual interest.
  

• It is not a dialogue, but a monologue.

MARTIN BUBER

"THROUGH THE THOU, THE PERSON BECOMES I"

OBSTACLES TO DIALOGUE

SEEMING
SPEECHIFYING
IMPOSITION

SEEMING

• It is a way of approaching the other governed by the image one desires to impress on the other.

• It involves deliberately playing up or hiding aspects of yourself to appear more desirable or impressive.

SPEECHIFYING

• It refers to one’s talking past another.

• It is hearing without listening to what one says.

IMPOSITION

• It constitutes holding one’s own opinion, values, attitudes, and oneself without regard for those of another.

• It is telling the other how he or she should act, behave, and respond to things.

• ESCAPISM

• CONFORMITY WITH GROUPS

• CREATIVE AND PRODUCTIVE WORK

WAYS PEOPLE ADDRESS LONELINESS

ESCAPISM

The use of drugs, sex, and alcohol to find one’s self.

CONFORMITY WITH GROUPS

Joining group, organization, club, or fraternity.

CREATIVE AND PRODUCTIVE WORK

Planning, producing, and seeing the result of a hobby, pastime, or passion.

• LOVE IS HISTORICAL

• LOVE IS TOTAL

• LOVE IS ETERNAL

• LOVE IS SACRED

CHARACTERISTICS OF LOVE

LOVE IS HISTORICAL

Because the other is a concrete particular person with his or her own being history.

LOVE IS TOTAL

Because persons are indivisible.

LOVE IS ETERNAL

Because love is not given only for a limited period of time.

LOVE IS SACRED

Because in love, persons are valuable in themselves.

• CARE

• RESPONSIBILITY

• RESPECT

• KNOWLEDGE

ELEMENTS OF LOVE

CARE

Active concern for the life and the growth of that which we love.

RESPONSIBILITY

An entirely voluntary act; it is the response to the needs, expressed or unexpressed, of another human being.

RESPECT

The ability to see a person as he is, to be aware of his unique individuality.

KNOWLEDGE

Ability to know someone transcending in its core.

ERICH FROMM

THE ART OF LOVING BY __________

THE ART OF LOVING (1956)

• We give more importance to being loved than to loving.

• People think that to love is easy and what is difficult is to find the right person to love or to be loved by.

• We confuse the initial falling-in- love with the permanent state of being-in-love.

ERICH FROMM

German-born American psychoanalyst and social philosopher who explored the interaction between psychology and society.

"Love is an active power in a man", and that in the general sense, the active character of love is primarily that of "giving".

DR MANUEL DY JR.

PROFESSOR OF PHILOSOPHY ATENEO DE MANILA UNIVERSITY

"THE EXPERIENCE OF LOVE BEGINS WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF LONELINESS"

ERICH FROMM

"LOVE IS A DECISION, IT IS A JUDGEMENT, IT IS A PROMISE. IF LOVE WERE ONLY A FEELING, THERE WOULD BE NO BASIS FOR THE PROMISE TO LOVE EACH OTHER FOREVER."