Chap 10. Intimate relationships

intimacy

liking/friendship

passion

infatuated love

commitment

empty love

self concept change

shared interest, shared friends

attachment

emotional tie of two people

secure base

child use caregiver as base to explore the world

internal working model

guides how children interact in relationships

secure attachment: child

explore in cg presence, upset when cg leaves

avoidant- dismissive attachment: child

not distressed by separation

preoccupied anxious: child

very distressed

avoidant: adult

low trust

preoccupied (anxious): adult

high anxiety, overly possessive

fearful- avoidant: adult

low trust and high anxiety

criticism

verbally attacking personality or character

contempt

attacking with intent to insult/abuse

defensiveness

victimizing self

stonewalling

withdrawing to avoid conflict

jealousy

emotional response to real or imagined threat

reactive jealousy

in response to a threat

suspicious jealousy

in absence of actual threat

retroactive jealousy

jealous of partners past

jealousy induction

illicit reactive, romantic to achieve goal