marriage and family midterm

study this

1st step Hollywood

Find the right person

2nd step hollywood

fall in love

3rd step hollywood

set your hopes and dreams on that person

4th step hollywood

if all fails, return to step 1

1st step God’s way

become the right person

2nd step God’s way

walk in love

3rd step God’s way

set hopes on God

4th step God’s way

if failure occurs, repeat

horseman #1

criticism

horseman #2

contempt

horseman #3

defensiveness

horsemen #4

stonewalling

crucial longings

a longing for a relationship with God

critical longings

a longing for connection and relationship with others, we can function (poorly) without it

casual longings

longing for comfort and fun

Godly relationship #1

become a healthy person

Godly relationship #2

see dating as an opportunity for encouragement

Godly relationship #3

develop a relationship rather than be in a relationship

Godly relationship #4

protect each other in 3 ways

In what ways should couples protect each other?

physical, emotional, spiritual

1 Thess. 4:3-8

do not be sexually immoral, do not transgress against each other and God, have self control

1 Cor. 10:31

whatever you do, do it all to the glory of God

intimacy

people who are afraid of this can attract emotionally detached partners

being your own person

People who fear this can attract a controlling partner

being real

People afraid of this can attract a perfectionistic dating partner.

Power

For men, porn is more about this than anything physical

False sense of connection

For women, porn is more about this than anything physical

Dating stage #1

attraction/infatuation

Dating stage #2

uncertainty/evaluation

Dating stage #3

navigating relationship crisis

Dating stage #3

dating exclusively

Dating stage #4

deepening intimacy

Dating stage #5(last)

engagement

Penner &Penner #1

pace matters(slow is better)

Penner& Penner #2

healing from past hurts is a must

Penner &Penner #3

more fun when you work at it in your relationship

Threefold purpose of sex

procreation, oneness, pleasure

in laws

areas that cause issues #1

finances

areas that cause issues #2

children

areas that cause issues #3

sex

areas that cause issues #4

demanding tyrant

what happens when humans try for fill crucial longings with casual longings

Affirmation and adoration

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