Knowing
Having the right answer and realizing you have it
Ability to express whats known and how you learned it
How do you know that you know?
You know more than you think you do
It is impossible to learn what you think you already know
It is possible that what I and others know is unture
Why is knowing difficult?
Old unanswered questions with no clear solutions
New situations we haven’t delt with before
With each passing generation, knowledge is forgotten or rejected
Two habits that interfere with or prevent us from gaining knowledge
Assuming & Guessing
Emotions
human, natural, our birthright
Ignoring our feelings or constantly hositiality/ranting leads to physical or ill
Expressing is due more to social learning than gender, race, ethnicity
The Crucial Triangle
Emotion, logic, intuition
Logic
Helps us recognize that we’re being influence by emotion
Intuition
A hunch, gut feeling, inkling, suspicion, sixth sense
Seen as unimportant, unreliable, imaginary
Can save your life
Those high in self knowledge and comfortable w/ feelings are best at using intuition
Stress
An arousal of mind and body in response to demands made upon it.
Physiological response of stress
Fight or Flight response
Mental response of stress
Increased production of cholesterol. Creates plaque that travels to and blocks our arteries, generating the potential for a heart attack or stroke. Cortisol levels remain high, resulting in further damage to the body and brain
General Adaptation Syndrom
Phase 1: Alarm Reaction
Phase 2: Resistance
Phase 3: Exhaustion
Quality of life is determined by
The quality of your decisions
quality of your decision is determined by the quality of your thoughts
Freuds 3 parts of personality
ID, Ego, Superego
Id
"I want it now”, child part of personality
immature, emotional, impulsive, instant gratification
Ego
“Lets think about this”, mature adult, rational
logical, mediator between id. and super ego, delays gratifcation
Superego
“I shouldnt” Conscience, moral guide/ judge, self-conscious emotions
guilty, shame, pride, embarrassment.
Inductive parenting
Parenting style that involves setting limits with children, including discipline that helps them understand their behavior and effects on themselves and others
Freud
What are self conscious emotions
positive and negative feelings about self; aid in evaluation of one’s behavior
Types of self conscious emotions
pride, guilt, shame, and embarrassment
Denial
“I don’t have a problem” – claiming that no problem or issue exists.
Repression
“What problem?” – usually goes hand in hand with denial; “forgetting” that there is or was a problem.
Displacement
“These slow drivers are making me angry!” – when in fact you are upset with your boss. Occurs in road rage; we take out our feelings on a safer target than the original source of our emotions.
Projection
“I don’t like that woman; she’s very aggressive!” – says the female who has been accused of behaving the same way. Whatever we don’t like in ourselves we criticize in others.
Rationalization
“I’m glad I didn’t get the job. I don’t want to work there anyway.” – also known as sour grapes. We make excuses for our failures or poor decisions.
Sublimation
“I’m going on a 5 mile run to clear my head.” – using a socially acceptable way to deal with stress or emotion, usually through exercise, acting, dance, or artwork. This can also lead to excess physical activity and injury.
Reaction Formation
“Cigarette smoking is bad for you!” – says the new ex-smoker. This happens when we act in opposition of our true feelings or when we have recently implemented a life-altering decision and have “seen the light,” especially in religion, politics, or sexual behavior.
Regression
“I hate you and I’m not talking to you until you apologize!” Under stress, we return to more childlike ways of responding.
Factors included in Emotional Intelligence
Managing emotions
motivating oneself
handling relationships successfully
feeling empathy
delay of gratification (most important)
Poor EQ
tend to be more dependent on others, depressed, and engage more often in aggressive behavior
Coping skills
a psychological term for how we deal with stress
Ego strength
the psychological and emotional stamina we possess in defending ourselves from maltreatment while still feeling good about ourselves. Sometimes we refer to this as resilience
Authoritative Parenting
High acceptance, high involvement
highly accepting of their children and are significantly involved in their lives. They are warm, attentive, and sensitive to the child’s needs.
Authoritarian Parenting
Low acceptance, high involvement
These adults tend to be rejecting, cold, even degrading by mocking or putting down their children. They control by using threats, yelling, hitting, withdrawing attention and love, or criticizing
Permissive Parenting
High acceptance, low involvement
overly tolerant and but not very involved. They are warm and loving, but are either overindulgent or inattentive, exerting little control over their child’s behaviors.
Uninvolved Parenting
Low acceptance, low involvement
unaccepting and has low to no involvement. These guardians are emotionally detached, withdrawn, and neglectful.
3 Components of morality
Emotional - empathy
Cognitive - thought
behavior - actions
Bandura Social Learning Theory
moral development due to observing/imitating other role models
most positively imitate those who show warmth/responsiveness, competent/power, consistency between words + actions
Kohlberg’s 3 levels of moral development
Evaluation of good v. bad
Empathy
Sharing and cooperation
Percentage of college students who cheat
Many students unsure what is cheating
75-98% of students admit to cheating in college
Moral self-relevance
Doing the right think because it is part of who you are
Social referencing
when infants look at the facial expressions of others to help figure out how they should proceed in a certain situation
Diffusion of Responsibility
each group member’s obligation to act weakens he/she they perceives that responsibility is shared by all group members.
Bystander effect
Sociological concept stating that people are less likely to provide help when they are in groups than when they are alone.
Moral self-regulation
How we monitor and adjust our conduct when temptation is present
Narcissism
Not always a bad thing
excessive preoccupation with self and lack of empathy for others
Egocentrism
Being so focused on oneself, one’s needs, beliefs, opinions, that we ignore those of others
Ethnocentrism
excessive focus on one’s group
belief that ones group is superior and sus of the motives of other groups
Personal Fable
Belief that one is so special/unique that no one could understand their experiences
“No one’s ever loved the way I have”
Imaginary audience
Belief that one is or should be the center of attention/concern
“Everyone’s staring at me”
Characteristics of egocentric people
Limited CT skills don’t investigate their own or other viewpoints
Little empathy for others, insecure, lack responsibility
Characteristics of ethnocentric people
Challenge other groups’ views but not their own
Oversimplify complex issues
No middle ground
Believe negative stereotypes about other groups
Need to have an “outgroup” or scapegoat to balme for individual or world problems
Helicopter parents
Hover around their children rescue them from conflict
constant planning of kids activities
over involved in kids college/career/life choices
Trophy kids
over inflated egos, expect special treatment at work
Difficulty making decisions
hard working achievement oriented
poor leadership solving skills
3 Processes of Memory
Encoding - changing info so it can be stored in memory
Storage - keeping info in memory
Retrieval - bringing stored materials to mind
Sensory memory
everything we experience with senses
held memory for 1 - 2 seconds
Short term memory
Working memory
limited capacity, 7 plus or minus 2 items kept for 30 sec without rehersal
overload leads to forgetting
long term memory
relatively permanent storage
unlimited capacity
holds all past knowledge
Recall
producing info from memory without retrieval cues (essay test)
Recognition
recognizing familiar material (multiple choice test)
Relearning
studying for past materials again (comprehensive exam)
Ebbinghaus meaningful material is
remembered best/longest
Curve of forgetting
largest amount of forgetting occurs quickly after study than tapers off
Flashbulb memory
type of memory that results in a powerful, immediate retention of information involving emotional content
serial position effect
Tendency to remember beginning and ending items in a list better than the middle items.
State dependent learning
Recall of information is best if learning and recall are implemented in the same physical, physiological, emotional, or psychological “place.”
Causes of forgetting
encoding failure - info never entered in long term memory
decay - use it or lose it
interference - Competition between old and new material
motivated forgetting - occurs when we purposely ignore painful memories, usually prefaced by the statement
retrieval failure - Inability to remember information
prospective forgetting - Forgetting to carry out an action. This is mostly influenced by motivation
Classical conditioning
Pavlov
Extinction
Termination of response to a stimulus.
Spontaneous Recovery
Reproducing an extinguished response.
generalization
One of my relatives was bitten by a dog when he was a toddler. He became fearful of that particular dog. As time went on, he became afraid of all dogs. If you are rejected in one relationship after another, you might generalize that pain comes with all intimate relationships.
discrimination
Ability to distinguish between similar stimuli
taste adversion
learning to avoid a certain food if eating it was followed by illness.
Operant conditioning
Skinner
shapes or “conditions” voluntary responses. Skinner noted that we perform in order to either earn a reward or avoid punishment.
positive reinforcement
A response is followed by a reward; money, praise, good grades, a promotion, etc.
negative reinforcement
A response is followed by the end or avoidance of discomfort.
punishment and effects
The opposite of reinforcement; it lowers the probability of a response. It discourages behavior from occurring
It may not end negative behavior; it temporarily suppresses it
It doesn’t help to develop more appropriate behavior
It can lead to anger, aggression, hostility, and resentment.
Observational learning
Bandura
we learn by watching others as well as paying attention to the consequences of their behavior.
Bobo doll experiment and outcome
social referencing, kids matched behavior of adults