SOCIAL RELATIONS: ATTRACTION AND LOVE

ATTRACTION

• Process of making other people like or accept you

• Wanting to be accepted and to belong is a psychological need

PROXIMITY

• Geographical nearness.

• More precisely functional distance, powerfully predicts liking

More Exposure Effect

• Tendency for novel stimuli to be liked more or rated more positively after the rater has been repeatedly exposed to them

2. Similarity

• The way two or more things are alike or share the same characteristics and values

3. Reinforcements

• The experiences benefits or rewards that the other person gives us

Basic Needs in a Relationship

• Attention

• Care

• Goodtime

4. Physical Attraction

• Primal, instinctive reaction to another person, based on factors such as their appearance, expressions, voice and scent

1. Attentiveness

• remembering small details

2. Sense of Humor

• no dull moment; women want men who can make them laugh and comfortable

3. Confidence

• someone who can protect them

4. Provision

• someone who can provide for them power and wealth

Factor Analysis

• A statistical technique for sorting test items or behaviors into similar groupings

1. Passion

• Physiological arousal and a longing to be united with the other

2. Intimacy

• Feelings that promote a close bond with other. These include desire to promote the lover’s welfare, a feeling of happiness being with the other, mutual sharing and emotional support

3. Decision/Commitment

• decision to love the other person and in the long term, of a commitment to maintain that love

Passionate Love

• a state of intense longing for union with another

Two- Factor Theory of Emotion ( Stanley Schachter and Jerome Singer )(1962)

Arousal + Its label = emotion

Companionate Love

• Affection and tenderness felt for those whose loves are etwined with our own

Sexual gratification

• one motivation that distinguishes romantic relationship from friendship is the desire

Testosterone

lead to the increase or decrease in sexual desire

Erotophobia

• tendency to feel guilt and fear of social disapproval for thoughts and behaviors relating to sex

Sociosexual Orientation

• individual difference in the tendency to prefer either unrestricted sex or restricted sex

Unrestricted orientation to sex

• doing the deed without necessity of love

Restricted orientation to sex

• only in the context of a long term loving relationship

The Attachment System

• The Parallelism between the attachment of an infant to its mother and the attachment of lovers to one another

Three-stage Pattern of separation distress

1. Protest

2. Despair

3. Detachment

Protest

• attempts to reestablish contact

Despair

• Inactivity and Helplessness

Detachment

• Lack of concern and coolness toward the parent or lover

Secure Attachment Style

• Attachment marked by trust that the other person will continue to provide love and support

Anxious Attachment Style

• Attachment marked by fear of abandonment and the feeling that one’s needs are not being met

• Marked by defensive detachment from the other

Erotomania

• a disorder characterized by the fixed delusional belief that one is passionately loved by another

Unrequited Love

• having romantic feelings for someone who doesnt feel the same way

Monogamy

• one man marries one woman

Polygamy

• either one man marries more than one woman

Polygyny

• woman marries more than one man