Interpersonal Relationships TEST 3

1. insecurity

2. fear of being displaced in the relationship

3. health issues

4. failure

5. expectations

6. finances

6 types of intimacy

1. Drive Thru Talking

2. Planned Times of Praise

3. Isolation Principle

4. Emotional Word Pictures

5. How am I doing?

6. The Five Love Languages

Methods of Communications

Drive Thru Talking

speak, listen and clarify back and forth

1. Encouraging Words

2. Quality Time

3. Giving gifts

4. Acts of service

5. Physical Touch

The Five Love Languages

word pictures

relates to what they understand not what you understand

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variety of different word pictures

Dynamic Homeostasis

an underlying principle is the iniating change to maintain a consistency

change

what is a vital component of conflict and resolution?

conflict

based in disagreement and a result of a clash of opposing responses to various situations and challenges

contention

a struggle of opposing wills

• improper response of conflict that is generated by the attempt of one person to impose his will on another person

Lion

problems need to be fixed

Otter

problems need to be minimized

The Golden Retriever

problems need to be avoided

Beaver

problems need to be analyzed

1. Differences in Personality

2. Rejection of Position in a Relationship

3. Emotional Baggage

4. Sin

Reasons for Interpersonal Problems

emotional baggage

refers to unfinished, emotional issues, stressors, pain, and difficulties we've experienced that continue to take up space in our minds and affect our present relationships

appreicate

Solution for Interpersonal Problems

• _________ God working in your life and in lives of others

understand

Solution for Interpersonal Problems

- ____________ the nature of your position in the relationship and respond biblically

Boundary

a recognition of God-designed parameters in which a healthy relationship is intended to function

objective

Boundaries are based on the __________ Truth of Scripture

define and protect

Boundaries ____________ and _____________ a relationship

consequences

Broken boundaries bring c______

assertiveness

Communicate boundaries and enforce consequences with a___________ coupled with grace, kindness and love

mature

Spiritually and emotionally ____________ people will appreciate and respect proper boundaries

issue

Healthy people who desire healthy relationships don't have an _____ with other people's healthy boundaries

1. Appreciate God working in your life and in the lives of others

2. Understand the nature of your position in the relationship and respond biblically

3. Accept what cannot be changed in your life and in the lives of others

4. Be proactive rather than reactive when dealing with sin

Solutions for Interpersonal Relationships

entitled

Successful Relationships

• Give a little more than you think you should, demand a little less than you think you're ________ to

Steps the Conflict Resolution

1. Is the issue at hand really that important?

2. Have you prayed about it?

3. Use the correct style of dealing with conflict?

confrontation

what is always biblical?

avoiding

unassertive and uncooperative

accommodating

unassertive but cooperative

1. Avoiding

2. Accommodating

3. Manipulating

4. Dominating

5. Collaborating

Use the 5 correct style of dealing with conflict

manipulating

assertive and cooperative-ish

manipulative

A _______________ tactic used to shift the power dynamic in a healthy relationship such that one person has complete control over the other

Gaslighters' Phrases

1. That's not what I meant

2. You're making such a big fuss

3. Was that even important?

4. I said/ you said/ by proper definition

5. How dare you accuse me of that

6. What YOU did was really bad because...

Dominating

assertive and uncooperative

Collaborating

assertive and cooperative

1. Righteous Indignation

2. Anger resulting from frustrated personal desires

Causes of Anger

1. Blowing Up

2. Clamming Up (soda)

3. Giving Up

4. Fessing Up

Four expressions of Anger

1. Evaluate

2. Locate

3. Anticipate

4. Communicate

5. Negotiate

Taming the Emotion of Anger

Controllable

ask God how you can change it

Uncontrollable

Ask God how you can accept it

Bitterness

a sinful response to the emotion of anger caused by harboring an injustice which results in broken fellowship with God

anger

Control _______ Before It Controls You

1. Comparison Christianity

2. Taking up another person's offense

3. When we are wronged

Causes Bitterness

1. Our response should be the major concern

2. Realize that bitterness is a right we do not have

3. Forgiveness is the key!

Cure for Bitterness

Forgiveness

Choosing to no longer hold someone accountable for the sin committed against you

1. Not based on whether or not a person deserves it

2. To forgive does not necessarily mean to forget

3. Forgiveness is granted, not earned

4. Confess the sin

5. Forgiveness is the will of God

Five Principles Governing Forgiveness

regret

How to Rebuild a Relationship after Conflict

- "I'm sorry"

Repentance

How to Rebuild a Relationship after Conflict

• "I was wrong."

Reconciliation

How to Rebuild a Relationship after Conflict

• "Please forgive me."

Restitution

How to Rebuild a Relationship after Conflict

- "Let me make it right."

toxic relationship

which situation?

• the best way to know when something is wrong is to know what is right

abuse

a person pursues their own self-interests by seeking to manipulate and dominate the other a pattern of coercive, controlling, and punishing behaviors

1. This behavior is RARE!

2. Any hurtful action/word is technically abuse

3. Identifying abuse requires analyzing intent

4. Hurt feelings does not equate to abuse

Is it ABUSE?

- Cautions

- Is it intentional?

- Is it continual?

- Is it spiteful?

- Is it self-serving?

Recognizing Abuse

1. there is an unwillingness to acknowledge the problem

2. there is no repentance

3. there is no lasting/incremental change

4. emotional or physical well-being is threatened

When to leave an abusive relationship

1. Our effectiveness in the workplace depends on our ability to relate to other people

2. Biblical principles will work in the secular workplace

Two Overriding Workplace Principles

Jobs, Workers and Problems

Factor that Make Coworker Relationships Difficult

• Characteristics of the _________, ___________, _________

1. Multiplies of Pressures; tension

Characteristics of the Job

1. personal problems

2. life challenges

Characteristics of the Workers

Characteristics of Problems

Diversity

creates discrimination instead of eliminating it

Equity

equal outcome is not the same as equal opportunity

Inclusion

mandating and enforcing acceptance and "celebration" leads to intolerance

words; denial; freedom

Using Trans Pronouns

- ___________ communicate meaning

- Assisting someone in their ________ of reality is not helpful or loving

- The __________ to have different world views is a basic human rights

- we may not be able to stop the normalization of ungodly viewpoints, but we should not participate in it

Proverbs 25:26