Social Relationships

knowledge

knowing more about someone you are more intimate with

caring

more affectionate than for most others

interdependence

your opinion mattes to the people you have intimate relationships with

mutuality

"us" instead of "me and her"

trust

expectations to be treated with fairly and honesty

responsiveness

counting on someone to make you feel better when you feel bad

commitment

expecting to stay with someone indefinitely

triangular theory of love

intimacy, passion, commitment

social sciences say key to intimacy is expressing __

vulnerability and curiosity

The need to belong theory

humans are not meant to be alone for a long period of time

people with good relationships are __

less likely to develop mental health disorders

live healthier lives

secure attachment

relaxed and comfortable depending on others

preoccupied (anxious-ambivalent)

nervously worrying relationships won't last

fearful attachment

avoid intimacy with others because of fears of rejection

dismissing attachment

feels that intimacy is not worth the trouble

people get more ____ attached with age

securely

sex differences

biological & hormone differences

gender differences

expression of masculinity/feminism & social/psychological differences

instrumental traits

masculine

expressive traits

feminine

androgynous

high in both instrumental & expressive traits

direct rewards

evident pleasures people provide us

indirect rewards

subtly & may not subconsciously be aware of them

5 senses that play a role in attraction

1. eyes : visual demand

2. nose : natural chemical signals activate behavioral response

3. ears : voice pitch

4. touch

5. first kiss : activates flight or fight response

shapely figures

a) women with <0.7 waist are more attractive

b) men with 0.9 waist (big muscles & broad shoulders) are more attractive

proximity

liking those who are near us

Mere Exposure Effect

familiarity increases liking

the desirability formula

desirability = physical attractiveness x probability of acceptance

the balance theory

people desire consistency in their thoughts, feelings and social relationships

stimulus value role theory

the theory that relationships proceed in a fixed order of three stages: stimulus, value, and role

Role compatibility stage

determining compatibility becomes important when people find out if they feel similar about important things (becoming parents)

fatal attraction

a quality that initially attracts one person to another gradually becomes one of the most obnoxious, irritating things about that partner

misperception

our perception on similarities is not totally based on reality

dissimilarity

the more time you spend with someone you become similar overtime