CMN 120 PT. 3

what is deception?

intentional behavior that creates a false belief in another person

what is interpersonal deception theory (IDT)?

theory explaining that deception is strategic and interactive, and ppl are not as good at detecting lies as they think

what percentage of lies are detected?

50%

what is fabrication?

type of deception. making up completely false information

what is concealment/omission?

type of deception. leaving out important info

what is half-truth?

mixing truthful info with false info

what is equivocation?

giving vague or unclear answers

what are 4 message characteristics that ppl use for deception?

uncertainty/vagueness, withdrawal, dissociation (make irrelevant), image/relationship protecting behavior.

assumptions of IDT

(1) communication is interactive - both ppl constantly adjust their communication based on each others responses (2) strategic deception takes mental effort - an overload can cause leakage

goals of deception

accomplish a specific task, establish or maintain a relationship, save face or sustain the image of one or both parties. 

Why do you get caught in a lie?

too slick of a performance, physiological arousal, guilt, anger, joy, and unintentional leakage bc of complex performance

What is relationship devaluation?

when one partner no longer views the relationship as valuable, important or close

Relational transgressions

behaviors that violate explicit or implicit relationship rules (cheating). can be irreparable and influences social network

Transgression-maximizing message

highlighting bad stuff

Transgression-minimizing message

downplaying stuff

Hurtful messages

messages that make someone feel unimportant or devalued. types are evaluation, accusation, informative statements, directives, threats, expressions of desire

What are 3 responses to hurt messages

active verbal, acquiescent (giving in), involuntary (avoid giving reaction)

Acceptance

behaviors that communicate love, value, and inclusion. 4 examples are maximal, active, passive, ambivalence

Rejection

behaviors that communicate exclusion or lack of value. 3 examples are passive, active, maximal

Ostracism

being ignored or excluded w/o explanation. this is a way to punish partners and avoid confrontation

Jealousy

potential loss of relationship to real or imagined rival.

reactive jealousy

jealousy in response to active threat (infidelity)

suspicious jealousy

jealousy based on fear or suspicion w/o evidence

characteristics of jelly people

low self-esteem, insecurity, dependency, attachment issues

What causes jelousy

infidently (sexual/emotional)