COM 112- Chapter 11

Types of Friendships- Short vs. Long Term

- Some friendships fade away due to life changes, others remain for years or a lifetime

Types of Friendships- Task vs. Maintenance Oriented

- Task- through a sport, club, job, etc.
- Maintenance- friendship through common interests and social support

Type of Friendships- Low vs. High Disclosure

- Low- general, basic information shared
- High- deep, meaningful information shared

Types of Friendships- Low vs. High Obligation

- How much of an obligation there is to reach out, be there for them, do something for them

Types of Friendships- Infrequent vs. Frequent Contact

- How much communication there is
- Does not determine closeness

Same-Sex Friendships

- Bond over shared interests
- Women: mutual self-disclosure, one-on-one
- Men: shared activities, groups

Cross-Sex Friendships: Mutual Romance

- Both partners want the relationship to turn romantic

Cross-Sex Friendships: Strictly Platonic

- Neither partner wants to turn the relationship romantic

Cross-Sex Friendships: Desires Romance

- One partner wants romance but fears the other doesn't

Cross-Sex Friendships: Rejects Romance

- One partner doesn't want romance but thinks the other does

FWB/Situationships

- Lower levels of commitment and communication
- Some end up as relationships, are a transition out of one, or a placeholder for one

Communication in Friendships

- Trust, respect, fun, support, balance, loyalty

Functional families tend to have...

- Rituals and traditions
- Shared stories

Families as Communication Systems

- Interdependence- if something affects one, it affects all
- Family is based off the way they interact, not just the individuals
- Systems within the larger system

Conversation Orientation- Low vs. High

- Low- talk about basic things, infrequent communication
- High- interaction is open, often, and free

Conformity Orientation- Low vs. High

- Low- individuals, independent, more equal
- High- fall in line, harmony, obedience

Family Communication Pattern

- Laissez Faire- low conf., low conv.
- Protective- high conf., low conv.
- Consensual- high conf., high conv.
- Pluralistic- low conf., high conv.

Effective Communication in Families

- Balance between autonomy and connection
- Strive for closeness while respecting boundaries
- Encourage confirming messages

Family Boundary Patterns

- Trusting- infrequent invasions, infrequent defenses
- Surrendered- frequent invasions, infrequent defenses
- Combative- frequent invasions, frequent defenses
- Guarded- infrequent invasions, frequent defenses

Characteristics of Romantic Relationships

- Love, commitment, affection

Love Languages

- Ways you express and receive love
- Words of affirmation, touch, quality time, gifts, acts of service

Matching Hypothesis

- Beautiful people end up with beautiful people, average end up with average, ugly end up with ugly

Love Styles

- Eros- romantic love, physical, passionate
- Ludus- game playing, getting>having, flirty with others
- Storage- friendship, companionship, reliable, steady
- Pragma- have criteria, practical
- Mania- when good, SO GOOD, when bad, SO BAD
- Agape- sacrifice, putting others and their happiness first