LACS L7

healthy relationships

emotional and social wellness

unhealthy ones

overwhelm and drain

12 basic components

• according to johns hopkins university

• to promote emotional and social wellness, without them, relationships leave us feeling overwhelmed and drained

• communication, boundaries, consent, trust, honesty, independence, equality, support, responsibility, healthy conflict, safety, fun

toxic relationships

• needs re-evaluation

• lack of respect (my way or no way/expecting obedience)

• controlling behavior & frequent jealousy

• getting blamed for their problems (look what you made me do)

• being held back or made to feel guilty about succeeding

• sharing your private thoughts/acts without consent

abusive relationships

• crossing the line

• verbal abuse (screaming, swearing, bullying, name-calling)

• physical violence (pushing, shoving, hitting-even if it happens only one)

• total control (checking your phone, deciding who you talk to or what you wear)

• forced attention or affection (ignoring your right to consent)

• threats to hurt you or themselves, and breaking objects to intimidate you

active listening

• navigation tool 1

• a precurson to empathy. it is actively processing meaning and intention, not just hearing literal words

• be fully present, notice non verbal cues, maintain good eye contact, reflect on what you hear

empathy

• navigation tool 2

• suspend judgement, interpretation, and solutioning

• imagine yourself in their shoes

• listen without interrupting and look for similarities rather than differences

setting boundaries

• navigation tool 3

• set limits to protect yourself from being hurt, manipulated, or disrespected

• maintain self respect, safety, and autonomy

• set clear expectations for how you want to be treated

tampo

isn’t a refusal to communicate; it is indirect communication conveying hurt, dissapointment, or anger to avoid direct confrontation

the healthy resolution to tampo

• reconcile: offer an apology or attempt or make amends

• validate: listen actively; do not dismiss their feelings of hurt

• be patient: do not force the conversation, give them appropriate space while showing empathy

warning to tampo

prolonged silence leads to strained connections, misunderstandings, and friendship over

balance

establishing healthy relationships requires open communication, mutual respect for boundaries, and trust

discernment

you must distinguish positive traits from manipulative, controlling, or abusive actions that “cross the line”

mastery

building strong connections means mastering active listening and empathy while setting clear physical and emotional boundaries