HE-150: Personal Health | Test 2

The first relationship that we choose is our _______.

friends

Friendships teach us many wonderful things that we will use in our intimate relationships such as: companionship, respect, __________, help, trust, loyalty, mutuality, reciprocity. 

acceptance 

When choosing a partner when we first meet a person ______________ is most important. This is often seen as shallow.

physical attractiveness

Shortly after physical attractiveness, we then care about a person’s _________. This tells us if we enjoy spending time with the person or not. 

personality 

After physical attractiveness and personality we then care about a person’s _______ and aspirations. These are things such as whether they want to have a family and what type of parent they want to be. 

values

Typically, we end up pairing with someone who live in ______ are as ourselves.

the same

True or False: Love does give us perfect happiness.

False: Love does not give us perfect happiness. It can give us more meaning but being in love with a person doesn’t mean your life will be perfect.

In the ______: Sexual activity was only socially acceptable after marriage.

past

In the _____: Standards of sexual activity are up to each individual. 

present 

This percentage of Americans believe premarital sex between a man and a woman is morally acceptable (as of 2019 data). 

69%

In the _____: We don’t know how sexual activity will evolve.

future

This person came up with the triangular theory of love. He believed that love is made up of three parts: intimacy, passion, and commitment.

Robert Sternberg

Triangular Theory of Love: The feeling of attachment, closeness, and connectedness. 

Intimacy 

Triangular Theory of Love: This promotes motivational drives and sexual attraction

Passion

Triangular Theory of Love: The decision to remain together and make long-term plans.

Commitment

What does it mean when you have all three of the triangular theory of love?

Consumate Love (all-consuming)

Triangular Theory of Love Combination: Having intimacy and commitment (companion is like a friend). 

Companionate 

Triangular Theory of Love Combination: Having intimacy and passion.

Romantic 

Triangular Theory of Love Combination: Having commitment and passion.

Fatuous

Triangular Theory of Love 1/3: Having commitment (you are committed but there is no passion or intimacy.

Empty Love

Triangular Theory of Love 1/3: Having passion for the person. 

Infatuated Love 

Triangular Theory of Love 1/3: Having intimacy with the person.

Liking

True or False: Relationships and love changes over time.

True, relationships and love do change over time.

At the beginning of relationships and love, there is typically a lot of _________. This is known as the “honey-moon” phase.

passion

Later in relationships and love, there is typically a lot of __________. This is when things are no longer mine and yours but turn into “ours.” 

commitment 

Communication is ______. 

Key 

Communication is Key, Resolving Conflict: 1st ________ the issue.

Clarify

Communication is Key, Resolving Conflict: 2nd Find out what __________ wants.

each person

Communication is Key, Resolving Conflict: 3rd Determine how ______ of you can get what you want.

both

Communication is Key, Resolving Conflict: 4th Decide how to _________.

negotiate

Communication is Key, Resolving Conflict: 5th ________ the agreement.

Solidify

Communication is Key, Resolving Conflict: 6th Review and _________. 

Renegotiate 

There is a theory that we ________ dramas from our childhood. For instance, if your father was an alcoholic you are more likely to marry an alcoholic and try to "fix" that person.

recreate

True or False: When we first meet a person we try and put our worst foot forward.

False, when we first meet a person we try and put our best foot forward.

Unequal commitment, is also known as ______ commitment.

premature