INTERSUBJECTIVITY

LOVE

•  originates from Middle English (ME) and Old English (OE) lufu.

DEAR OR BELOVED

Old High German (OHG) luba (also meaning "love") and the Old English word leof meaning

LOVE

•  originates from Middle English (ME) and Old English (OE) lufu.

DEAR OR BELOVED

Old High German (OHG) luba (also meaning "love") and the Old English word leof meaning

TO PLEASE

• The Latin roots lubere or libere mean ____

• This suggests a semantic link between the concepts of pleasing and love.

DESIRES

• Indo European root lubhyati meaning

LIBET and LIBIDO

• The Latin words _____ ("it is pleasing") and _____ ("desires")

• tied to the root, emphasizing the relationship between love, pleasure, and desire.

EROS

•  (Romantic, Passionate Love)

  • A deep, emotional, and often intimate connection between two people.

  • It is intense and passionate but can be possessive.

  • e.g.: Romeo and Juliet.

PHILIA

•  (Friendly, Affectionate Love)

  • A close bond based on trust, respect, and equality.

  • Shared between friends who value mutual understanding and intimacy.

STORGE

•  (Unconditional, Familial Love)

  • The natural love between family members.

  • Example: A parent’s love for their child or a sibling bond.

AGAPE

• (Selfless, Universal Love)

  • Pure, unconditional love for all humanity.

  • Non-possessive and focused on the well-being of others.

  • Encouraged by figures like Carl Rogers in therapy as a compassionate, healing attitude.

LUDUS

• (Playful, Flirtatious Love)

  • Fun, lighthearted affection often seen in flirting or casual relationships.

PRAGMA

• (Committed, Enduring Love)

  • Mature, practical love that develops over time.

  • Found in long-term partnerships based on compromise and mutual goals.

PHILAUTIA

•  (Self-Love)

  • A healthy sense of self-respect and care for oneself.

  • Balances self-confidence without being narcissistic.

XENIA

• (Love Through Hospitality)

  • Generous care and kindness toward strangers or guests.

  • Rooted in ancient customs of welcoming others into one’s home

NOT LOVE

• “Falling in Love”

• Meeting the Right Person vs Becoming the Right Person

• Love is not a Dependency (Parasitism)

• Love is not a Feeling

• Love is not an Addiction

LOVE

• Encounter

• Gift

• Mature (Care, Responsibility, Respect, Knowledge)

• Errors of Maturity (Invulnerability, Infallibility, Inflexibility)

• Discipline

• Empowerment

• Healing and Growth

• Art of Listening

INTERSUBJECTIVITY

• Coined by Edmund Husserl, an Austrian-German philosopher.

• Refers to the exchange of thoughts, feelings, and understanding between two people, facilitated by empathy.

• Involves shared understanding, mutual awareness, and recognition of self and others.

• Derived from inter (between) and subject (conscious being)

SEEMING

• Acting differently before different people

• Presenting oneself based on the image one wants to project.

• May involve hiding aspects of oneself or adopting roles to appear more desirable.

DIALOGUE

• Interaction through speech, expressions, and body language.

• Happens when individuals recognize each other's presence, uniqueness, and equality.

• Opening up (giving and receiving) of persons to each other in their encounter.

EMPATHY

• Ability to share the emotions or to put oneself in the shoes of others

AVAILABILITY

• Willingness to be present and attentive to another person.

• be at the disposal of the other

ETHICS OF CARE

• A moral responsibility to respond to the needs of others.

• Moral dimensions of human relationships

MARTIN BUBER

• (1827-1965)

• An Austrian Jewish Philosopher.

• Author of “I and Thou”

I - IT RELATIONSHIP

• Treats others as objects to be used or experienced.

• Lacks authentic connection; can lead to alienation (A feeling of disconnection or estrangement from others or oneself, often due to inauthentic or exploitative relationships.) and dehumanization.

• It is a monologue, a relationship with ones own self

I - THOU RELATIONSHIP

• World of encounters, relationship with other persons

• Genuine sharing of one another; no objectification

• I treats the other as distinctly other “thou” as another person who is different from itself

• Results in dialogue- genuine form of interaction

ARISTOTLE

He  defines love as a selfless act of wishing for and working toward the good of another person, not for one's own benefit. This view emphasizes altruism and acting to the best of one’s ability to benefit the other person

PLATO

He sees love as a motivating force that drives one to explore and appreciate beauty. The journey begins with physical beauty and evolves into a deeper understanding of spiritual or intellectual beauty, reflecting love's transformative and contemplative nature

CORINTHIANS

• describes love as a collection of virtues: patience, kindness, humility, and truthfulness.

• It avoids envy, arrogance, resentment, and wrongdoing, instead celebrating honesty and moral righteousness. This definition focuses on the ethical and enduring qualities of love.