Christian Counseling Final

What is the difference between legal issues and ethical issues

legal issues are laws while ethical issues are professional standards of right and wrong

3 main categories of ethical issues

confidentiality, competence, choice

What is confidentiality

keeping anything confidential that the client reveals or discloses

What is competence

the counselor will receive the proper degrees and licenses to do this

What does choice mean

the client must be able to decide for themselves whether to participate with all of the available information to consent

Mandatory reporting

If you have reasonable belief that something such as child abuse is occurring, you are required to bring this to the attention of authorities or else you may be found at fault as well

Four ways of serving as an instrument of change

Love, Know, Speak, Do

What does it mean to love (IoC)

enter the person's world and identify with their suffering- show them the love of Christ

What does it mean to know (IoC)

be aware of the situation, the person's thoughts, and their motives

What does it mean to speak (IoC)

Confession and commitment to making a change

What does it mean to do (IoC)

Create an identity in Christ and accountability moving forwards

11 characteristic of a faithful presence counselor

Good listener, skilled observer, positive positioning skills, minister of acceptance, self-aware, compassionate, spiritual disciple, hope engendering, ethical, genuine, non-anxious presence

what does it mean to be a good listener (FP)

to actively listen and be attentive

what does it man to be a skilled observer (FP)

note the persons's body language and what it means

what does it mean to have positive positioning skills (FP)

SOLER, in front of them, eye contact, etc.

what does it mean to be a minister of acceptance (FP)

give grace to the person and their situation

What are the ways to be a good listener

listen with your mind, body, words, intuition, and the Holy Spirit

What do powerful questions allow for?

They allow others to reflect more deeply and develop new insights

Tell me what you did today?

What was the most meaningful part of your day?

Characteristics of a good action plan

Problem oriented, appropriate to the person's functional level and dependent needs, consistent with the person's culture and lifestyle, inclusive of significant others and social network, realistic time limited and concrete, dynamic and renegotiable, inclusive of follow up

Key elements for every meeting

Get an update, ask about prep work, continue to explore the concern, offer redemptive remedies

Positive signs for when to end a counseling relationship

counselees understand the problem and aer equipped to handle it or in the course of your care for them, another person's care emerges as more effective

Negative signs for when to end a counseling relationship

things don't seem to be changing at all, they aren't interested in working, they don't trust you, they need more help than you can offer

Plan for regular care

public ministries of the word, personal ministries of the word, private ministries of the word

Is grief a process or an event

a process based on the individual

Common ways grief manifests itself

physically, emotionally, socially, intellectually, spiritually

How does grief manifest itself physically

loss of sleep, loss of appetite, stress

how does grief manifest itself emotionally

unexpected burst, numb, cry easily

how does grief manifest itself socially

withdraw, running from one thing to another

how does grief manifest itself intellectually

mind wanders or races, can't think, can't remember

why is it hard to go to church after a loss

anger towards God and a feeling of isolation

what losses could occur during childhood

dependence, innocence, pet

what losses could occur during adolescence

boyfriend, virginity, trust

what losses could occur during adulthood

jobs, health, family members

What are the five stages of grief

denial, bargaining, anger, grief, acceptance

What are some general things to do during grief

listen with the heart, accept them in their present condition, avoid cliches, give practical help

what to say during grief

I'm sorry, how are you doing, what can I do for you

what not to say during grief

I understand how you feel, it was God's will, death was a blessing

six R's of grief

recognize the loss, react to the separation. recollect and re-experience the relationship, relinquish old attachments and assumptions, re-adjust to the new world, re-invest

God's concept of marriage

They are joined together and not to be separated. Wives are to submit to their husbands and husbands are to serve their wives as Christ serves the Church

Aims of premarital counseling

to help the couple prepare for marriage realistically, spiritually, interpersonally

Four steps of resolving conflict

go higher, get real, gently engage, get together

What does it mean to go higher

involve God in the situation- imitate him

What does it mean to get real

own your part of the conflict

What does it mean to gently engage

help others own their part of the conflict

What does it mean to get together

give forgiveness and arrive at a reasonable solution

Galatians 6:1

Brothers and sisters, if someone is overtaken in any wrongdoing, you who are spiritual, restore such a person with a gentle spirit, watching out for yourselves so that you also won't be tempted