Test 1 (PLED 301)

Per, 1 Timothy 3:1-5 and Titus 1:5-7, what is the role of the pastor as a parent?

He is the "husband of one wife."
The leader "rules his own house well.
He has "his children in subjection with all gravity.

[Sibling Order Definition #1]
"Parents do not simply give birth to children and then '______ _______ ___.' The growth and development of children takes place within a complex and changing family ______."

Bring them up; system

[Sibling Order Definition #2]
"Children are not only ____________ by their parents, but they are also ____________ in their own right."

Socialized; socializers

[Sibling Order Definition #3]
"In the development interaction model of family growth, social and psychological development are seen as _________ processes, with each family member having a role in the ____________ of every other."

Lifelong; development

What are the three definitions of sibling order?

"Parents do not simply give birth to children and then 'bring them up.' The growth and development of children takes place within a complex and changing family system."
"Children are not only socialized by their parents, but they are also socializers in their own right."
"In the development interaction model of family growth, social and psychological development are seen as lifelong processes, with each family member having a role in the development of every other."

[Firstborn Characteristic #1]
_________ _____ for parents: parental _______ is on the line, home is _______________, pushed to ____________, be an ___________, be more __________, prevails into _____________.

Guinea pig; identity; apprehensive; achieve; example; mature; adolescence

[Firstborn Characteristic #2]
Have something to ________.

Prove

[Firstborn Characteristic #3]
High ________

Achievers

[Firstborn Characteristic #4]
________ students

Good

[Firstborn Characteristic #5]
Push to become _________

Leaders

[Firstborn Characteristic #6]
Tend to be ______

Loners

[Firstborn Characteristic #7]
Avoid _______, they must ________

Failure; succeed

[Firstborn Characteristic #8]
Strive to _______—if overwhelmed—may totally _____ ___

Please; give up

What are eight characteristics of a firstborn?

Guinea pig for parents: parental identity is on the line, home is apprehensive, pushed to achieve, be an example, be more mature, prevails into adolescence
Have something to prove
High achievers
Good students
Push to become leaders
Tend to be loners
Avoid failure, they must succeed
Strive to please—if overwhelmed—may totally give up

[Second-born Characteristic #1]
Parents are _____, they are more __________, less _________; _______ their own parenting, "I _______ my own child"

Pros; relaxed; demanding; trust; trust

[Second-born Characteristic #2]
Learns from brother's _____________, avoids _______ and _____________.

Mistakes; hassles; confrontation

[Second-born Characteristic #3]
Feelings of "I must ________ with older brother"

Compete

[Second-born Characteristic #4]
Choose other ______ of __________

Areas; expertise

[Second-born Characteristic #5]
Become __________ of older brother

Opposite

[Second-born Characteristic #6]
More ________, ____________, ____________, ___________, ____________—________ players

Relaxed; assertive; sociable; competitive; independent; team

(acronym: racist)

What are the six characteristics of second-born children?

Parents are pros, they are more relaxed, less demanding, trust their own parenting, "I trust my child"
Learns from brother's mistakes; avoids hassles and confrontation
Feelings of "I must compete with older brother"
Choose other areas of expertise
Become opposite of older brother
More relaxed, assertive, sociable, competitive, and independent—team players

[Third-born characteristic #1]
Parents are very ___________, ______________ on older brothers and sisters to _____ ______ of the third born

Relaxed; relying; take care

[Third-born characteristic #2]
Get _______ to do their bidding

Others

[Third-born characteristic #3]
______ _______ than other children.

Talk later

[Third-born characteristic #4]
_____ ______ with more, become experts at ________ ____ older brothers and friends getting into _________

Get away; setting up; trouble

[Third-born characteristic #5]
__________

Manipulative

[Third-born characteristic #6]
Socially _________

Outgoing

[Third-born characteristic #7]
___________ of others, appears at times to be ___________-

Demanding; helpless

[Third-born characteristic #8]
Tend to date ____________ children who enjoy getting _______ for _______ for others

Firstborn; strokes; doing

What are the eight characteristics of third-born children?

Parents are very relaxed, relying on older brothers and sisters to take care of the third born
Get others to do their bidding
Talk later than other children
Get away with more, become experts at setting up older brothers and friends getting into trouble
Manipulative
Socially outgoing
Demanding of others, appears at times to be helpless
Tend to date first born children who enjoy getting strokes for doing for others

[Marriage State of the Union #1]
Americans are now living ________, marrying _________, exiting marriages more __________, and choosing to live _________ before marriage.

Longer; later; quickly; together

[Marriage State of the Union #2]
A small but growing percentage, an estimated ____, will _______ marry, compared to about _____ during the ________

15%; never; 5%; 1950s

What is the marriage state of the union?

Americans are living longer, marrying later, exiting marriages more quickly, and choosing to live together before marriage,
A small but growing percentage, an estimated 15%, will never marry, compared to about five percent during the 1950s.

[Biblical Foundations and Principles for Marriage and the Family #1]
The Bible clearly states that marriage was instituted by _____ __________.

God Himself

[Biblical Foundations and Principles for Marriage and the Family #2]
Recognizing man's need for ______________, God created both _____ and ______ and __________ their _____ from the beginning.

Companionship; male; female; blessed; union

[Biblical Foundations and Principles for Marriage and the Family #3]
Despite the tragic effect of _____ on the _______ ______, marriage is often a touch of ________ on __________.

Sin; human race; heaven; earth

[Biblical Foundations and Principles for Marriage and the Family #4]
In fact, it is an ______________ of our _____________ to _______.

Illustration; relationship; Christ

[Biblical Foundations and Principles for Marriage and the Family #5]
He is pictured as the ________________ and the ___________ is pictured as His _________.

Bridegroom; Church; Bride

What are the biblical foundations and principles for marriage and the family?

The Bible clearly states that marriage was instituted by God Himself. Recognizing man's need for companionship, God created both male and female and blessed their union from the beginning. Despite the tragic effect of sin on the human race, marriage is often a touch of heaven on Earth. In fact, it is an illustration of our relationship to Christ. He is pictured as the Bridegroom and the Church is pictured as His Bride.

[Five Purposes of the Family #1]
The family is God's ______________ for _________ and ___________ how to live with each other; a _____________ _____________ that facilitates the process through which people learn _______ _____ ___________ appropriately and successfully according to the _______ and ____________- of_____ ________ and to ___________ ___________.

Instrument; testing; learning; biblical socialization; how to behave; rules; morals; God's Word; glorify Christ

[Five Purposes of the Family #2]
The family provides the _______ of _________ to the ______, a standard of ____________:
a. ___________
b. ___________
c. ___________
d. ___________ _____________

Basis; communication; world; relationships
Neighbor; mankind; friendship; Christian relationships

[Five Purposes of the Family #3]
Personal _____________, _______________, and _____________

Fulfillment; happiness; development

[Five Purposes of the Family #4]
Living ____________ of how to bring __________ to God.

Illustration; glory

[Five Purposes of the Family #5]
________________ of God's __________ from ___________ to ____________ (large ____________)

Transmission; revelation; generation; generation; families

What are the five purposes of the family?

1. The family is God's instrument for testing and learning how to live with each other; a biblical socialization that facilitates the process through which people learn how to behave appropriately and successfully according to rules and morals of God's Word and to glorify Christ.
2. The family provides the basis of communication to the world; a standard of relationships: Neighbor, Mankind, Friendship, Christian Relationships
3. Personal fulfillment, happiness and development. (Rom. 8:28,29)
4. Living illustration of how to bring glory to God.
5. Transmission of God's revelation from generation to generation (large families).

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #1]
Marriage is __________ by God. (Heb. 13:4)

Blessed

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #2]
God created _________ and ___________. (Gen. 1:27)

Male; female

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #3]
God recognized the ______ for ______________. (Gen. 2:18; Ecc. 4:9-12)

Need; companionship

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #4]
_____ established the _____ _____________. (Gen. 2:21-25)

God; first marriage

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #5]
God _________ for marriage to be _____________. (Matt. 19:4-6)

Intended; permanent

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #6]
____________ of marriage (Mal. 2:14)

Covenant

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #7]
__________ of the covenant (Prov. 2:17)

Violation

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #8]
_______ of the covenant (Matt. 19:6)

Unity

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #9]
_________ of the covenant (Rom. 7:2a)

Legality

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #10]
_____________ of the covenant (Ecc. 9:9)

Commitment

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #11]
_________ begins in _____________ (SS. 8:8b-9)

Fidelity; youth

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #12]
____________ is _________ in marriage and it must be ______________. (Prov. 5:15-18)

Fidelity; pledged; maintained

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #13]
_________ _______________ (Eph. 5:21)

Mutual commtiment

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #14]
_____________: loving _________ (Eph. 5:25, 28; 1 Pet. 3:7)

Husbands; leaders

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #15]
__________: ______________ helpers (Col. 3:18; Tit. 2:4-5)

Wives; submissive

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #16]
___________ (Col. 3:17; 1 Pet. 2:8-10)

Attitude

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #17]
________________ (Prov. 3:5-6)

Commitment

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #18]
_____________ (Prov. 15:16-17)

Devotion

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #21]
_____________ (Col. 3:15)

Peace

[22 Positive and Practical Keys to Marriage and Family Living #22]
_________ (1 Cor. 13:4-8)

Love

What are the 22 (20) positive and practical keys to marriage and family living?

1. Marriage is Blessed by God
2. God Created Male and Female
3. God Recognized Need for Companionship
4. God Established the First Marriage
5. God Intended for Marriage to be Permanent
6. Covenant of Marriage
7. Violation of the Covenant
8. Unity of the Covenant
9. Legality of the Covenant
10. Commitment of the Covenant
11. Fidelity Begins in Youth
12. Fidelity is Pledged in Marriage and it Must be Maintained
13. Mutual Commitment
14. Husbands: Loving Leaders
15. Wives: Submissive Helpers
16. Attitude
17. Commitment
18. Devotion
21. Peace
22. Love

[Dating Defined #1]
A growing __________ between a guy and a girl which honors _______ ________ as each person puts the other's ________ first.

Friendship; Jesus Christ; needs

[Dating Defined #2]
Dating may be defined as _______________ social activities shared by two single persons of the ____________ sex.

Prearranged; opposite

[Dating Defined #3]
Serious dating revolves around the _______________ rather than the __________. Involves an ____________ _______________.

Relationship; event; exclusive commitment

[Dating Defined #4]
Courtship is the __________ of selecting a __________ person and moving toward __________.

Process; specific; marriage

What are the four definitions of dating?

1. A growing friendship between a guy and a girl which honors Jesus Christ as each person puts the other's needs first."
2. "Dating may be defined as prearranged social activities shared by two single persons of the opposite sex."
3. Serious Dating revolves around the relationship rather than the event. Involves an exclusive commitment.
4. Courtship is the process of selecting a specific person and moving toward marriage.

[Prevalence of Dating #1]
Americans are dating ________ but marrying __________.

Earlier; later

[Prevalence of Dating #2]
____ out of 10 teenagers date.

7

[Prevalence of Dating #3]
________ of high school seniors go on a ______ at least once a _______

Half; date; week

[Prevalence of Dating #4]
Teenagers are ______ times more likely to date someone of a different ______ than of a different _________.

Three; faith; race

[Prevalence of Dating #5]
More than _____ of teenagers surveyed would date someone _______ __________ ________.

80%; despite parental objections

[Prevalence of Dating #6]
Teens from ________ ________ date at ________ ages than those from _______ homes.

Broken homes; younger; intact

[Prevalence of Dating #7]
__________ ______ for marriage among women is ______ and for men is ______ (and moving to _________)

Median age; 23.3; 25.7; later

[Prevalence of Dating #8]
Largest source of __________________ for those who marry early is their partner's _______________.

Dissatisfactions; unfaithfulness

What are the 8 descriptors of the prevalence of dating?

1. Americans are dating earlier but marrying later.
2. 7 out of 10 teenagers date.
3. Half of high school seniors go on a date at least once a week.
4. Teenagers are three times more likely to date someone of a different faith than of a different race
5. More than 80% of teenagers surveyed would date someone despite parental objections
6. Teens from broken homes date at younger ages than those from intact homes
7. Median age for marriage among women is 23.3 and for men is 25.7 (and moving to later)
8. Largest source of dissatisfaction for those who marry early is their partner's unfaithfulness.

100 years ago, at what age was puberty and marriage?

16 years old

Now, at what age is puberty and marriage?

Puberty: 11 years old
Marriage: 26-27

[Why date #1]
Have a ______ time (_____ of it)

Good; fun

[Why date #2]
________________ (friends)

Companionship

[Why date #3]
______________ yourself.

Understand

[Why date #4]
Understand __________

Others

[Why date #5]
Discover _____ roles.

Sex

[Why date #6]
Assess life's _________

Values

[Why date #7]
Determine ________

Goals

[Why date #8]
Learn to ________ _____________

Handle problems

[Why date #9]
Learn to make ____________

Decisions

[Why date #10]
Value of ____________

Commitment

[Why date #11]
Develop ____________

Socially

[Why date #12]
To find life ____________

Companion

[Why date #13]
Grow _____________

Spiritually

What are the reasons listed for "Why Date"?

1. Have a Good Time (Fun of It)
2. Companionship (Friends)
3. Understand Yourself
4. Understand Others
5. Discover Sex Roles
6. Assess Life's Values
7. Determine Goals
8. Learn to Handle Problems
9. Learn to Make Decisions
10. Value of Commitment
11. Develop Socially
12. To Find Life Companion
13. Grow Spiritually

[Influences on Dating #1]
Personal ___________ (Dan. 1:8)

Convictions

[Influences on Dating #2]
_________ (1 Cor. 15:33; Prov. 1:10; Ps. 1_

Friends

[Influences on Dating #3]
____ and __________

TV; movies

[Influences on Dating #4]
_________ (2 Cor. 6:14, 17)

Society