Communicating Peace Final Study Guide

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How many components of NVC are there?

4 (Observations, feelings, needs, requests)

___ implies wrongness or badness on the part of the people who don't act in harmony with our values.

Moralistic judgments

Denying that which you are responsible for creates violence

True

Comparing others to the standards of what is important to us can result in negative judgments

True

When we mix observation with evaluation, we ___ the likelihood that the other person will hear our intended message.

decrease

___ your evaluation from what you are observing

seperate

Life-alienating communcation stems and is supported from ___

hierachial societies

To accept responsibility for our choices and actions, replace your thoughts of "I have to" with "I ___ to"

choose

Analysis of others are actually expressions of our own unmet ___

needs

___ occurs when our concern centers on who is what (examples: who is right, who is wrong, who is a hard worker, who is lazy, who is justified, who is irrational)

moralistic judgments

From chapter 9, one of the most dangerous words we can use when discussing our actions, thoughts is ___. It has "...enormous power to create shame and guilt."

should

Is it possible to scream nonviolently?

True

Once you no longer hear what someone says as an attack on you, your relationship will strengthen. To do this, you need to focus on their___

feelings AND needs

Rosenberg recommends that when we feel like we "have to" do something, changing the langauge we use when we think about it from "have to" to "___", helps us recognize the value (to us) in doing it.

choose to

Is it possible for the other person to receive empathy from us if we feel no empathy for them?

False

Generally, NVC suggest that paraphrasing should be offered in ___

question form

"...behind all those messages we've allowed ourselves to be intimidated by are just individuals with unmet ___ appealing to us to contribute to their well-being."

needs

___ occurs only when we have successfully shed all preconceived ideas and judgments about them (the other person)

empathy

Rosenberg advises: "Don't do anything that isn't ___." This ensures that we will make coices motivated by a desire to contribute to life.

play

According to Rosenberg, ___ is the most effective thing you can do with an angry person.

empathizing

Which way of receiving a negative message is likely to result in anger

blaming the speaker

Requests are recieved as ___ when the receiver believes tehy will be blamed if they don't comply.

demands

Others' actions may be the stimulus of our pain, ___ the cause

but never

"I feel that is not agood choice" is a statement of feeling

false

According to Rosenberg, when we receive a negative message from others, how many possible ways can we receive it?

4

___ requests are more likely to produce resistance

negative

The first stage many of us (will) go through us learning to express emotions is ___

emotional slavery

"Judgments of others are alienated expressions of ___."

our own unmet needs

Which way of receiving a negative message is likely to result in shame or guilt?

blame yourself

The primary goal of NVC is to help you get what you want.

false

According to Rosenberg, what causes people to act violently?

ignorance

According to NVC, how many steps are there in expressing anger?

4

Which of the four ways from which we can choose to respond to anger can help us to become conscious that our current hurt derives from a need not being met?

Sense our own feelings and needs

"All ___ is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and consequently those people derserve to be punished."

violence

Rosenberg argues that we sometimes don't have time to go through the NVC process in (potentially) violent situations and we therefore may need to engage in the PUNITIVE use of force.

false

In relation to our anger, other people can be ___

the stimulus but not the cause

NVC says we need to repress our anger

false

According to NVC, what should be the first step in expressing anger?

Stop and do nothing. Breathe.

Which of the four ways from which we can choose to respond to a negative message is likely to lead to anger?

blame the speaker

Rosenberg recommends replacing the thoguht of "I am angry because they..." with "I am angry because ___."

I am needing

In what country did Gandhi begin developing his nonvionent strategies (he was not allowed to travel to first class here)?

South Africa

To whom is this quote attributed: "Be the change you wish to see in the world."

Mohandas Gandhi

Who wrote "A Human Approach to World Peace"?

The 14th Dalai Lama

According to buddhist psychology, most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for: ___

attachment

The premise behind universal responsibility is the simple fact that, in general terms, all others' dersires are ___

the same as mine

According to the Dalai Lama, what is the greatest single danger facing human kind?

nuclear destruction

The Dalai Lama argues that economic development is capable of creating lasting happiness.

false

___ means nonviolence. According to Gandhi, it is "pitting one's whole soul against the tyrant."

Ahimsa

___ means truth

Satya

___ means truth-force

Satyagraha

If we change ourselves, we can change the world and change ourselves begins with changing our ___

methods of comunication

According to Rosenberg, a Buddhist saying that represents the importance of being present when listening empathetically is "Don't just do something, ___."

stand there

When you follow the words "I feel..." with "___", you are stating an opinion, not a feeling

that

When it comes to feelings, a stimulus is not a cause

true

The key ingredient in empathy is ___

presence

To do NVC successfully, one must rely on it's set formula

false

NVC requires us to put others first

false

Which of the four ways from which we can choose to respond to anger can led to guilt, shame, and/or depression?

take it personally by hearing blame and criticism

Perhaps the most important feature of the nonviolent method is its ability to win the sympathy and political support of those who were previously...

uncommited

King first turned down the request to lead the boycott on the bus system.

true

What was the name of the man in the AFMP: Nashville video who helped to train students and other resisters in Gandhian Nonviolent Tactics for the lunch counter sit-ins

James Lawson

What was Martin Luther King Jr. father's occupation?

pastor

According to Deming, property damage can be nonviolent.

true

How many issues should a well-planned nonviolent social movement tackle at one time?

1

Which city did A Force More Powerful focus on in it's Civil Rights Movement video

Nashville

What is the first and last name of the woman who argued that Gandhian methods needed to be more forceful (yet still nonviolent)?

Barbara Deming

King based his teachings and leadership on Gandhi's nonviolent resistance.

true

To whom did King originally write his "Letter From a Birmingham Jail"?

white religious leaders

According to 'Psychology of Peace", what personality type often suffered from abuse?

antisocial

According to 'Psychology of Peace", humans have a natural resistance to killing.

true

Milgram's experiemnts support which psychological reason for violence?

Power of the situation

In the Milgram experiments, what persent of study participants never refused to shock the patient and went onto the full shock level?

65%

What isn't one of the four broad psychological reasons for violence?

dominance tendencies

Who became South Africa's first black president?

Nelson Mandela

In what decade does A Force More Powerful focus on in South Africa?

1980s

How long did it take in between Nazi invasion of Denmark and when the Danish government came fully under German rule?

3 years

What reason did the Danes give for their "go home early" movement?

they needed to tend to their gardens

What forceful nonviolent strategy proved to be the most effective tactic in South Africa?

boycotts

Men and often ______________________ are discouraged form expressing most emotions. One of few exceptions is anger.

people in positions of power

The more we are seen as agents of punishment, the harder it is for others to respond compassionately to our needs.

true

Consoling and educating are part of listening empathetically.

false

The following is a statement of feeling: "I am worthless"

false

Offering possible solutions to a person's problem is part of empathetic listening.

false

Who won the 1989 presidential elections in Poland?

Lech Walesa

Who are the authors of "Why Civil Resistance Works"?

Stephen and Chenoweth

In the Gandhi and Beyond reading, roughly how many strategies to affect social change were listed that are quick, effective, and will last long term?

0

According to Seth Izen's research, what was the single biggest determining factor in whether someone became a "rescuer" of Jewish people and families during the holocaust?

strong family attachment

What was the name of the man that AFMP South Africa focused on as the leader of that nonviolent social movements to end apartheid?

Mkhuseli Jack

The word Islam comes from "salam", which means _____________________________ to God's will.

peace

In A Force More Powerful Nashville, it was reported that boycotts had ___________% participation amongst blacks.

98%

Mohandas Gandhi received a _________________________________________ degree from England.

law

Muslims believe that all of theses people are prophets:

Jesus, Abraham, Moses, and Noah

Deming and others argued that the ____________________ (respect for the person combined with defiance of his policies) is particularly effective.

two hands phenomenon

What was King leading when he was assasinated?

protest against low wages for sanitation workers

What political system was in place in Poland in 1980 (please check your spelling)

communism

According to Robert Putnam (author of the Social Capital reading), what is the one primary reason people are less engaged with one another, politics, society, etc.?

more television

What country controlled India during Gandhi's lifetime?

England

What was the primary request/demand of Solidarity?

More equitable wages

According to the Social Capital reading/lecture, engagement in social groups has declined faster for:

homemakers

According to the "Why Civil Resistance Works" study, between 1900 and 2006, roughly what percent of violent campaigns achieved their policy goals?

26%