PSY SELF & OTHERS MIDTERM

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happiness =

making choices + self control

philip hwang in 2000: “happiness entails…”

“…possessing a healthy balance of both self-esteem and other esteem”

other esteem

involves respect, acceptance, caring, valuing, and promoting others w/o reservation

happiness is considered to be a combination of

life circumstances and a state of mind

self-exploration

being honest w/ yourself and others, get new ways of being, committing to living by your choices — necessary for change

personal growth

a person defines and assesses their own growth in a lifelong process while dealing w/ numerous crises (challenges to change, give life new meaning)

self-actualization

working toward fulfilling our potential, grounded in individualism

individualism

the uniqueness, autonomy, freedom, and intrinsic worth of the individual; emphasizes personal responsibility

collectivism

bases one’s value on preserving and enhancing group’s wellbeing — unity, cooperation, harmony, interdependence, group goal achievement, collective responsibility

emotional intelligence

ability to control impulses, empathize with others, form responsible interpersonal relationships, develop cooperative behaviors & intimate relationships

attachment

emotional bond w/ another who’s perceived as source of security — close relationship

temperament

physiological/biological basis of personality encompassing activity level, sociability, and emotionality

resiliency

ability to adapt to adversity and bounce back from trauma

self-concept

awareness about yoursefl

ego-defense mechanism

psychological strategies we use to protect our self-concept from unpleasant emotions

psychological moratorium

period when society gives adolescents permission to experiment with different roles and values before making major commitments

individuation

separating from our family system and establishing our own identity

one of the most difficult circumstances during adolescence comes from

bullying

autonomy

psychological maturity — accepting responsibility for consequences of your choices

the life script

combines cultural messages, parental teachings, and the early decisions we made as children

injuctions

early messages we incorporate in our lives

the inner parent

attitudes and beliefs we have about ourselves/others bc of things we learned from parents and parent figures

the inner critic

inner voice criticizing us, makes constant judgments about our worth, develops early and absorbs others’ judgment

mindfulness

increased observance and awareness of external+internal stimuli, being in the present, adopting open attitude of acceptance

best-self visualization

seeing your best self in your mind’s eye — maintain’s loving-kindness within yourself

ageism

prejudice toward/stereotyping of people simply bc they’re perceived as being old

ego integrity

feel lives have been productive and worthwhile — coped well with success/failures — accept life as it was, not obsess over what-ifs

wellness

a lifestyle choice and a lifelong process of taking care of our needs

eating well

using food to influence wellbeing + satisfying your senses → pleasure and comfort

sleep deprivation

increased vulnerability to emotional upset and negative consequences of stress

spirituality

encompasses our relationship to the universe; finding meaning and purpose in living

sometimes involves religion

religion

set of beliefs connecting us to a higher power/God — love of God, love neighbor, and love of self

stress

event(s) we see as threatening/challenging leading to strain

eustress

good stress, good challenge to find solutions

distress

negative effects of stress — deplete, fragment, and harm us → exhaustion

stress appraisal

labeling the event as a stressor leading to stress

frustration

result from blocked goal/need

internal conflict

when 2+ incompatible motivations/impulses compete for expression

making choices

fight-or-flight response

bodily alert to combat “enemies” we face every day; attempt to cope with everyday living

hardiness

appetite for challenge, sense of commitment, clearly defined sense of self & purpose, clearly in control

burnout

state of exhaustion characterized by chronic fatigue, weakness, feelings of helplessness and hopelessness

psychophysiological illnesses

caused by combo of psychological, physical, and emotional stressors that compromise immune system

PTSD

anxiety disorder resulting from traumatic event — symptoms of re-experiencing the trauma, avoidance, numbing, hyper-arousal

vicarious traumatization

results from empathetic engagement with people who’ve been through severe traumas like rape and torture

meditation (spirituality)

withdrawing attention from external world & reducing thoughts of future/past to one single thing

self-love

accepting and respecting ourselves despite imperfection — caring about our life, becoming who we want to be

authentic love

enhances us and those we lovei

inauthentic love

has a detrimental effect on those we say we love

impaired givers

people with a high need to take care of others yet can’t make their own needs known

myth about true love

it’s selfless

self-fulfilling prophecy

we make the very thing we fear come true

rejection

one can and will always survive it