Marriage and Family

Why are rates of single adults on the rise?

•More independence

•More opportunities for women

•Increased cohabitation

Discuss the pros and cons of online dating

Pros:

• Wider pool of potential partners

• Can match based on shared interests or values

• Convenient and accessible, especially for busy individuals

• Helps shy people initiate connections more easily

Cons:

• Risk of misrepresentation or dishonesty

• Can lead to superficial judgments (e.g., based on looks)

• Harder to assess real-life chemistry

• May lead to overchoice, making commitment harder

How do we choose partners?

• Based on similarity (values, interests, background)

• Proximity: Being physically or socially close

• Reciprocal liking: We like people who like us

• Physical attraction

• Influenced by attachment style and past experiences

What is Social Exchange Theory?

A theory that explains relationships as a cost-benefit analysis.

What is homogamy?

Homogamy is the tendency to choose a partner with similar characteristics, such as age, education, religion, values, or background

What are the downsides of cohabitation?

• May lead to less commitment if partners slide into living together without clear intentions

• Can increase risk of relationship instability or breakup

• Possible conflict over expectations or finances

• Some research links it to lower marital satisfaction

Understand the difference between sliding and deciding

• Sliding: Moving into relationship milestones without clear discussion or intention.

• Deciding: Making intentional, thoughtful choices about relationship steps based on shared goals and values.

Why is conflict common in early marriage?

• Couples are still adjusting to new roles and responsibilities.

• Differences in values, habits, and expectations often emerge.

• Communication styles may clash as partners learn to navigate disagreements.

• Financial stress, career decisions, and other external pressures can increase tension.

What are the benefits of conflict in early marriage?

• Helps couples learn communication and problem-solving skills

• Encourages understanding of each other’s needs and differences

• Builds a stronger foundation through negotiation and compromise

• Can increase emotional intimacy when resolved in healthy ways